Strict versus sensual, BDSM Self Bondage

A distinction can be made between strict and sensual self-bondage. In sensual self-bondage, escape from restraints is simple and available immediately, if desired. For example, the keys might be within reach or the knots loosely tied. The chief aim is the sensation of immobility and of constrained movement.

Strict self-bondage, by contrast, requires that the means of escape is unavailable for a period of time and the person must remain in bondage until the release mechanism is activated, regardless of whether or not they would voluntarily continue the scene further if they had the choice. Although strict self-bondage is potentially more hazardous, some practice it for the greater feeling of helplessness.

There is an alternative approach sometimes recommended which takes the middle ground, and achieves a compromise between safety and strictness. The method is to use a backup release mechanism that is available immediately, but carries with it some penalty or cost with its use. For example, keys could be placed in a bucket of paint. The person in self-bondage can escape quickly if necessary, such as a fire breaking out, or excessive numbness of limbs. However, the annoyance of cleaning up the paint afterwards would coerce the person into waiting for the main release mechanism to come into effect if they were merely bored or uncomfortable.

Safety :

WARNING

Self-bondage is considered to be quite dangerous as in if a person stays completely alone there is a greater risk. You should be either very confident and think over every detail especially about release or at least have someone to help you.

Avoid extreme restraint – if you are trying self-bondage for the first time it's better to begin with simple technique where you can escape easily.
Try no t to use collars, gags and other devices that can restrict circulation on very sensitive areas or block breathing.
Have several methods of release so that in case one method fails you can use another.
Check if nothing in the place you plan a session can cause potential harm, like gas stove or electric devices.

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