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Suggested Reading

There's a lot to learn about this lifestyle.  The longer you're around the BDSM lifestyle the more you'll learn.  Finding reputable sources of information can sometimes be difficult.   I'm taking this opportunity to list a few books that should prove  helpful to you.  Take a moment, click on the links and learn more about these invaluable resources.  I'm sure you'll hear these names often as you begin your travels in this lifestyle.  Even if you've been around awhile you'll find these valuable resources.  While the links for the books I've provided are for Amazon.Com, you'll find many public libraries will also have these books.  If you're serious about the lifestyle, you'll find these books worth the investment. Don't forget, our site library also has hundreds of articles pertaining to all aspects of Power Exchange Relationships. 



Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns

Philip Miller and Molly Devon think that S/M is fun, and "that reading about it should be fun, too." Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns is definitely fun, not to mention approachable, chatty, and insightful. What makes it truly special, however, is the sheer weight of loving details. There's clear explanations and detailed tutorials for beginners, as general as "safe, sane, and consensual" and as specific as "you will be swinging the whip with your arm pivoting at the shoulder." There's also solid advice, safety measures, steamy suggestions, plenty of black-and-white photographs, useful and humorous drawings, an extensive glossary, and over 900 entries of S/M clothing and equipment vendors, publications, computer bulletin boards, and organizations worldwide. As sadomasochism is a practice that's still taboo for many people, the chapter on finding partners and sharing your fantasies with existing partners can be invaluable.

Screw the Roses enthusiastically covers all the basics and even some of the not-so-basics--bondage, negotiation, sex, endorphins, dominance and submission, toys, safety, S/M community, and beyond. It's written primarily from the point of view of male dominant/female submissive interactions, but it's easily translatable into valuable advice for any relationship configuration. Miller and Devon's explanations of not just the how, but also the why, of sadomasochism are honest, sexy, funny--and a must-have for anyone who wants to learn about sadism, masochism, dominance, submission, or bondage.


Sm 101: A Realistic Introduction

It goes by many names: bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, and more. In Jay Wiseman's SM 101, the long-taboo subject of consensual sadomasochism is accurately, insightful presented in the context of adult human sexuality, experience and tradition for the interested non-specialist general reader. SM 101 surveys the entire spectrum of consensual sadomasochistic practices from from bondage, to spanking, to erotic role-playing, and more. Now in an expanded second edition, SM 101 includes a new chapter on starting and running sadomasochistic organizations and events for consenting adults.

For a more complete listing of lifestyle oriented books, visit our Recommended Reading List   Remember, the more you learn about our lifestyle, the more you'll enjoy it, the safer you'll be.

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