A submissives journey

The question is often asked, how can you tell a real Dominant from a fake, how can you be sure this Dominant is the right Dominant for you, and endless list of how do you know questions. By asking your potential Dominant these questions, you may find yourself better able to answer your own questions and understand His expectations of you.

How long have you been involved in the D/s lifestyle, and what led you to this lifestyle in the first place?
Do you have or plan to have a more than one slave/submissive, on or offline?

What sort of relationship are you looking for? (Online only, phone, real world, potential marriage/permanent partner?)
How much time are you willing to devote to training a new sub, and how much of her time would you require in return? Would you have daily contact with your submissive/slave?
Do you indulge in these pleasures with women/men in "real life"? If so, what precautions for health and safety are involved? What type of safety precautions do you feel are necessary for an online or phone relationship?

What sort of training/education have you had to be the dominant member of this relationship? Have you had experience training a submissive who is new to D/s? What made you decide this was for you?
What are your basic philosophies with regard to D/s.
What are your rules, contracts, agreements, etc.? What do you require of your slave and of yourself?
What sort of structured training do you prefer to use? What sorts of discipline/punishment for infractions? What kinds of tasks do you assign your save to perform for you?
What are your deepest desires, pleasures, hopes for this relationship? What, in your opinion, does the Dom receive in return for His time, love and protective care over his sub?
Do you have any references available that I might contact?

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