A submissives journey

A bit of time online and you've finally found what just might be that "special" person. Everything just seems so "right" this must be the one!

Many times we find ourselves so eager to meet and/or have a session with that "special someone"   we tend to forget about safety. It's too important to overlook, no matter how special the person is, don't get caught off guard.   A perfect stranger or someone that doesn't mean anything to you can never harm you or hurt your feelings. Only the "special ones" can impact our lives.

A "safe call" is a procedure used when meeting your Dom or Master, or that special someone in real life, especially that first time. Don't forget, they can be just as important on that second or third time too! Don't fool yourself! A "safe call" is your way of letting someone know who you are going to be with and where you will be and provides a way for your safe caller to contact you and make sure that what you thought was going to happen is what really does happen to you.

When you establish your safe call, whether you coordinate to call them, or them to call you, the safe call needs to be at a specific time!   The safe call should always be made within 15 minutes of this time, never more, never less!   It is the callers responsibility to make sure the call is made on time!   If your safe caller can't contact you, and speak directly with you it is their immediate responsibility to contact the appropriate authorities.   Whether the authorities are local law enforcement, the hotel manager, or other agreed upon individuals. It is their responsibility to make sure you are okay!

Another method of using a safe call is to decide on two code phrases. Phrases which would sound normal and a routine part of a conversation if overheard by someone else.   These phrases would signify an entirely different meaning to your safe caller. These phrases such as "I think I forgot to lock the garage" or "I didn't have any problems finding this place" could mean something such as "this Guy is great and everything's okay" or "Help! I've got real problems here, call the police!". Obviously, adjust the phrases for your environment, it might not work to well to talk about the rainstorm we're having if the sun is shining. Don't forget, if they really are a bad guy, they've probably already read this article or another like it too!

Who can you have as a "safe call"? Anyone you trust with the

information you get from your partner. Remember, at least in theory,

you could be trusting this person with your life. This information is not for their personal use, it is for use only in case of a true emergency. Whether it is a family member, a close friend, or even someone you know from online, use someone for a safe call. If you don't have anyone else to use as your safety, use the "Safe Call Network" Do not meet with someone in real time unless someone knows you are meeting this partner. Your first meeting should always be in a public place, no, a hotel room is not considered a public place!

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Alcohol, Drugs and BDSM play

The First Meeting

Domestic violence in the BDSM community

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