A submissives journey

personal choices. Each submissive and Dom are different, seeking different things. In both the lifestyle and BDSM, the level of obedience and pain are not the same for each person. It is important that you find a Master who matches your limits, expectations, hopes and dreams. Yet a Master that is firm enough to take to the depths of submission that you ultimately need and desire. Here is my opinion what a Master should be.

He is a dominant man , a strong man. He has confidence and control of

Himself, as well a position in society and life. He knows what he wants

from His submissive and life. He is independent, has goals and dreams and

follows them. He stands up for His beliefs. He is an individual and leader.

He respects women and cherishes the one he chooses for His submissive.

He understands, cares, loves and revels in her presence. He is intelligent,

teaches and trains her with understanding and patience. He slowly

possesses her. He gentle pushes her limits, opens her mind to a new world.

He always shows her that she is strong, that her limits are not what she believes they are. Taking her further than her dreams had previous known, while giving her confidence and self-esteem. He cherishes, cares, protects, and loves her. When she is ill, He cares for her. When she is exhausted he lets her rest, stroking her hair as she drifts off to sleep. He will comfort her when she need it, calming her fears and emotions. He guides, nurtures, and inspires her. He knows her better, than she knows herself. He looked in her heart and soul, holds them in His hands. Her mind is His to read, open and to expand. Her body is His to feel and pleasure. Her heart is His to caress, love and protect. She is His heart, mind, soul and body. She places herself in His care, and becomes His most valued possession. He does not take away her identity and spirit, but allows her to grow and prosper as her own being. Her submission to Him is not out of fear for punishment, but out of love, respect, and trust. She radiates under His love and guidance.

"What about discipline and punishment ?" you ask. To be handed out firm

but lovingly. He will Never punish in anger. He is her teacher and

trainer; anger has no place when he disciplines her. Punishment doesn't have to physical it can be psychological. He does not do it to be harsh or to hurt her, but out of love, devotion and forgiveness.

In my opinion, He should mold her into what He thinks she should be,

but allows her the freedom to grow and live under his loving care. She

becomes the woman; she always been with deep with in her spirit. He

takes her gift of submission seriously; knows it is special and rare; it is

not given freely to All or lightly to any. For she has given Him the gift

of her heart, soul, mind and body. He will give her life wholeness and

satisfaction.

Just a slave girls opinion ....little_pet << Chance>>

(posted here with permission of the author)

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