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A submissives journey - CJ Suggests
CJ Suggests is a monthly feature we've added to the A submissives journey website. D/s and BDSM Lifestyle items featured here have been personally scrutinized by CJ, and are suggested for inclusion in your library or toy collection.
Each month we'll feature one book recommended by CJ, and/or one toy or BDSM type item recommended for your Dominant - submissive or BDSM Lifestyle Collection or as a gift to others in the D/s Lifestyle.. When possible, we'll include a link to where the item can be purchased or obtained.
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CJ Suggests
June 2010, CJ Suggests
Dominant submissive Lifestyle Book or Reading
One of the hardest things about being "kinky" is trying to find a way to tell your friends, relatives, lovers, etc about your "alternative lifestyle." Some of choose not to, because of the fear they will be ridiculed or ostracized by those close to them. So some that are into "kink" choose to keep it a secret.
When Someone You Love Is Kinky is a wonderful book to give to a friend or lover to explain to them some of the reasons why you enjoy this lifestyle. The authors take a calm and understanding approach in this book, perfect for non-kinky readers who might wonder why their otherwise "normal-looking" relative takes such delight in activities they themselves may be uncomfortable with.
The first couple of chapters deal with how a non-kinky person (such as your partner or best friend) might be feeling after finding out that their friend or lover likes to be spanked, whipped, tied up or "whatever." The authors obviously have been down this road many times of explaining their kink to so-called "vanilla people" and dealt with either hostile or indifferent reactions. Subsequent chapters explain more about the "world of kink," how we manage to keep all our activities consensual, and how to better accept your friend's kink. There's a chapter at the end of the book that explains how to deal with finding out it's your partner that is "kinky."
If you've been searching for ways to explain your "kink" to a "non-kinky" person, this book is a great place to start.
- Keywords: D/s, dominant submissive, lifestyle, bdsm, kinky, kink, master, slave, dominant, submissive, Mistress, DOM, Domme, Dominant, Master, protocol, relationship, sex, partner, relationship
- By Midwest Book Review: The spectrum of human sexuality and behavior is culturally defined, shaped, and sanctioned. Some acts and relationships being within the norm, others being viewed as extreme or deviant. In every society, consenting adult sexual practices can vary widely as to whether they are normative or "kinky". These practices include bondage, spanking, cross-dressing, erotic role-playing, fetishism, and related activities. Marriage and family counselor Dossie Easton and writer/educator Catherine A. Liszt wrote When Someone You Love Is Kinky to help "non-kinky" folks understand and communicate with their kinky friends, partners, and relatives. Included are guidelines for dealing with the emotional turmoil of the coming-out process; brief and non-threatening descriptions of the commonest kinks (and ideas about why people enjoy them); suggestions for how to talk to your kinky friend or relative in ways that promote good communication; explanation of how kinky people keep themselves safe while exploring diverse sexualities; a glossary of commonly used terminology from the kink communities; a resource guide to help the reader find further information and support. A highly recommended addition to personal, academic, and community library human sexuality reference collections, When Someone You Love Is Kinky is sound, appropriate, informative, and serious reading.
For the BDSM Toy Bag
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This collar is handcrafted from heavy black 13-15 oz harness leather. All edges are beveled and burnished to a smooth finish. The hasp will accept a medium size padlock or snap hook. This is tough, rugged leather that will stand up to many years of hard core play... This collar will fit a 11-15" neck.
Keywords: collar, leather, bondage, bdsm
