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These books are highly recommended for  those interested in the Dominant/  submissive or BDSM lifestyle!  If you have the time I urge you to read as many as  possible!  They'll provide you with valuable insight into all aspects of this lifestyle.  To see a bit more, about any of these books, or to purchase them, click on the title.




Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission

 - A complete comprehensive  user-friendly guide to and tour through the world of alternative sexual llifestyles.  (Gloria G. Brame,  Jon  Jacobs, Will Brame)


 Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns

 Enthusiastically covers all the basics and even

 some of the not-so basics=bondage, negotiatin,

 sex, endorphins, dominance and submission, toys,

 safety,  S/M community, and beyond.  (Philip

 Miller, Molly Devon, William A. Granzig)


 SM-101 - Surveys the entire spectrum of

 consentual sadomasochistic practices from

 bondage, to spanking, to erotic role-playing, and

 more. (Jay Wiseman)


 The Art of Sensual Female Dominance - A

 former professional dominatrix gives instruction

 on the specifics of bondage, foot worship, and

 discipline in a variety of fabulous fetish and

 fantasy chapters (Claudia Varrin)


 Between the Body and the Flesh - Stimulates 

 discussions of s/m through the exploration of

 censorhip in the arts, the fetishization of sexual

 paraphernalia, recombinations of class, race and

 sexuality, and the politics of psychoanalysis.

 (Linda Hart)


 The Bottoming Book - Or "How to Get Terrible

 Things Done to You by Wonderful People (Dossie

 Easton, Catherine A. Liszt)


 Bound to Be Free - Or "The SM Experience"

 (Charles Moser, J.J. Madeson)


 The Bride Wore Black Leather ... And He

 Looked Fabulous! - The book presents, in

 question-and-answer format, five simple

 principles for mannerly behavior, focusing on

 real-life etiquette quandaries.  (Drew Campbell)


 The Bullwhip Book - Describes many different

 cracks, as well as various tricks and stunts. 

 There's also information on buying a whip, whip

 care, safety, history and folklore.  (Andrew John



 Come Hither - Fun to read, informative.  From

 the author of Different Loving (Gloria Brame)


 Tricks...To Please A Woman - Bestselling sex

 author/educator Jay Wiseman created his 'Tricks'

 series of books 'how to make good sex better'

 nearly a decade ago.  They've been perennial best

 -sellers in erotic boutiques and adult stores

 worldwide ever since.  Now, the best of Jay's

 Tricks to please a woman have been compiled into

 this handy volume and repackaged for mainstream

 bookstore sales along with plenty of new

 information based on recent research into female

 anatomy and recent improvements in sex toys and

 accessories and seasoned with sexy, tasteful

 illustrations. (Jay Wiseman)


 Pain & Passion -In an expedition through the S&M community of West Hollywood, psychoanalyst Stoller talks with consensual sadomasochists.  They discuss their motivations and the ways they maintain a hidden community, as well as the stresses that threaten its coherence. (Robert J. Stroller)


The Master's Manual -This is an essential read for anyone wanting to understand how S/M can be primal, when leather can be spiritual, why someone could be proud of being a sadist, or how to find joy and wholeness in our dark sides.  (Jack Rinella, Joseph W. Bean)


 The Loving Dominant -Paramour: "A very comprehensive, accessible and well-written introduction to the scene for the novice, or any curious layperson, whether dominant or submissive in nature, or a little of both.  I recommend The Loving Dominant highly to anyone wanting some down-to-earth information, from the curious acolyte to the not-quite     jaded adept."  (John Warren)


 The Mastery of Submission - Documents the evolution of the concept of masochism with scenes in literature from John Cleland's Fanny Hill through Sacher-Masoch's Venus in furs and Pauline Reage's Story of O. analysis of Freud's vastly influential rereading of masochism precedes an exploration of the work of his successors.  (John K. Noyes)


The Story of "O" - The classic erotic novel The Story of O, relates the love of a beautiful Parisian fashion photographer for Rene.  As part of that intense love, she demands debasement and severe sexual and psychological tests.  It is a unique work not to be missed (Pauline Reage & Jeane Paulhan)



Kinkycrafts - Or "99 Do-It-Yourself S/M Toys for the Kinky Handyperson".  (Lady Green, Jaymes Easton)



 Flogging - A practical guide to a popular BDSM activity. (Joseph W. Bean)



 Consensual Sadomasochism - Or "How to Talk About It and How to Do It  Safely" (Bill Henkin, Sybil Holiday)



Extreme Space - An educational handbook on the psychological and physical aspects of Domination and submission.  (F.R.R. Mallory aka Mistress Steel)



The Mistress Manual - Or "The Good Girl's Guide to Female 

Dominance".  From the author: " In 1994, when I wrote this book, there wasn't published information on  safe, sane, and consensual BDSM.  There were a few books written for gays and lesbians, and you could learn technique from Jay Wiseman's superb SM101.  But I  saw the need for a book written for dominant women in committed heterosexual relationships.  (Mistress Lorelei)




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