A submissives journey

Simply put, BDSM stands for Bondage and Discipline, Domination and submission, Sadism and Masochism. But each of these "words" encompass many meanings of their own. But even beyond BDSM, there are other elements involved that make this such an interesting and exciting way of life and love. Frequently the different areas of BDSM overlap into one another, as a bondage scene might include humiliation, or a D/s relationship might incorporate fetishism, etc. But just as frequently, there are purists who only care for one aspect of the lifestyle. It is our hope to explore each one and give you the clearest picture of each. In general, there is no hard and fast rule for what is right and what is wrong .....it depends on the individuals involved. Having said that, there is one creed we all agree on. All play must be:

SAFE, SANE & CONSENSUAL

"Mutual consent is what distinguishes BDSM from abuse and assault, just as consent distinguishes sex from rape"

From "Facts about BDSM" at Conversio Virium

Throughout the Asj website you'll find information on many different forms or aspects of BDSM and related BDSM activities and play. Use this information as it is intended, it's here as a guide. Not everything in BDSM is for everybody. Test the waters so to speak, see what it is you are comfortable with and proceed from there. Always remember, "Safe, Sane & Consensual", without that consideration, most aspects of BDSM can rapidly become abuse.

Questions about the D/s Lifestyle or the Asj site? Click the ask live icon to chat live or leave a message with our site host. CJ isn't always available, but generally you can find Him here from about 8:30 - 11:00 pm Eastern time. Your questions about the site, the Asj community or just about the lifestyle in general are always welcome. If nothing else, take a moment and tell us what you think of this feature!

These are just a few of the BDSM related articles found here on

the A submissives journey website

Alcohol, Drugs and BDSM play

Basic Spanking Guidelines

So, what is BDSM?

BDSM Checklist for submissives

Domestic violence in the BDSM community

Facts about BDSM

What is BDSM

Why is Bondage Fun?

BDSM Toys and Projects

Nipple Play

Questions about our site? We've added something new on our site.. Click the ask live icon to chat live or leave a message with our site host. CJ isn't always available, but generally you can find Him here from about 8:30 - 11:00 pm Eastern time. Your questions about the site, the Asj community or just about the lifestyle in general are always welcome. If nothing else, take a moment and tell us what you think of this feature!