A submissives journey

Chapter 1
The Asj Community

Chapter 2
Resource Information

Chapter 3
The Subbie's Couch

Chapter 4
The Dom's Lounge

Chapter 5

The Library

Chapter 6
BDSM

Chapter 7

Useful Links

Chapter 8
Members share their thoughts

Chapter 9

Members Only

Chapter 10
Asj's Site Index

Chapter 11
Asj's Book Store

Chapter 12
Recommended Reading List

More on Safe Calls

Note: These suggestions may seem to be bordering on paranoia, but it doesn't cost anything to be cautious. Don't take chances when your mental, physical, and emotional health could be at risk. Do what's right for you, but consider these (or similar) suggestions very seriously before agreeing to meet someone for BDSM activity.

Any Dom/me or sub who is reputable and trustworthy should have no problems with these or similar procedures, and if they do, perhaps that should be a warning signal that they are not what they appear to be.

The following information should be given to the person(s) receiving

your safe calls:

Your full name
Your home address and phone number
Make, model, color, and license plate number of your car if you are driving yourself, or
Detailed information (flight numbers and times, rental car information, etc.) if you are using other transportation

ALL the information you have on person you are meeting, including:

Their full name and screenname(s) or logon ID(s)
Their address and phone number(s)
Their age, description, any and ALL information you have on the person you are meeting.

Pass on to your safe call person(s):

Where you are meeting
The name of place you are meeting
The address of the meeting place, including room number (if applicable) and phone number (if you do not have it ahead of time, give it during first phone call)
When you are meeting - time and date
The phone number for the local POLICE in the town you are meeting

Be sure to have agreed and understood code words for your safe call, one indicating that everything is ok, and one indicating that you need help.

The first phone call should be made within 15 minutes of the established meeting time.
The second phone call should be made within 30 minutes after the first.
The third phone call should be made within 2 hours after that or before leaving the place of the meeting, whichever comes first.
The fourth phone call should be made within 30 minutes of leaving the meeting.

Note: If the meeting lasts longer than 3 hours, phone calls should be

made no less than every 2 hours apart until you part company... then

proceed with the procedure for the departing call and the last call.

(Author Unknown)

Online Safety

Safe Surfing - A story for Children (yes, even those over 21)

Alcohol, Drugs and BDSM play

The First Meeting

Domestic violence in the BDSM community

Why is Bondage Fun?

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