A submissives journey

What's new

on Asj?

Chapter 1
The Asj Community

Chapter 2
Resource Information

Chapter 3
Subbie's Couch

Chapter 4
The Dom's Lounge

Chapter 5

The Library

Chapter 6
BDSM

Chapter 7

Useful Links

Chapter 8
Members share their thoughts

Chapter 9

Members Only

Chapter 10
Asj's Site Index

Chapter 11
Asj's Book Store

Chapter 12
Recommended Reading List

Chapter 13
Asj submissive slave register

vixen's thoughts on a

journal...

A journal can be a notebook, a specially bound book, a computer file, or an online service. It's a place where the submissive can release and record every component and/or feeling in her D/s relationship. A submissives journal should be her "safe place" where she can speak vanilla and not worry of a punishment for the words she has written. In most cases, the journal is read by the Dominant so he can have a better understanding of the submissive. This also allows a deeper level of communication between the Dominant and the submissive. This allows the Dominant to make better decisions which are tailored to the current mindset and level of His submissive. By recording her thoughts, the submissive can look back and see how much her relationship, attitude, personality and outlook has progressed over time. Whether or not a journal is read by the Dominant is up to the participants in the relationship. Though many Dominants will ask it if He feels the submissive is having difficulties. For many submissives, their journal can serve as a lifeline in a difficult situation, releasing their thoughts and trusting it as a safe place for the submissive can be a great relief or release. Many find the best way to write a journal is to just let the hand write and all the words flow on to the paper. It takes practice to just let the thoughts pour out without hesitation, but once a submissive is able to do so, she can reveal some pretty shocking things to herself she never knew were even inside of her. In the whole, a journal can be such an advantage and comfort that it's worth the time to do, even if just for yourself.
                                                                                          ~vixen~
                                                                                         January 16, 2002

Did you know, the Asj Community hosts ‘Dominant - submissive and BDSM Lifestyle Classes and Discussions’ here online every Sunday evening at 9:00 pm Eastern Time. The Classes and Discussions are open to all and Free to attend. Visit our Members Only Pages for more information, or click any of our “ask live” icons to ask for more information.

Questions about our site? Click the ask live icon to chat live or leave a message with our site host. CJ isn't always available, but generally you can find Him here from about 8:30 - 11:00 pm Eastern time. Your questions about the site, the Asj community or just about the lifestyle in general are always welcome. If nothing else, take a moment and tell us what you think of this feature!