Chapter 1
The Asj

  Community

Chapter 2
Resource Information 

Chapter 3
Subbie's 

Couch

Chapter 4
The Dom's

Lounge

Chapter 5

 The 

Library

Chapter 6
BDSM

Chapter 7

 Useful 

Links

Chapter 8
Members

share their

thoughts

Chapter 9

 Members 

Only

Chapter 10
Asj's 

Site Index

Chapter 11
Asj's 

Book Store

Chapter 12
Recommended Reading List

The Importance of Listening

Each Dominant has their own rules, guidelines and/or orders for His/Her submissive to follow or do, and each for a reason.  Whether that reason is for safety, His/Her satisfaction or pleasure, or any of numerous reasons.  Everything in a Dominant submissive relationship has a purpose or goal. To not listen purposely is disobedient, to miss something by mistake is just that, a mistake. 

If a submissive does not listen carefully to all instructions (and clarify them if they are unclear), it can become very frustrating, cause a conflict (depending on the situation and it's contents) or can be a big safety risk.  Last but not least, it's not allowing for the essential key of communication.

Also, in my eyes, to not listen blocks my objective as a slave.  My objective is to always please my Master.  How can I please  him without listening to all he is trying to get across to me, no matter what the subject is?

Listening is the counterweight to communication, the point of communication is to have another person to receive it. So as you  can probably tell, all these factors in a D/s relationship are linked together and are only successful when they work with one  another.

If you listen carefully, you allow for increased knowledge about your partner, your role, and your relationship within the lifestyle.

            vixen

 

Did you know, the Asj Community hosts ‘Dominant submissive and BDSM Lifestyle Classes and Discussions’ here online every Sunday evening at 9:00 pm Eastern Time.  The Classes and Discussions are open to all and Free to attend.  Visit our Members Only Pages for more information, or click any of our “ask live” icons to ask for more information.

 

 

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