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Selecting the right girl...

This page is a work in progress.. but, I thought I would post it as I write it,, it may take some time to complete, but in the meantime, it's here to help...  


Good or bad, over the years I've had the pleasure of selecting many girls.  I think looking back with hindsight, I've used a lot of different criteria and reasons for selecting a girl.. some of those reasons had to be pure idiocy on My part, others were well founded.  What I have learned with time is that selecting a girl, one to keep, is not as simple as seeing a good looking girl and saying, "that ones for Me".....

Now, with a bit of maturity, mixed with some experience, a lot of heart break, emotional turmoil, outright frustration, some good times and some bad ones, I think I've finally been able to see the light on picking the right girl.

Like so many things we do, there needs to be some organization or method to our madness.  Sure, We all want the proverbial girl that is drop dead gorgeous, well behaved, sexually stimulating and at least a hundred other criteria.  But for a moment, let's be realistic.  Every girl is not the perfect Gor slave we so often see them described as when we see them in a chat room. 

Every girl is going to have her own individual looks, needs, wants, composure, emotions, and problems.  Good things, bad things.  We're going to have to use a bit of a balancing scale to balance out the good with the bad.

The first step in finding a slave to call Your own is to figure out just what it is that You're looking for.  Yes, time to break out the pencil and paper, make a list, and check it a lot more than twice.

What things are important to you, what qualities or features should a girl have..  Are looks important,, then say so on your list,, Are you seeking a girl that has already been around the lifestyle, or trying to find a complete novice?  Are you looking for a girl that has or doesn't have children (careful, children can be a handful,, and if you take the girl, remember, the children are there as well.  What about medical or health issues...  will You accept a girl with asthma, what about heart problems, or even both?  What about her financial situation..  can you pick up the load on a girl that is $10,000.00 in debt?  Can you deal with a girl that is a smoker, drinker, drug user? What about emotional issues, are you prepared or able to deal with these, and if so, to what extent?  Things as simple as her driving record can have a major impact on you. (Your car insurance rates..)

Okay, hopefully this paragraph or two has given you some ideas to think about when you start making your list.. Don't worry about what you list,, anything you think of as an attribute should be listed...

Now for the score card.  As I write this I'm really trying to develop and perfect this method so if you see changes to this page, don't let that throw you.  This is a method I'm suggesting, but you might find a better one, feel free to use what ever method you can find.

After you list the traits you're looking for in a girl, it's time to try to score them a bit.  Consider each quality or trait to have a maximum value of 100 points,, 100 being perfection, 0 being totally completely, 100% unacceptable.  The average  of course being 50.  Assign each trait your minimum desirable score.  Notice I said "desirable"?  That's the minimum you'd like to accept under ideal conditions.



 

 

 

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