A submissives journey - Honesty in a D/s Dominant Submissive or BDSM relationship

A submissives journey

Chapter 1
The Asj Community

Chapter 2
Resource Information

Chapter 3
Subbie's Couch

Chapter 4
The Dom's Lounge

Chapter 5

The Library

Chapter 6
BDSM

Chapter 7

Useful Links

Chapter 8
Members share their thoughts

Chapter 9

Members Only

Chapter 10
Asj's Site Index

Chapter 11
Asj's Online Store

Chapter 12
Recommended Reading List

Honesty

Honesty within a D/s relationship is by far one of the most important aspects of the relationship. At all times, both the Dominant and the slave/submissive must be honest. A falsehood can be extremely detrimental to the level of trust.

It is especially important to understand that the slave/ submissive needs to be open and forthright with her Dominant. Failing to convey emotions, feelings, frustrations, hurts and concerns can result in a Dominant misunderstanding the true nature of a girls needs.

A slave/submissive should never try to answer her Dominant with the answer she thinks He wants to hear, her answer should always be honest and truthful. A slave/ submissive also need to insure that she is not dishonest or deceitful by omission. Failing to provide your Dominant with information can be just as dishonest as outright lying.

A Master/Dominant need not tell his slave/submissive all that he knows. He may reserve information at his discretion; however, any and all information presented to his slave/submissive(s) must always be the truth. Lies should not be tolerated in any form. Honesty is the basis for trust in any relationship, especially a D/s relationship. The relationship will suffer greatly as soon as the first lie is told. It is permissible to deliver misinformation to a slave during a scene where such disinformation is important to the psychological aspects of that scene (for example, in a scene where the escalation of fear is part of drama being played out).

~If the submission is not based on honesty the dominant cannot predict it's outcome. If he can't predict the outcome he's not on top. If he's not on top he's not domming. So - If D/s is not honest it's not happening.~

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