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Here we are in 2013.. Where has the last ten years gone? If you go back in the internet archives, using sites like the "way back machine", it's interesting to see the changes and growth this site has enjoyed. Computers, software and the internet have improved, capabilities have expanded, and with those changes, the Asj site has tried to keep up. If you've followed the Asj site you may recall our last major upgrade and overhaul of the site was completed in late January 2011. Now, a little over a year later, we've completed our migration to our new software. We've expanded our chat room capabilities and features. The new format of the members only community has not only added a long list of new features, but has made finding and accessing them much easier.
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In addition to the new format of many of the pages on the site, I've spent some time checking links on the site. I've found quite a few pages we're missing or hard to locate. Many of these issues have been corrected with the links and pages being added to the Index page. Other new pages have been added as well. You'll also notice some new graphics being used on the site as well as the new format to the Home and primary pages. All total, there are now over 600 pages of information and topics on the Asj website. If you haven't checked the index page lately, perhaps now is a good time to do so you'll see some big changes have been made on the index! As always, if you find a problem with a link or missing page here on the site, let Me know so the issue can be corrected. Problems on the site can be reported by clicking on any of the "Ask Live" icons found on most of the pages on the site!
The Asj community has long recognized the importance of having a support system in place. Regardless of your role in the D/s lifestyle, whether Dominant, submissive or slave it’s important to know there are others in the lifestyle you can turn to for support, someone to talk to, or just others to be around that can relate to your situation. Real Time Meetings and Getting Together for those in the Dominant ~ Submissive/slave lifestyle
Over the summer with all that's been happening, it seems like our munches all seemed to get postponed or cancelled. As we move back into the summer season, I hope we'll find our Munch schedule get back on track! Check our munch schedule for more information on this. We've had regular visitors join us from as far away as Virginia and as local as right down the street. If you're anywhere in the area, don't hesitate to stop in. Our munch schedule can be found at http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/munchsched.html . Asj Monthly Munches
This is a new section I've added to the site, I'd really welcome your feedback as to your thoughts about this section and the types of stories and articles you'll find here. The first story posted is The Scarlett Shackle ... I hope you enjoy this one as much as I did. Erotic Writings
In addition to the profiles available in the "members only" section of the Asj website, The Asj community offers you the opportunity to post a profile here on our site. It's easy to do, and it's free... To see an example of these, try looking at My profile http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/cj.html Post your profile on the Asj Website
So often, women who are newly aware of their submissive needs endure a period of self doubt around the troubling question: am I sick? I've seen women read the psychiatric diagnostic manual (DSM-IV) and then ask, "do I have borderline personality disorder?". The Healthy submissive
I have been asked recently, and often in the past, what I was -- bottom, submissive or slave. My answer to this question is... On Being "In Service"
On practically every discussion list I'm on, the discussion inevitably comes around to the topic of married Doms seeking submissive partners outside of their marriage. There are, of course, some people who have very strong opinions about this issue and it always sparks fairly intense debate. Married Dom seeks submissive
I believe there are 2 occasions when we as subs have to release our hearts, both of them equally painful. The first one is evident…..when we are released by a Dom then we must begin the process of letting go of our hearts. That may sound like every relationship, but it's not. As submissives we have to begin the painful healing process….Release your heart
There's a lot to learn about this lifestyle. The longer you're around the lifestyle the more you'll learn. Finding reputable sources of information can sometimes be difficult. Suggested Reading
is complex, detailed, and no matter how complete the description, it
falls impossibly short of reality. Perhaps that is why so few
websites have detailed descriptions of what it means to be a Dominant.
While the descriptions, duties and needs of submissives are given
described in great attention, there is precious little space devoted to
It seems that most people have a good grasp on the many specifics regarding D/s philosophy. Most are aware of safe, sane and consensual. Most are aware of a submissive's rights. Most are generally aware of the expectations attached to the role of Dominant and submissive in a relationship. The illusion of control
specifics regarding the relationship are highly personal, unique and
will vary from relationship to relationship. But as a general rule
of thumb, most D/s relationships are characterized by several elements.
Fallacy Of The Circle Of Motivation
So many of My ideas for articles are derived from conversations with O/others, and this is no exception. It's in discussing the lifestyle with O/others that I sometimes discover little understandings that I didn't even know existed. The Fallacy Of The Circle Of Motivation
When entering into a D/s relationship, I find that many submissive 's are not prepared for how to maximize the benefit of having a Master/Mistress. Sure, they enjoy feeling submissive, pleasing their Master/Mistress and being in a loving and caring relationship. And they also enjoy the fact that Master /Mistress makes them feel safe, secure, and tends to their needs for personal and lifestyle growth. your "Dominant's Owner's Manual"... Part 1, submission, Growth & Decision Making
The girls listed have indicated their desire to obtain assistance from Asj in finding a suitable Dom. Registration is free and open to anyone who identifies as a slave, or as a slavery-orientated submissive. Available submissive/slave register listing
Women fly across the county and leave the airport of arrival holding a printed email containing their “instructions.” They are already enslaved, have already submitted and are firmly entrenched in a relationship that hasn’t even occurred. The mindset of safety.
Gor..it's something you either love or hate. It may have been a word you have heard muttered with utter contempt among online people, or you may have a master who has incorporated elements of Gorean Philosophy in your training, or you may even be a gorean slave. Gor - The lowdown (Note: Access this sites Gorean Pages by clicking here)
The different nature of online Dom/sub relationships, does dictate that certain protocols shall be followed that do not apply to the realm at large. Those involved in Dom/sub will no doubt already know these, as they are basic to most sites. On Line Protocols
If you're like Me, you want to have the best, but sometimes the wallet just doesn't want to cooperate or you just can't fine the appropriate place to buy your BDSM toys. Make them yourself, BDSM toys.
Many people have never played, nor had the opportunity to watch experienced people play. And perhaps a spouse or friend has expressed an interest. Knowing how to proceed makes all the difference between a satisfying experience and and an ill-fated disappointment. Giving an enjoyable spanking
Of course we all hope you won't need these numbers, but keep them handy, you might meet a friend online that could really benefit by having one of these numbers. There are numbers for all 50 states. Help is there if you need it. Domestic Violence Support Telephone Numbers (If you know of an organization or number that is not listed here, I'd really appreciate hearing from you with information about them. I'd like to keep this section up to date, I really feel it's important!)
Many of our members have asked about where they can find more information about this lifestyle and activities near where they live. Check this listing which covers all 50 states! Web sites, email addresses as well as actual addresses and phone numbers. Did you know these places were near where you live? If you know of others not listed here, be sure to let us know. Real Life Resources.
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