A submissives journey

Chapter 1
The Asj Community

Chapter 2
Resource Information 

Chapter 3
Subbie's Couch

Chapter 4
The Dom's Lounge

Chapter 5

 The Library

Chapter 6
BDSM

Chapter 7

 Useful Links

Chapter 8
Members share their thoughts

Chapter 9

 Members Only

Chapter 10
Asj's Site Index

Chapter 11
Asj's Online Store

Chapter 12
Recommended Reading List

Chapter 13
Asj slave, sub Registry

The Bonsai Theory

by Robert,

 posted with his permission

 I am always asked why I enjoy being a Master, or more  directly being asked why I enjoy abusing women by  those who do not understand the lifestyle. I'm sure  many of you that are reading this have been faced with  the same sort of questions. Varying from "Why do you  like being abused" to "How do you let someone "rule"  over you like that?" I have tried many times to explain  this to someone until a previous slave and I were  tending to my second love, teaching/ training/keeping  raising Bonsai Trees. After a lot of conversing W/we  came up with this metaphor that seems to answer  those questions, and some that seem to stir in all of our minds.

 When I go looking for a potential Bonsai prospect, I go  for a walk in the woods or my local nursery looking for  a bush with particular qualities.  Inspecting the branch  and root structure, seeing if I can envision the Bonsai I  desire.  Not unlike Interviewing prospective slave,  making sure that her needs and mine are compatible.

 Once I find a bush that fits my criteria, I bring it home and I inspect it further, observing the bush, confirming  my vision of the form this Bonsai wants to become.   Just as I discover the prospective slaves previous  training and her limits, making sure that she has a true  slave heart, and not someone in it for the kicks of it.

 Once I note the things I can, and cannot change, and my vision is confirmed, training starts. (30 day trial period)  At first, the training is very drastic, and very severe. I remove the bush from its container, and break the soil from its roots; (removing her from her home environment, undoing the training of another  Master, or the preconceived beliefs she may have  picked up along the way.)  I trim the root system and  re-pot the Bonsai in my own special container. (Setting  limits getting her used to my ways.)

 Then I start trimming the branches that have been

 allowed to grow wild and carefree for years.

 (Rebellion, self pride, disrespect)  Branches that have been rubbing against each other, causing open

 wounds and infections.  (Internal conflict, struggling

 with themselves, struggling with society's ideology

 and acceptance.)

 Once this initial training is complete, the Bonsai needs  time to heal, (to come to terms with what is happening)  and let it re-establish its rooting system.  (Learning to  trust me).  During this time, I water, fertilize, and  take special care of the tree.  (Nurture and love) Once  these wounds are healed, it's time to proceed with the  training.

 I break out my copper wire, and I bend the branches in  pursuit of the Bonsai I envisioned.  Now some branches are too big to do much with; there maybe something there I had not seen before and I will have to make adjustments and incorporate that into my overall design. (Respecting limits, and respecting the personality of the slave)  But the smaller branches I bend and twist into the shape of my design.  These wires stay in place for a long time, forcing the Tree to naturally grow into my desired shape. (Set rules, training etc.) 

 When I am sure the Bonsai has taken on the desired shape, I remove the wire and re-examine the tree.  If a  desired twist or bend did not take, I reset the branch to  the desired shape.  (Enforcing my position over her,  making sure she basically knows I'm the Master, and I  won’t tolerate her defiance.)

 All this time, I'm always watering, and fertilizing the

 Tree, tenderly molding it into the Tree I know it can be.  (Expressing my love towards her, ensuring that I will  protect, and take care of her.)  Then, over a period of   time, the wires are removed; the branches are flowing  and well positioned.

 Training a Bonsai, and a slave doesn’t happen

 overnight, it takes years to establish a good flowing

 design, and a slave that is willing to surrender herself to her Master.  What had once been a wild bush, is now  a beautiful Bonsai.  There will be more trimming, and  bending to keep its form, and the Tree needs more  nurturing and watering and fertilizing than a normal  Plant, but nothing comes close to its beauty.

 So in short, I enjoy watching a "wild bush" become a lovely "Tree" under my teachings.  To watch a slave discover herself, and comes to term with the yearning  that’s been in her heart but didn’t know what they were, or what to do with it.  That’s what I personally get  out of being a Master.