Good or bad, over the years I've had the pleasure of selecting many submissives.  I think looking back with the benefit of hindsight, I've used a lot of different criteria and reasons for selecting a submissive.. some of those reasons had to be pure idiocy on My part, others were well founded.  What I have learned with time is that selecting a submissive, one to keep, is not as simple as seeing a good looking girl and saying, "that ones for Me".....

Now, with a bit of maturity, mixed with some experience, a lot of heart break, emotional turmoil, outright frustration, some good times and some bad ones, I think I've finally been able to see the light on picking the right submissive.

Like so many things we do, there needs to be some organization or method to our madness.  Sure, We all want the proverbial submissive that is drop dead gorgeous, well behaved, sexually stimulating and at least a hundred other criteria.  But for a moment, let's be realistic.  Every girl is not the perfect Gor slave we so often see them described as when we find them in an online chat room. 

Every submissive is going to have her own individual looks, needs, wants, composure, emotions, and problems.  Good things, bad things.  We're going to have to use a bit of a balancing scale to balance out the good with the bad.

The first step in finding a submissive or slave to call Your own is to figure out just what it is that You're looking for.  Yes, time to break out the pencil and paper, make a list, and check it a lot more than twice.

What things are important to you, what qualities or features should a girl have..  Are looks important,, then say so on your list,, Are you seeking a submissive that has already been around the lifestyle, or trying to find a complete novice?  Are you looking for a submissive that has or doesn't have children (careful, children can be a handful,, and if you take the submissive, remember, the children are there as well.  What about medical or health issues...  will You accept a submissive  with asthma, what about heart problems, or even both?  What about her financial situation..  can you pick up the load on a submissive that is $10,000.00 in debt?  Can you deal with a submissive that is a smoker, drinker, drug user? What about emotional issues, are you prepared or able to deal with these, and if so, to what extent?  Things as simple as her driving record can have a major impact on you. (Your car insurance rates..)

Okay, hopefully this paragraph or two has given you some ideas to think about when you start making your list.. Don't worry about what you list,, anything you think of as an attribute should be listed...

Now for the score card.  As I write this I'm really trying to develop the perfect method of scoring a submissive.  A fool proof criteria that will ensure the girl I select will be the perfect submissive.

After spending many months dwelling on this seemingly simple task, guess what?  There is no magic score card...  There isn't one checklist that will work in every situation.

The best I can hope to do is to take the time, get to know the girl, understand her completely.  Compare her needs with My ability to satisfy her needs.  Evaluate as best I can to determine her ability to satisfy My needs (yes, even as a Dominant, I have needs).  From there, I guess I'll just have to trust My instincts, My common sense .

If I've paid attention to the four basic cornerstones of any power exchange relationship, communication, trust, respect and honor/honesty.  With a bit of luck, I'll make the right choice, just as you will.