A New Submissive's Guide to Subspace
This article will discuss subspace. Yes,
newbie sub, there is such a thing as subspace and no; you are not
deficient because you have never experienced it. Some newbies are
frightened of this state of mind as well, because it truly signals
complete handover of control. It is not to be feared
and I will show you why. It is a spiritual experience for many and one
that becomes easier and easier to reach as your level of experience
grows.
Subspace happens especially in two different situations. There is the
first scenario where a submissive is being harmed while a dominant is
playing with him or her. Instead of crying out a safe word, the
submissive starts to disassociate. This means that the submissive steps
out of his or her body and shuts out the experience as his or body
fights the hurt with hormones and endorphins kicking in. This is not the
type of subspace that I was telling you is a lot of fun.
The other scenario is when a scene is going really well. The submissive
is enjoying each stroke or each slap and the mind releases. The
submissive starts to fly. The body meanwhile releases epinephrine from
the suprarenal glands, as well as a dump of endorphins and enkephalins.
These chemicals are part of the fight-or-flight response and numb the
pain a submissive feels. It feels like a trip apparently. I only report
this as some girls and guys have told me that. I have no experience of
trips myself.
Now there are different levels to subspace and different dominants call
it different things. The first is SAM space. Remember me explaining SAM
or smart assed masochist? Well, in this phase some submissives start to
goad a dominant or say things that others may laugh at during the scene
without realizing that they are doing so. It is very cute and is most
often accompanied by giggles and snorts of derision. During this level
the submissive should still be able to safe word. It is a good idea to
monitor the submissive though to see if this holds true.
The next level is sometimes called "blond
space". This level of subspace is probably the first one I experience. I
forget commands, look spacey, do not respond to anything I am told; I
drop things (therefore the ball that drops for a safe word will not and
has never worked with me). I do not
speak . I can't. I giggle a lot and sometimes I will cry. If asked if
anything is bothering me, I would not be able to say, as I really would
not know. Sometimes I even babble in a language only I understand. I
could not use a safe word here, even if I tried. I need to know that the
dominant will look after me well.
The level where subspace peaks for me comes after. The most satisfying
level is when I become a base creature, only experiencing the physical
pleasure. I will moan and grunt and be completely out of it. I will have
several orgasms, sometimes without touch and I will be hypersensitive to
most stimulation. My dominant does not even have to touch me to rock my
world, just coming close to me does the same thing. This level can last
for quite some time and I have been there for an hour at the most.
After this, the body drops from the high and suddenly I will start to
feel cold and incoherent, but starting to talk in little bits and
pieces. I normally find that I am extremely thirsty as well. This is
when after care starts in all earnest. Now a submissive needs to be
wrapped up in a warm blanket, given something to drink, something sweet
to eat and a couch on which to fall asleep. All I want to do after a
scene is sleep. I could easily sleep for two hours after and wake up
feeling refreshed and happy.
Subspace is a warm and fuzzy place if you are safe with your dominant.
You will find that once you experience it, the longing to experience it
again will be something you will have to control.
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