A submissives journey

Cultures around the world have varying methods of dealing with someone who is different, or in different circumstances. One approach is to publicly humiliate and revile them. Another is to privately attack the individual, and wage a campaign of rumor. Some oriental cultures take a different approach; that of invisibility.

In such instances, the person involved simply ceases to exist. They are passed in the street, never recognized or acknowledged. Their family blinds their eyes and love completely, never speaking to them again. They are living in limbo, not accepted by what was, and only tolerated by those that must deal with them (if they will deal with them at all). This happens primarily due to an offense against honor or societal values, and it is total and irreversible.

Single submissives today are sometimes faced with a very similar invisibility, imposed by some very uninformed and intolerant individuals. Simply because a submissive has not honored a worthy Dominant with their unique and individual gift does not mean that they are unworthy, or less than, in any way. In a very disturbing trend, I am encountering this occurring more and more every day, and I fully challenge this practice whenever it occurs.

As citizens of the lifestyle, one of the first vanilla habits that we should lose is to judge anyone else. All of us have the right to live in whatever circumstances we choose, free from the judgment of others. Second should be the acceptance of those rights, and what we, as individuals, have chosen. To shun or demean a single submissive in any way simply because they are single is absolutely and completely wrong, and very abhorrent to me in the extreme.

Rather, we should recognize them as viable and meaningful members of the lifestyle, and support them in their choices. As I have said before, I fully believe that submissives are strong and empowered citizens, deserving of our respect and consideration at all times.

Citizens, if you find yourself placing a single submissive beneath you, take some steps back and look at what you are really doing. This is an individual who has the fire of submission burning inside them, and that in itself is worth more than you can imagine. They are proud of what and who they are. They are seeking someone worthy of their gift, while going forward to learn and grow. To ask them to be less than what they are would be to ask them to stop living, and yet single submissive are made invisible every day, simply because of uninformed prejudice.

Those of us who have found someone with which to share our lifestyle should remember what it was like before this happened, and heighten our acceptance and understanding. I would like to think that because of who we are, and what we have become, we can.

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