A submissives journey
It looks like the summer is quickly approaching an end... Where did it go? With the end of the summer, traditionally that signals the beginning of our busy time on year. It seems August is always Asj's slowest month, the fewest number of visitors, but with the approach of September, look for a spike in the number of people visiting the site. '
For those of you that keep up with the changes here on the Asj site, were still working on some of the major format changes for many of the pages here on the Asj site. A number of these pages have already been added to the site and I'm sure we'll see many more added over the coming weeks. They will be easily recognizable with it ifs' fresh clean look! The pages are essentially a blue background and I think we've managed to come up with some great pictures and images to use on the pages. Equally important, I hope you'll find this new page design to be a bit more friendly for our many Mobile Device visitors. Don't hesitate to click on any of our Member/Visitor support links and take a moment to tell us what you think of this new format and look.
Watch for some new "Banners" we've added to many of the pages on the site, advertising our Members Only area of the site. These banners are also available in a variety of sizes and shapes if you'd like to add on to your personal web site or blog linking back to the Asj site. Here's an example of one of them. (Yes, they are available in several different sizes shapes and colors).
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As we've upgraded the site, one of the nicer features on the site is our new "Library section". Gradually all of the pages on the site are being converted and added to the library. This provides one central index of all the pages and topics on the site. This index is fully searchable using key words and phrases. Please remember, if you are a member of the Asj community, please log in prior to using the library as there are many additional articles available to 'members only'.
As always, if you find a problem with a link or missing page here on the site, let Me know so the issue can be corrected. Problems on the site can be reported by clicking on any of the "Member/Visitor Support" icons found on most of the pages on the site!
The Asj community has long recognized the importance of having a support system in place. Regardless of your role in the D/s lifestyle, whether Dominant, submissive or slave it’s important to know there are others in the lifestyle you can turn to for support, someone to talk to, or just others to be around that can relate to your situation. Real Time Meetings and Getting Together for those in the Dominant ~ Submissive/slave lifestyle
This is a new section I've added to the site, I'd really welcome your feedback as to your thoughts about this section and the types of stories and articles you'll find here. The first story posted is The Scarlett Shackle ... I hope you enjoy this one as much as I did. Erotic Writings
So often, women who are newly aware of their submissive needs endure a period of self doubt around the troubling question: am I sick? I've seen women read the psychiatric diagnostic manual (DSM-IV) and then ask, do I have borderline personality disorder?".The Healthy submissive
I have been asked recently, and often in the past, what I was -- bottom, submissive or slave. My answer to this question is... On Being "In Service"
On practically every discussion list I'm on, the discussion inevitably comes around to the topic of married Doms seeking submissive partners outside of their marriage. There are, of course, some people who have very strong opinions about this issue and it always sparks fairly intense debate. Married Dom seeks submissive
I believe there are 2 occasions when we as subs have to release our hearts, both of them equally painful. The first one is evident… when we are released by a Dom then we must begin the process of letting go of our hearts. That may sound like every relationship, but it's not. As submissives we have to begin the painful healing process… Release your heart
There's a lot to learn about this lifestyle. The longer you're around the lifestyle the more you'll learn. Finding reputable sources of information can sometimes be difficult. Suggested Reading
Being Dominant is complex, detailed, and no matter how complete the description, it falls impossibly short of reality. Perhaps that is why so few websites have detailed descriptions of what it means to be a Dominant. While the descriptions, duties and needs of submissives are given described in great attention, there is precious little space devoted to Dominants.
It seems that most people have a good grasp on the many specifics regarding D/s philosophy. Most are aware of safe, sane and consensual. Most are aware of a submissive's rights. Most are generally aware of the expectations attached to the role of Dominant and submissive in a relationship. The illusion of control
The specifics regarding the relationship are highly personal, unique and will vary from relationship to relationship. But as a general rule of thumb, most D/s relationships are characterized by several elements.
So many of My ideas for articles are derived from conversations with O/others, and this is no exception. It's in discussing the lifestyle with O/others that I sometimes discover little understandings that I didn't even know existed. The Fallacy Of The Circle Of Motivation
When entering into a D/s relationship, I find that many submissive 's are not prepared for how to maximize the benefit of having a Master/Mistress. Sure, they enjoy feeling submissive, pleasing their Master/Mistress and being in a loving and caring relationship. And they also enjoy the fact that Master /Mistress makes them feel safe, secure, and tends to their needs for personal and lifestyle growth.
The girls listed have indicated their desire to obtain assistance from Asj in finding a suitable Dom. Registration is free and open to anyone who identifies as a slave, or as a slavery-orientated submissive. Available submissive/slave register listing
Women fly across the county and leave the airport of arrival holding a printed email containing their “instructions”. They are already enslaved, have already submitted and are firmly entrenched in a relationship that hasn’t even occurred. The mindset of safety.
Gor..it's something you either love or hate. It may have been a word you have heard muttered with utter contempt among online people, or you may have a master who has incorporated elements of Gorean Philosophy in your training, or you may even be a gorean slave Gor - The lowdown (Note: Access this sites Gorean Pages by clicking here)
The different nature of online Dom/sub relationships, does dictate that certain protocols shall be followed that do not apply to the realm at large. Those involved in Dom/sub will no doubt already know these, as they are basic to most sites. On Line Protocols
If you're like Me, you want to have the best, but sometimes the wallet just doesn't want to cooperate or you just can't fine the appropriate place to buy your BDSM toys. Make them yourself, BDSM toys.
Many people have never played, nor had the opportunity to watch experienced people play. And perhaps a spouse or friend has expressed an interest. Knowing how to proceed makes all the difference between a satisfying experience and and an ill-fated disappointment. Giving an enjoyable spanking
Many of our members have asked about where they can find more information about this lifestyle and activities near where they live. Check this listing which covers all 50 states! Web sites, email addresses as well as actual addresses and phone numbers. Did you know these places were near where you live? If you know of others not listed here, be sure to let us know. Real Life Resources.
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