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BDSM - Being called a 'slut'
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From:
Rentanurse1 |
Sent:
12/17/2005 3:11 PM |
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I am brand new to this journey as my Sir likes to say.
Being called a slut in the past was a bad thing, those girls in
high school who all thought were bad where the sluts.
Now I like being Sir's slut ....no love it.
As i began this journey I learn many things and when Sir calls me
HIS little whore it thrills me.
d
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From:
SkittishSilver44 |
Sent:
12/17/2005 8:40 PM |
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Hello all,
i took me a while to get used to
being called a 'slut' for the same reasons as you, Kallistar,...
then it took me a while longer to
accept it in the way that i am told it means within this
lifestyle... as a compliment of sorts...
from the Doms and subs that i have
talked to, it means a woman (or man) who is more open and
accepting of the sexuality than their vanilla counterparts...
and i am happy to accept that
interpretation, rather than the derogatory vanilla one..
and yes, i am happy to be a slut
for my One, if it means that i can be totally open and accepting
of myself and my sexuality..
have a great day,
silver
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From:
NJ_lil_one_83 |
Sent:
3/21/2006 8:42 PM |
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It also took me a while to be called a
"slut". When my Former Master first called me a slut I wanted to
cry and hide. But after a while I got use to being called a
"slut" and now when I am called that I want to be called it more
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From:
вĕĺ_ëşçĺåve_ÇJ |
Sent:
3/21/2006 8:46 PM |
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being called a slut was and is a bad thing
for me..i won't and don't let anyone call me a slut,,and for the
same reasons...always thought that was a bad thing to be called, i
still not like it and i still dont let A/anyone call me that..and
those that do well hell they don't know me so what do i care what
they have to say?
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From:
TTsHeart |
Sent:
3/22/2006 10:57 AM |
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Hmmmm, interesting topic really it is. I also had a big problem
with being called a slut. Until it was explained to me the
difference between it being a bad term and an erotic term. I
prefer to think of it this way when it is used to address me now.
SLUT Sweet Little Unforgettable
Thing. After all that is what I truly am. LOL
Hope you are all doing well,
terri/ignite
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From:
LadyAllura1 |
Sent:
3/22/2006 11:06 AM |
Oh, I must
respond to this one! In the vanilla context of the term
'slut'...yes, it is derogatory, and demeaning. Not a label I would
want depicting My character, not that it could or would, lol, I'm
known as the Ice Bitch! However, in the lifestyle, I feel it is one
of endearment to an owner, as it reveals many qualities of a
submissive. A slut being a sub, a woman, that can reveal her wants
and desires in an intelligent manner; she can become as wanton and
free as her spirit soars within the control of her Owner. That to
ME, is a true slut...surely, nothing to be embarrassed
about...smiles
Lady Allura |
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From:
¤ãÑge£¤«TiltedKilt» |
Sent:
3/22/2006 11:38 AM |
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I don't mind my Master calling me a slut because he is not saying
it in a derogatory way. Him calling me a slut in no way
demeans my abilities and accomplishments and has no reflection on
anything else in my life. To me it just means for that moment i
can be His slut.
ignite..i like your definition for SLUT...very cute
Lady Allura i totally love this "A
slut being a sub, a woman, that can reveal her wants and desires
in an intelligent manner; she can become as wanton and free as her
spirit soars within the control of her Owner"
How true that is....i
see it as myself being able to totally let go with Him.
Thanks.
TK's angel~
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Message
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From:
KalistarRR |
Sent:
3/22/2006 7:11 PM |
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Lady Allura I like your definition of
slut., however it got me wondering....
"she can become as wanton and
free as her spirit soars within the control of her Owner."
Is it not then derogatory again if she does not have an owner?
Just curious... Those of you that
don't like the name slut... Were you called one in high school?
Kalistarrr
Thiking outside the box and kicking up
dust wherever she goes
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From:
LadyAllura1 |
Sent:
3/23/2006 11:30 AM |
No, cause the
term 'slut' would only be used in the context of D.s. I have used it
in casual sessioning, when a sub is in that relaxed state with Me.
It is also a form of humiliation play...smiles But the mind set does
have to be there.
If there is emotional issues from the past, that would trigger a
negative response, that is something that the Top has to find out
prior to developing the submissive. That truly is as paramount as
medical history. The psych and medical are parallels...smiles
Just My 2 cents...*grins*
Lady Allura |
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Message
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From:
traceoffyre_LC |
Sent:
3/23/2006 2:39 PM |
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Personally, i don't like being called a slut or any other
derogatory names. And neither does my husband/Dom like calling me
those names. Those names don't make me feel any more submissive
nor do they make me feel good about myself and nor do i get off on
it. So what would be the point of calling me those names other
than to demean me which i won't stand for. But i think that if
you like being called names, that's your choice and i see no
reason why they can't be used. i really think it is a personal
choice, some of us like being called names and others of us don't.
trace
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