A submissives journey,
Topic Index
index to postings and pages
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Asj's Online Chat Room Rules & Protocols
The Articles listed below are available to Members and Non-Members
There are so many things to read, so many resources available to you. Don't limit yourself to just the articles in this section, be sure to look at the articles listed in the section "for those in the lifestyle" at the lower portion of this page. As your time permits, you'll find there are a great many resources available to you on this website as well as others. As you visit these pages, you'll find additional links to other pages here on the site.
CJ
About Humiliation - All about the technique of humiliation and how to use it correctly to avoid harming the sub/slave.
The Acid Test ~ Finding a Real Dominant vs. a Wannabe.. ~ warning signs to help spot those wannabe's from the real deal and the different types of wannabe's you might encounter on your search for the One
The Basics of SSC Power Exchange
Bottom Topping, or Topping from the Bottom - What is it, why do sub/slaves do this and how to try to prevent it (see class notes from October 21st 2009)
A committment to myself - a short poem about being true to oneself
Advice for the submissive some helpful rules and hints for those sub/slaves new to the lifestyle if you read nothing else, read this!
A Dominants view - A Dom's overview of the fundamentals of the D/s lifestyle
A New Submissives Guide to Subspace - information on what subspace is and the different levels many subs/slaves may experience.
A New Submissives Guide to her Rights as a Submissive - what rights a sub/slave has and the reasons behind why sub/slaves have them.
A submissives Bill of Rights - The rights subs/slaves have even thought they submit
A submissives creed (transcript of from chat log)
Accepting Collars to soon, A true story about
Attracting and Keeping a Partner
Balancing Depression and Submission
BDMS Relationships: The Responsible Submissive
Breast Cancer Self Exam - from our chat room message board
Call No Man Master - Reconciling religion with M/s relationships
Christmas Gifts for your Dominant
Dealing with Depression ~ What do you do if you're depressed and in a BDSM or Dominant/submissive relationship?
Dealing with your Anger as a submissive
The Distinct Phases of Stripping Away to Total Submission
Doing it the Hard Way (Long Distance)
Domestic Violence in the SM Community (BDSM D/s)
Domestic Violence Support Telephone Numbers
Dominanceand submission
TheDominant Submissive Relationship:
(5Steps for Transitioning to a 24/7 Live-in Relationship)
APower Exchange Relationship
Do You Have a Dominant Partner?
Do You Have a Dominant Partner? (2)
Finding a Compatible Partner in the Lifestyle
Finding the Right submissive / slave Collar
First Time for Everything: Getting Spanked
Three Essays on Finding a Dominant
The First Meeting (From virtual to real time)
Have you asked your Dominant,, ?
Help! My Spouse is into Erotic Power Exchange
How D/s Can Help a Marriage Outside of the Bedroom
How to:
I am a Submissive Woman (article 1)
I am a submissive woman (article 2)
I am a submissive woman (article 3
Kneeling...a few tips from the girls
Knowing Ourselves, Finding Our One
The Mythology of Consensual Slavery
Protocol, Etiquette and Ritual
The Realities of Online submission
Reclaiming the Feminine Mystique
Responsibilities of a submissive
Safe Calls, More on the subject
Safe Surfing - a story for children, yes, even those children over 21
Safewords - To Red or Not to Red
Safeword - What is, and how to use one
7 things you can do to improve your submission today
Some thoughts for those seeking to know their submission
A submissive Dealing with a Dominant's Anger
Temporary Consensual Agreement
Ten Things femsubs do to Mess Up Their Lives
Ten Tips for the Novice, Single, Heterosexual, Submissive Woman
Things to know about approaching a Dominant
Tips on Being a Good Submissive
Types of Power Exchange Relationships
Was That Dominant Or Was That Rude?
Weekly Class/Discussion Topic Notes/Logs: (Index)
What Makes a Great Dominant Partner for a submissive
Why Do Strong Women Like to be Dominated?
Writing a Kinky Relationship Into Being
Asj's Recommended journal website
Advice for the Novice Dominant
Available submissive/slave register listing
Blue balls (congested prostate or vasocongestion)
Brat Out of Control (or How to Spank a Brat)
Condoms and Sexually Transmitted Diseases
Discipline and Punishment in Dominant / submissive Relationships
Dominant by Day, submissive by Night
Dominant Types and their sub Counterparts
Discipline Versus Punishment in the D/s World
Ignoring as a Form of Punishment
Important Questions a Dominant Needs to Ask His Submissive
How Can I Develop a More Dominant Personality?
How to
BDSM How to Dominate a submissive; Eve When You are a New Dominant
Guide to Steel Bondage (handcuffs)
Introduction to Erotic Flogging
A Masters Feast - Formal D/s Banquet
Projects, structure and protocol: three mechanisms for 24/7 d/s
Online D/s Relationships: How to Start a Relationship with that Perfect submissive
Punishment and Conflict within a D/s Relationship
Punishment: Is It Part of the Package?
Punishment ~ Must it Always be so Physical?
Qualities of a successful Dominant
Reactance in the Process of Internal Enslavement
Register as a Dom in Asj's Registry
Requirements for Your Slave or Submissive
Responsibilities of a Dominant
The Seven Principles of Mastery
The 10 Commandments of a Lady's Pleasure
Things to Know About Training a Slave
Training a submissive: Drawing up a Contract
The Training of a Consensual Slave
Training of a Consensual Slave or Submissive Sex Slave
What to do When the "New" Wears Off
What to Look for Finding a submissive
When A Dominant submissive Relationship Ends
When A Submissive Is No Longer Able To Serve
Yes Virginia, The Penis Does Have a Role
Action! Erotic Flicks You'll Both Like
A submissive is not a slave ~ more on the discussion on the differences between the two.
A Whole Different World......24/7
Anger ~ (Extracts from a girls journal)
An Essay About the Old Days (Jay Wiseman)
Asj's Chat Room Rules and Protocols (Lobby)
Asj's Recommended Reading List
Baby Oil Versus KY Warming Lubricant
Beginners Guide To Dominance and submission
Birth Control Methods, the effectiveness of
BDSM and Feminism: An Insider's View
BDSM, a how to
Adding BDSM to a Vanilla Relationship
Aging and your BDSM Relationship
BDSM Checklist for submissives
BDSM Checklist, how to use (transcript of chat log)
BDSM Financial (Money) PlayBDSM Gag Safety Tips: Safe, Sane, Consensual
BDSM How To: Dinner and a Movie Play
BDSM How To: Interrogation Scene
BDSM How To: Night Security Guard Scene
BDSM How To: Plan a Schoolgirl Scene
BDSM Mummification: Saran Wrap
BDSM Play Party Rules and Etiquitte
BDSM Techniques - Hot Wax Play
Dealing With Depression in a D/s Relationship
Domestic violence in the BDSM community
Ethics in Bondage, Discipline and Sado-Masochism
Figging: The Art of Ginger Root Play
How to explain BDSM to a Vanilla partner or friend
Help your Dominant Recover from Play
The Pain Threshold and Endorphins or, "No Pain, No Gain"
Play Party, Rules and Expectations
Safety: Hard Limits, Soft Limits
Strict versus Sensual - Self Bondage
Techniques of Striking Sensation (vol 1- Under the Lash)
Techniques of Striking Sensation (vol 2 - Single Tails ~ whips)
Ten Tips for Novice Dungeon Monitors (Jay Wiseman)
The Medical Realities of Breath Control Play (Jay Wiseman)
The Stages of Release ~ Ending a D/s / BDSM Relationship
BDSM - Forced Submission Versus Consensual Submission
BDSM Relationships: Dominance and submission
BDSM: Signs it May be Time to Leave the Lifestyle
BDSM submissive vs. slave: Is there a difference?
Book Reviews (D/s, M/s, BDSM & Poly) (Index)
Building a portable massage table
Can A Dominant or submissive be Made?
Christianity, Religion and the BDSM & D/s Lifestyle
Collars, The Consideration Collar
Contracts ~ Do I really need a contract?
Control Dramas in the Lifestyle
Dealing with Disabilities in a BDSM Relationship
Defining Absolute and Total Power Exchange
Defining Abuse in Absolute and Total Power Exchange
Defining Dominance and submission ~ types of relationships
Discussion of Dominance and submission
Does D/s interfere with communication?
Domestic Abuse/Violence Help Resources
Dominance and submission: A Dom's Point of View
Dominant / submissive relationship contract
Embarrassment, Humiliation and Degradation
Establishing Limits: Going Full Circle
Experiencing Subspace and Subdrop Safely
Exploring the Phenomenon of Strong Female Submissives
Part
1: Can't I Just Wear My Flannel Shirt? Why Fetish Wear is De Rigeur
Part
2: Developing a Fetish Wardrobe on a Budget
Part
3: Accessorizing for Pain & Pleasure
First Steps in Sensory Deprivation
From the Archives of Castle Realm
From virtual to real time, the first meeting
He said, she said; PMS and being a slave
Historical Origins of BDSM, The
Honor and TrustHonorifics, Titles and Respect
How to enhance the Dominant or submissive traits of a vanilla partner
How (Some) Poly People Meet Each Other
How Stress Can Affect Your Sex Life
How to use medical information on the internet
Humiliation - things considered as humiliating
Ideas About Home Made Toys (Adult Toys)
Intimate Partner Violence (IPV)
Introducing your Partner to D/s
Inventive BDSM Christmas Ideas
Is BDSM Deviant Sexual Behavior?
Is everyone either a top or a bottom?
What's a switch?Is What I See On The Net Real?
Japanese Rope Bondage (Shibari)
The kids - Daddy, what are you doing to mommy?
Jealousy in a Poly D/s Relationship
Let's Give Online D/s Some Credit for Reality
Limitations and Personal Growth
Living D/s with children in the home
Living the Lifestyle within Reality: Part 1
Lubricant's - A Beginners Guide to
A Modern Application of Old Guard Philosophy
More on the G-Spot and Female Ejaculation
Orgasm Control/Release Training
Orgasm Denial - Erotic Sexual Denial
The Pleasure of the Pain: Why some people need S&M
Polyamory - Asj's Community Message Board, a thread on the subject of Polyamory
Polygamy - The Ultimate Feminist Lifestyle
Progression of a D/s Relationship
Psychological Dimensions of Masochistic Surrender
Reducing the Risks of Meeting an Online Acquaintance
Religion, the Bible and the Dominant submissive (D/s) Lifestyle
Resource Listing - r/t BDSM activities & organizations USA wide
Service-Oriented Collar (Relationship)
The Seven Common Types of Internet Submissives
slave vs. submissive, an opinion
Submissive Jealousy Within a BDSM Relationship
The submissives as a People Pleaser
Submissive vs. Slave ~ Why are we still debating?
The Pleasure of Pain - Why some people need S&M
Thoughts on a D/s Relationship
The Ten Commandments of a Gentleman's Pleasure
Twas the Night Before Christmas - BDSM
Twelve Days of Christmas - BDSM Style
S&M For BeginnersWarning Sounded on Genital Piercings
(by Master Aegean)What is a D/s relationship? (by Rover)
What is and what makes a D/s relationship?
What is your Ideal Body Weight
Why Being Poly Is More Natural Than We Give it Credit ForWhy I am Poly and I am not Monogamous
Writings, D/s and BDSM
Submissive Really Does Not Mean
Your Kink - My Kink
D/s, BDSM Erotic Writings and Prose
Index of erotic writings and prose (note: some of these articles may have strong sexual content. They are fictitious in nature and as such, may not represent a realistic view of the BDSM or D/s Lifestyle. Additional content may be found in the members only section of the Asj web site)
D/s Lifestyle Within a Spiritual Overtone or Context
The Meaning of Submission (A Study of Ephesians 5:22)
Why Being A Submissive Wife is Hot
Wifely Submission in a Marriage is God's Plan
Women’s Liberation Through Submission: An Evangelical Anti-Feminism Is Born
The Gorean Lifestyle
Why Would a Girl Want to be a Gorean Slave
External Links
(Note: These links are not a part of the Asj Communities. Clicking on these links will lead you away from the Asj Web site)
This section is dedicated to our members, sharing their own personal thoughts and ideas on the discussion topics and references shown here on A submissives journey. Like anything else in this lifestyle, we are all entitled to our opinions and views. These thoughts do not necessarily represent the views of CJ or this community.
~ littledove shares her thoughts
~ anonymous - Spanking - the First Time
Important Links:
Each of these sites offers valuable information, advice or references. They are not affiliated with the Asj website or communities, however, at least from My experience, they're worth at least visiting!
Sexual Freedom Legal Defense and Education Fund, Inc.
Association of Sites Advocating Child Protection
Connect Safely ~ Smart Socializing Forum
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