A submissives journey - Trust within a BDSM or Dominant submissive relationship

"Confidence in the integrity, ability, character, and truth of a person or thing. One in which confidence is placed. Custody; care. Something committed into the care of another; charge. The condition and resulting obligation of having confidence placed in one. Reliance on something in the future; hope."

Reading that definition I have to wonder if perhaps Mr. Webster was a participant in this lifestyle. Read thru the definition a second time, look to see how many of those words are key elements of a Dominant / submissive or BDSM relationship. In finding your Dom, aren't you looking for someone that fits this description perfectly? As a sub or slave, you are getting ready to turn your whole life over to Him, you're expecting him to have the ability to care for you, you're expecting He's been honest and forthright with you.

It doesn't end that simply, it's not just a matter of the Dominant being open and honest with the submissive, the sub also has a responsibility to be just as open with the Dom. Regardless of the role in this lifestyle, misleading your partner can only end up backfiring on you.

Whether it is trusting limits will be respected, trusting of judgment in making decisions, or trusting in aftercare and follow thru, there are a wide and diverse range of issues to be considered. Whatever the cost, whatever the effort involved, both the Dominant and the submissive must make every effort to always be open and very candid. If issues are approached in the initial stage of a relationship that your not quite ready to reveal to your partner, then that should be stated. Don't try to skirt the issue, don't try telling a "white lie" to get around it. Be open and honest, tell your partner you are not yet ready to discuss that issue. Given time, a bit of patience, as you begin to truly trust your partner you'll find yourself begin to open up.

Trust, like love doesn't happen instantly. Yes, we have all learned to

develop a bit of an instinct or inner feeling, and for most of us, more

often than not, if we follow those feelings we'll find we're right. But true unquestioned trust will take time to establish. Spend a few moments reading some of the pages on the links below to get additional insight and perspective on the importance of trust within the D/s lifestyle. Full and complete trust in your partner will be the difference between a successful D/s relationship and a relationship filled with hurt, fear and anger.

Trust ~ by miria hunter

vixen's thoughts - Trust

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