will discuss subspace. Yes, newbie sub, there
is such a thing as subspace and no; you are
not deficient because you have never
experienced it. Some newbies are frightened of
this state of mind as well, because it truly
signals complete handover of control. It is
not to be feared and I will show you why. It
is a spiritual experience for many and one
that becomes easier and easier to reach as
your level of experience grows.
Subspace happens especially in two different
situations. There is the first scenario where
a submissive is being harmed while a dominant
is playing with him or her. Instead of crying
out a safe word, the submissive starts to
disassociate. This means that the submissive
steps out of his or her body and shuts out the
experience as his or body fights the hurt with
hormones and endorphins kicking in. This is
not the type of subspace that I was telling
you is a lot of fun.
scenario is when a scene is going really well.
The submissive is enjoying each stroke or each
slap and the mind releases. The submissive
starts to fly. The body meanwhile releases
epinephrine from the suprarenal glands, as
well as a dump of endorphins and enkephalins.
These chemicals are part of the
fight-or-flight response and numb the pain a
submissive feels. It feels like a trip
apparently. I only report this as some girls
and guys have told me that. I have no
experience of trips myself.
are different levels to subspace and different
dominants call it different things. The first
is SAM space. Remember me explaining SAM or
smart assed masochist? Well, in this phase
some submissives start to goad a dominant or
say things that others may laugh at during the
scene without realizing that they are doing
so. It is very cute and is most often
accompanied by giggles and snorts of derision.
During this level the submissive should still
be able to safe word. It is a good idea to
monitor the submissive though to see if this
level is sometimes called "blond space". This
level of subspace is probably the first one I
experience. I forget commands, look spacey, do
not respond to anything I am told; I drop
things (therefore the ball that drops for a
safe word will not and has never worked with
me). I do not speak . I can't. I giggle a lot
and sometimes I will cry. If asked if anything
is bothering me, I would not be able to say,
as I really would not know. Sometimes I even
babble in a language only I understand. I
could not use a safe word here, even if I
tried. I need to know that the dominant will
look after me well.
The level where
subspace peaks for me comes after. The most
satisfying level is when I become a base
creature, only experiencing the physical
pleasure. I will moan and grunt and be
completely out of it. I will have several
orgasms, sometimes without touch and I will be
hypersensitive to most stimulation. My
dominant does not even have to touch me to
rock my world, just coming close to me does
the same thing. This level can last for quite
some time and I have been there for an hour at
After this, the body drops
from the high and suddenly I will start to
feel cold and incoherent, but starting to talk
in little bits and pieces. I normally find
that I am extremely thirsty as well. This is
when after care starts in all earnest. Now a
submissive needs to be wrapped up in a warm
blanket, given something to drink, something
sweet to eat and a couch on which to fall
asleep. All I want to do after a scene is
sleep. I could easily sleep for two hours
after and wake up feeling refreshed and happy.
Subspace is a warm and fuzzy place if
you are safe with your dominant. You will find
that once you experience it, the longing to
experience it again will be something you will
have to control.
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