So, what is BDSM?

So, what is BDSM?

Simply put, BDSM stands for Bondage and Discipline, Domination and submission, Sadism and Masochism. But each of these "words" encompass many meanings of their own. But even beyond BDSM, there are other elements involved that make this such an interesting and exciting way of life and love. Frequently the different areas of BDSM overlap into one another, as a bondage scene might include humiliation, or a D/s relationship might incorporate fetishism, etc. But just as frequently, there are purists who only care for one aspect of the lifestyle. It is our hope to explore each one and give you the clearest picture of each. In general, there is no hard and fast rule for what is right and what is wrong .....it depends on the individuals involved. Having said that, there is one creed we all agree on. All play must be:

SAFE, SANE & CONSENSUAL

"Mutual consent is what distinguishes BDSM from abuse and assault, just as consent distinguishes sex from rape"

From "Facts about BDSM" at Conversio Virium

Throughout the Asj website you'll find information on many different forms or aspects of BDSM and related BDSM activities and play.  Use this information as it is intended, it's here as a guide.  Not everything in BDSM is for everybody.  Test the waters so to speak, see what it is  you are comfortable with and proceed from there.  Always remember, "Safe, Sane & Consensual", without that consideration, most aspects of BDSM can rapidly become abuse. 

Did you know, the Asj Community hosts ‘BDSM and Dominant/submissive Lifestyle Classes and Discussions’ here online every Sunday evening at 9:00 pm Eastern Time.  The Classes and Discussions are open to all and Free to attend.  Visit our Members Only Pages for more information, or click any of our “ask live” icons to ask for more information.

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