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They're long overdue, but changes to this page are coming!  In total, there are over 500 pages on the Asj website, with more being added at least weekly.  Since the inception of this website, the list of articles and pages has grown and continues to grow.  The subjects relating to the Dominant/submissive (D/s) lifestyle are numerous, far more than can be listed here.  This page has become rather cumbersome and difficult to use.  I'm working on a change to the format of this page.  I  hope the changes you'll see will resolve some of these issues, including the length of time it takes to load this page, especially for our telephone modem users. 

I'm still working trying to develop a better search tool for use on this website, however, in the interim until I  find a better one, I've found this to be fairly useful..  Simply enter a keyword or phrase, the applet  then searches all of the pages within "A submissives journey" to find pages with the word(s) matching your entries.  The titles of those pages are then listed in the lower box.  Double clicking  on any of these page titles will take you to to that page.  Clicking "back" on your browser will bring you back to the search tool to continue your search.  I hope you find this search tool helpful.  If you haven't guessed, there are a lot of pages here on the site, not listed on this page that can only be accessed from other pages on the site.

For those of you of Gorean influence, I invite you visit our Gorean site http://www.iamgor.com

   


Asj's Community Topics

  1. Asj's Community Pages
  2. Especially for submissives
  3. Of Interest to Dom's
  4. For those in the lifestyle
  5. Asj's Sharing your thoughts
  6. Asj's Online Chat Room and Members Only area
  7. Post your personal profile on the Asj site
  8. The Gorean Lifestyle

A submissives journey - Community Pages

[ These pages are generally pages or links about the Asj site, or to other Asj communities and sites.]

Asj's Home Page                          Asj's subbies couch

Asj's Site Map                              Asj's Dom's Lounge

About the Asj Web Site                Asj's Feedback (tell us what you think)

Our Sponsor's Page                     Asj's Web Links

Asj's Message Board Topics       Asj's Community Awards

What's new on Asj?                     Suggested Reading

Asj Members Only area               Asj Lifestyle Book Reviews

Asj's Online Chat room                Gor ~ The Gor Lifestyle

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Especially for submissives

There are so many things to read, so many resources available to you.  Don't limit yourself to just the articles in this section, be sure to look at the articles listed in the section "for those in the lifestyle" at the lower portion of this page.  As your time permits, you'll find there are a great many resources available to you on this website as well as others.  As you visit these pages, you'll find additional links to other pages here on the site.

                                                            CJ

About Humiliation

The Acid Test ~ Finding a Real Dominant vs. a Wannabe..

Bottom Topping, or Topping from the Bottom

A committment to myself

Advice for the submissive   (A must read if you are new online!)

A Dominants view

A submissives creed

A submissives creed (transcript of from chat log)

A submissives prayer

A submissives rule

Accepting Collars to soon, A true story about

Am i being abused?

Breast Cancer Self Exam - from our chat room message board

Common Mistakes People Make

Dealing with emotions

Dealing with your Anger as a submissive

The Distinct Phases of Stripping Away to Total Submission

Domestic Violence in the SM Community (BDSM D/s)

Domestic Violence Support Telephone Numbers

Dominance and submission ~ A Power Exchange Relationship

Dominant vs. Mentor

A submissives Do's and Don'ts

Dumped by your Dom

The Essence of submission

Eye to Eye

Finding the perfect Dominant

Finding your Dom

A First View on D/s

On Finding a Dom

Finding your way

The First Meeting (From virtual to real time)

Have you asked your Dominant,, ?

How to:

             Breast Bondage

             Electrical Play

             Performing Fellatio

             Use Clothespins

             Wax Play 

I am a submissive woman

The Invisible submissive

Kneeling...a few tips from the girls

Letters from your sisters

Lifestyle Myths

Mammograms

Married Dom seeks submissive

The Meaning of submission

Nipple Clamps

On Being "In Service"

One Bad Decision

Online Dangers

Online Protocols

Online Red flags

Overcoming Negativity

Piercings - Healing and Care

Questions for your Dom

Rape ~ defending yourself

Responsibilities of a submissive

Rules for the submissive

Safe Calls

Safe Calls, More on the subject

         Safe Call Network

Safe First Meetings

Safe Surfing - a story for children, yes, even those children over 21

Safewords - To Red or Not to Red

Safeword - What is, and how to use one

Self Esteem

Shaving, A how to

Some thoughts for those seeking to know their submission

So you want to be a slave?

Starting Down The Road

sub/slave register

A submissive Dealing with a Dominant's Anger

submission as a gift

submissive rebound

A submissive/slaves role

Temporary Consensual Agreement

Ten Things femsubs do to Mess Up Their Lives

Ten rules for submissives

Ten tips for the novice

The Collar

The gift

The Power of Submission

The subbie's couch

Things to know about approaching a Dominant

Total Power Exchange (TPE)

Was That Dominant Or Was That Rude?

What a Master should be

What makes a good Dominant?

What slaves need

Why the hurry?

Who You Become

Words of a Master

your journal

your Dominant's Owners Manual

Asj's Recommended journal website

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Of interest to Dom's

Advice for the Novice Dominant

Available submissive/slave register listing

A Good Spanking

The Awakening

The Basics of Flogging

BDSM Guide for Nice Guys

Brat Out of Control (or How to Spank a Brat)

Condoms and Sexually Transmitted Diseases

Discipline

Discipline - Punishment

Dominant by Day, submissive by Night

Dominant Types and their sub Counterparts

Dom's Prayer, The

Duties of a Dominant

Entering a D/s relationship

Fisting Made Easy

The G-Spot, Fact or Fiction

If You Want a slave

Ignoring as a Form of Punishment

Learning the Ropes

The Dom's Creed

The Dom's Lounge

The Falconer

How to

           Breath Control

           Guide to Sensuous Caning

           Guide to Steel Bondage (handcuffs)

           Humiliation 

           Introduction to Erotic Flogging

A Master's Aw Shit!

A Masters Feast - Formal D/s Banquet

Overcoming Negative Emotions

A Pledge to My submissive

Projects, structure and protocol: three mechanisms for 24/7 d/s

Punishment

The Master's Pain

Master, A Cooperative Art

Master vs. Dom

P.M.S. and the submissive

Punishment and Conflict within a D/s Relationship

Punishment: Is It Part of the Package?

Qualities of a successful Dominant

Register as a Dom in Asj's Registry

Selecting the right girl

Simplicity

Slave Training 101

So you want to be an owner

Ten Rules for Dominants

The Bonsai Theory

The illusion of control

The Process of Selection

The Three Legged Stool

Thoughts on submission

Training Theory

When A Master Speaks

What is a Dominant

What a Master/Dom should be

When A Submissive Is No Longer Able To Serve

Why Am I a Master

Why Spanking?

 
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For those in the lifestyle

A bit about pain

A bit about rope

A submissive is not a slave ~ more on the discussion on the differences between the two.

About your Mentor

Aftercare

Aftercare, What is

Anal Penetration

Anal Play

Anal Sex

Anger ~ (Extracts from a girls journal)

An Essay About the Old Days (Jay Wiseman)

Art of Oral Sex, The

Asj's Bookstore

Asj's Library

Asj's Recommended Reading List

Beginners Guide To Dominance and submission

Birth Control Methods, the effectiveness of

BDSM and Feminism: An Insider's View

BDSM, a how to

             Alcohol, Drugs and BDSM play

             Basic Scene Safety Tips 

             Basic Spanking Guidelines

             BDSM Communication

             Bondage Guide

             The emblem, what does it mean

             So, what is B.D.S.M.?

            The BDSM Lifestyle

             BDSM Checklist for submissives

             BDSM Checklist, how to use (transcript of chat log)

             BDSM How To: Interrogation Scene 

             BDSM How To: Plan a Schoolgirl Scene 

             BDSM ~ my kink, your kink

             BDSM - Play Safe 

             BDSM Toys and projects

             Chastity Belts

             Creative BDSM Toys 

             Dangers of Ice Play

             Domestic violence in the BDSM community

             Ethics in Bondage, Discipline and Sado-Masochism

             Facts about BDSM 

             Finding a BDSM Partner

             Flogging, an Introduction to

             How to explain BDSM to a Vanilla partner or friend 

             Hurt vs. Harm

             Is It Worth It? 

              Nipple Play 

             Nipple Torture with Clamps

             Online BDSM 

             Rope, The Most Versatile Toy 

            Self Bondage

            Strict versus Sensual - Self Bondage 

            Techniques of Striking Sensation (vol 1- Under the Lash)

            Techniques of Striking Sensation (vol 2 - Single Tails ~ whips)

            The Medical Realities of Breath Control Play (Jay Wiseman)

            The Stages of Release ~ Ending a D/s / BDSM Relationship 

            The Ten Sins of D/s and BDSM 

             What is BDSM

             Why is Bondage Fun?

BDSM and a Vanilla Partner

BDSM Relationships: Dominance and submission

Building a portable massage table

Can D/s Survive Marriage

Canes, On making

Christianity, Religion and the BDSM & D/s Lifestyle

Cleaning your sex toys

Clips and Clamps

Collars

Coming out into S&M

Communication

Consensual Slavery

Creative BDSM Toys

Defining Absolute and Total Power Exchange

Defining Abuse in Absolute and Total Power Exchange

Defining Dominance and submission ~ types of relationships

Did you ask permission?

Discussion of Dominance and submission

Does D/s interfere with communication?

Domestic Abuse/Violence Help Resources

Dominance and submission: A Dom's Point of View

Dominants Council

Doms Are Infallible

Dom/sub Down Time

D/s Medical advice

Enclave

Exploring the Phenomenon of Strong Female Submissives

The Facts About Aphrodisiacs

Fellatio and the submissive

Finding a kinky lover

Flogging

Formal Collar (Slave Collar)

From virtual to real time, the first meeting

Golden Showers (Watersports)

Gor - The lowdown

Handling your anger

The Healthy submissive

History of Spanking

How to enhance the Dominant or submissive traits of a vanilla partner

How to tell your children

How (Some) Poly People Meet Each Other

How to use medical information on the internet

Humiliation - things considered as humiliating

  Ideas About Home Made Toys (Adult Toys)

Introducing your Partner to D/s

Is everyone either a top or a bottom?   What's a switch?

Is What I See On The Net Real?

The kids - Daddy, what are you doing to mommy?

Kink Aware Professionals

Knights vs. Gods

Jealousy

Jealousy in a Poly D/s Relationship

Lifestyle Resources

Living D/s with children in the home

Living the D/s Lifestyle

Living the Lifestyle within Reality: Part 1

Lubricant's - A Beginners Guide to

Online Predators

A Master and His sub/slave

The Mindset of Safety

A Modern Application of Old Guard Philosophy

Munch Do's and Don'ts

Munch FAQ's

Munch - What is a munch?

An Oath to You my Master

Offline Honesty

Old Guard

Old Guard?  If you say so

Old Guard - New Guard

Online Safety

Online vs Real Life D/s

Oral Sex and Throat Cancer?

Orgasm Control/Release Training

Orgasm Denial - Erotic Sexual Denial

O/our thoughts on a collar

Polyamory

Polyamory - Asj's Community Message Board, a thread on the subject of Polyamory

Polygamy

Power Exchange

Reducing the Risks of Meeting an Online Acquaintance

Religion, the Bible and the Dominant submissive (D/s) Lifestyle 

Resource Listing - r/t BDSM activities & organizations USA wide

Rituals

Safer Sex

Sensuous Spanking

Service-Oriented Collar (Relationship)

The Seven Common Types of Internet Submissives

Sex Toys

slave contracts

slave vs. submissive, an opinion

A slaves right

Spanking

Submissive vs. Slave ~ Why are we still debating?

Terms and definitions

Testing Pain Tolerance

The Pleasure of Pain - Why some people need S&M

The reality of living 24/7

Topping from the Bottom

Trust

Trust - The foundation

Rope - Using Rope, a how to

Safewords and Non-Verbal Cues

Vibrators

Wax Play

What is a D/s relationship? (by Master Aegean)

What is a D/s relationship? (by Rover)

What is and what makes a D/s relationship?

What is a "safeword"

What is your Ideal Body Weight

What's New on Asj?

Writings, D/s and BDSM

         A story for Gregg

         Soulmates

         Submissive Really Does Not Mean

         The Tree and the Gardner

         Why Am I a Master

A Wheel of Balance

A World of Absolutes

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Asj's Members Only 

[ This section has yet to be published, hopefully at some point in the near future it will be opened. ~  updated July 2, 2004]

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Asj's Sharing your thoughts

This section is dedicated to our members, sharing their own personal thoughts and ideas on the discussion topics and references shown here on A submissives journey.  Like anything else in this lifestyle, we are all entitled to our opinions and views. These thoughts do not necessarily represent the views of CJ or this community.

~ vixen shares her thoughts

~ bee shares her thoughts

~ shewolf shares her thoughts

~ littledove shares her thoughts

~ anonymous - Spanking - the First Time

 

Erotic Writings

These stories are erotic in nature.  It is important to remember, these are for the most part fantasies!  Understand they are here for your enjoyment and pleasure.  There presence here does not indicate the content is condoned or endorsed by the Asj community.  As always, remember, safe, sane and consensual.

The Dogs Have It

The Loft

Realization Dawns True

The Story of a Slave

Additional erotic stores can be found here

Writings and Prose

         Oh Sweet Master

         The Dominant 

         The submissive 

           The Teacup 

Important Links:

Each of these sites offers valuable information, advice or references.  They are not affiliated with the Asj website or communities, however, at least from My experience, they're worth at least visiting! 

Sexual Freedom Legal Defense and Education Fund, Inc.

Association of Sites Advocating Child Protection

Connect Safely ~ Smart Socializing Forum

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