A submissives journey

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Chapter 1
The Asj Community

Chapter 2
Resource Information 



Chapter 3
Subbie's Couch


Chapter 4
The Dom's Lounge

Chapter 5

 The Library




Chapter 6



Chapter 7

 Useful Links




Chapter 8
Members share their thoughts



Chapter 9

 Members Only




Chapter 10
Asj's Site Index



Chapter 11
Asj's Online Store




Chapter 12
Recommended Reading List








Rules for a submissive

A BDSM or Dominant submissive (D/s) relationship is an intensely personal  experience. You'll no doubt see many lists  of rules and requirements for submissives. There are some who do follow these rules,  and find fulfillment in that role. That's great  for them, and maybe for you too... but  maybe not.


You and the Dominant you choose to serve will in all probability have a very unique relationship.  A Dominant submissive relationship that is tailored to match your needs and desires with His. 


Having a set of generic one size fits all rules won't insure that your needs as a submissive are met, nor will it guarantee compliance with His wishes and desires.  As you begin the process of communication with your Dominant, He's almost certain to start making you aware of his standards, expectations and desires.  He'll also start to become aware of your needs.  Based on these things as well as others, your Dominant will begin to formulate His particular list of rules for a submissive that are applicable to you and you alone. 


If you  jointly agree to follow a set of generic rules prepared by  others, that's your own decision, but bear  in mind, there is no one right way except  the one you find for yourself. 


There are a few specific submissive rules that are pretty much applicable to any submissive, especially a novice.  When you find that one special Dominant in all probability, He will be expecting you to have been adhering to these  guidelines, or rules for a submissive.  These submissive rules  can be found on our web page entitled "Some Rules for the submissive" another page you may find related to rules for the submissives is our page entitled Do's and Don'ts for the submissive. (click on the title to follow the link)




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The meaning of submission             submissive - slave registry

A submissives creed                     submissives Do's and Don'ts

Responsibilities of a submissive     Finding your Dominant  

Questions for your Dominant        Safety in the lifestyle  

A submissives journal                        Asj Chat Rooms

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