A submissives journey - What a Master/Dominant should be

What should a Master be? That question must be answered by each Dominant or Master individually. These are my thoughts, based certainly on the thoughts and writings of others. For purposes of this discussion, Master and Dom may be used interchangeably and also include the feminine forms, Mistress and Domme. The Master is a strong man, or woman. They are sure of themselves, confident in their place in society. They cherish females and males, revel in their presence. They are giving, caring, loving and understanding.

Domination is not simply giving random orders. It is the Masters duty to find ways to cause my sub to desire to please me. As the Dominant member of the relationship - as Master - I must be my submissive's emotional protector,

teacher, and lover. The Master's relationship with all

submissive is one of respect for her or his choice of position and status. With their own submissive -whether she or he be a slave, their possession or casual plaything - it is one of love, worships, discovery, slowly possesses the soul.

The Master gently pushes her, always ready to show her

that she is strong, that her limits are not what she believes

them to be, that she can be taken further. In this, the Master reveals to his sub her own confidence, her own levels of self esteem. Eventually an understanding begins to take place between Master and sub. He senses her desires, her needs, her passions. With this knowledge, the Master takes care of the sub, always giving her what she needs - which is not necessarily what she presumes she needs nor what she says she "wants". It is the Master's responsibility to care for, protect and love his sub. If she is sick, he will feed her. If she is exhausted, he will allow her to rest. If she is frightened, he will comfort her. If she needs affection, he will hold her. These things he does willingly because he knows her. He understands her as no one else does. He has seen into her soul and held it in his hands. Her mind is his to read, and to know. Her body is his to feel. Her heart is his to caress. He owns her. She is his possession. The Master does not take away the sub's identity. Rather, he allows her to grow into her own being, her own likeness. Her submission to him is not a vehicle or punishment or hatred, but one of love and development. She is given the room to come into her own under her Master's care, like a flower that flourishes under the sun's warmth. She radiate from his love and devotion. She becomes a rose, a beautiful being that knows she is loved and cared for.

A Master does not mold a sub into what he feels she should be. Rather, He allows her the freedom to live and grow under his loving care. She becomes the woman she has always been, deep within her spirit. As Master, I take the gift of submission seriously, knowing that it is not given freely or lightly. I always remember how precious the gift is, how rare it is, how beautiful it is. For it is something that cannot be taken for granted: the gift of your soul.

As protector, I must be
(A) stronger than My sub
(B)Stronger than other people in her life.

This does not mean physically stronger; rather, it refers to

character, personality, emotions.

As teacher…I must be wise and - above all - right. Yes, a

D/s relationship is built more on thorns than on roses. But,

punishment cannot be arbitrary, meted out on a whim. There must be a reason that B/both understand. Otherwise, the trust and security so carefully built can be broken down. The sub’s respect for her Master must be earned by his being right, by issuing swift correct justice for transgressions and equally quick rewards for proper behavior. I am not there to inflict pain and degradation, but to provide a goal and direction on how to love and please me. There is no place for anger in punishment. The Master is teaching.

Punishment and discipline need not be physical; they can be psychological. It is not done out of harshness or hostility, it is done out of love and forgiveness.

As lover…I must be loving and - when appropriate - stern. I

must recognize that I am my sub’s only source of pleasure. I must ensure this area is not neglected. When appropriate, I must be gentle, supportive and tender. A D/s relationship is not simply about the Master overpowering his sub. It is about the Master caring for his sub’s emotional well-being. If punishment is required to stop a destructive action by the sub, then it must come from me. On the other hand, when correct action is noted, when my beloved makes me proud, then love and caring must flow equally quickly.

That is the profile of a Master: Strong, able, confident,

loving, caring, encouraging, and gentle. My submissive is

my possession. But, she is a highly valued and loved

possession - the most valuable thing I own. The submissive is a woman, firm and comfortable in her femininity.

You offer yourself to your Master freely, of your own

choosing. You give the gift of your submission in exchange

for protection, care and love. You are obedient because you choose to be, not because you are forced to be. Your first priority is pleasing your Master. You will do whatever I ask in order to meet my desires. This does not mean you, as my sub, eliminate your personality, or give up any power. No. You give what you want to give. As Master, I hold that gift in my deepest heart, always sharing, always giving back what you need. This enables us to build an immense measure of trust between us. As you must trust your Master completely in order to give me so much of yourself, so I must trust you in order to accept that gift.

As your Dom/Master, it is my task to earn your subservience and submission. I take pride in the pleasure you give Me, knowing W/we are working together to create one of the most beautiful relationships possible!

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