A submissives journey - vixen's thoughts on trust

Even though this word is only five letters, it is very big in it's meaning and in its' function. It is an integral part of any relationship, especially so in a Dominant /submissive relationship! Trust in a D/s relationship goes so much further in depth than most vanilla relatinships, sometimes it's trusting your Dom/me or Master with your life.

The submissive must be able to trust their Dom/me to respect his/her limits, will not hurt him/her (unwanted), will always have safety first on His/Her mind, and will not leave the submissive without the basic necessities of life. The Dom/me must be able to trust the submissive to carry out the needed tasks, obey, please, and to be fully faithful and safe in the same way the s/he, as a Dom/me, is expected to do.

Without reputable deep trust, in which should constantly be renewed, how will the submissive/slave be able to give him/herself fully? Would either individual give complete communication and honesty? Would the submissive or slave feel comfortable or willing enough to obey and please? In my opinion, yes things can still happen, but they wouldn't end up being successful, fun, or even safe.

The biggest part of trust, is the feeling a submissive or slave gets when s/he is doing a risky scene and the adrenalin rush and fear are there from the thrilling situation, but not anxiety from fear for one's safety and/or life. Having complete trust can open up a set of doors for all to be explored and enhanced for further growth. It can allow ones mind to be free and on the scene, rather than wondering if they are going to be safe or not. (Recognizing that the adrenalin rush comes from the fear and intensity of the scene, but there is a difference in playing death and really staring it in the eye.)

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