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A submissives journey - CJ Suggests

CJ Suggests is a monthly feature we've added to the A submissives journey website. D/s and BDSM Lifestyle items featured here have been personally scrutinized by CJ, and are suggested for inclusion in your library or toy collection.

Each month we'll feature one book recommended by CJ, and one toy or BDSM type item recommended for your Dominant - submissive or BDSM Lifestyle Collection or as a gift to others in the D/s Lifestyle.. When possible, we'll include a link to where the item can be purchased or obtained.

CJ Suggests

April 2009, CJ Suggests

D ominant submissive Lifestyle Book or Reading

The Submissive Activity Book is your ticket to self-accountability during your journey as a submissive in the Leather and BDSM Communities. This book contains exercises and recommendations to help you improve your service with or without a power exchange relationship. If you've ever felt disconnected from your service because you weren't actively serving a dominant, this book is for you. When you learn to be accountable to yourself, you'll find serving others easier and more fulfilling. If you're engaged in a power exchange relationship and want to improve your service, this book is the perfect tool to use in conjunction with your dominant. Together you can improve your service to meet their needs.

Keywords: bdsm, leather, kink, master, slave, dominant, submissive, Mistress, DOM, Domme, Dominant, Top, bottom, Service, protocol, schedule, goal
Review: After reading “The Submissive Activity Book”, I was amazed at what a simple and well thought out tool this is for both beginner and long time submissives.
Being a real time sub for a little over three years now I was able to see what a wonderful help this would’ve been when I was first thinking of entering into a serious BDSM relationship. The exercises are straightforward and provide a lot of insight for a sub into what it takes to make a Dominant happy, as well as what he/she is willing to and needs to do from their end to make a lasting relationship a reality.
The interesting thing I found while reading the book was that the exercises also served to help me understand more about what it is to be truly submissive. While many of the exercises in the book have been done in one way or another by myself and my Dominant during our relationship, they have been done in our heads as the need arose and are not kept anywhere to be reviewed. This book makes it easy to keep a log of your relationship needs, priorities, etc. It will also serve as a lasting and easy way to help enter into the next relationship, if the need arises, as any perspective Dominant can see what type of submissive you are prior to moving forward. This will serve to eliminate many problems often found early in a BDSM relationship.
All in all, I found the book to be an excellent way for any submissive to get themselves organized and make sure they have concise, well thought out goals that they would like to achieve before going into a BDSM relationship as well as a reference guide to be used throughout your relationship.

For the BDSM Toy Bag

Take the guess work out of wax play. A Wax Warmer provides a consistent supply of wax, warmed to a predetermined temperature. Reduce or eliminate the risk of burns or hazards of fire associated with most types of candles. Easy to clean, convenient to use. Not visibly identifiable as a BDSM only item as this is normally used for other types of cosmetic and health wax applications.

Keywords: bdsm, wax, wax play, kink, master, slave, dominant, submissive, Mistress, DOM, Domme, scene