A submissives journey

Although many Dominants or wannabe Dominants seem to think this way... The one thing I think a lot of the dominants fail to remember is this...when a submissive gives his/her gift to a Dominant it is an important thing to that submissive ... it is not something they wish to have used and then tossed back at them. But it seems many Dominants feel that the submissive is to be kept only until another...better ... or more submissive, submissive comes along.

Meanwhile the first submissive is left without understanding why, when they gave their all it just wasn't enough for the Dominant. One needs to remember that submission like domination comes in many levels. One can only submit all that they truly are...thus the reasoning behind courtship before Submission is given to a Dominant.

I have witnessed that this occurs mainly when the submissive and the Dominant move to quickly...when the Dominant tends to agree with all the submissives wants and desires just to be able to add that submissive to the shelf with all the other past submissives, and when the submissive agrees with all the Dominants wants and desires only to be able to say they are collared or at least belong to One Dominant.

Any Dominant worth their grain in salt knows that the submissive will fall in love with them way before the Dominant does. This has been proven time and time again as the submissive tends to depend on the Dominant for everything ... unlike the Dominant that does not truly have to depend on the submissive for much. The submissive has In my opinion a much deep seeded need or craving to fulfill than the Dominant. Therefore when a true submissive does give their gift it is because they have found one worthy to give it to...Not saying that Dominants do not give a lot as well...but they are not giving anywhere near as much as the submissive. Again any honest Dominant surely has to agree with that statement...if not I will forever stand alone with it.

We all have hearts and feelings that have at one time or the other been ripped apart...we all have had ideals and plans shattered on the roads we choose in this life and this lifestyle ...so I will remind us all that we owe it to each other to be humane and treat each other as humans...not toys...as it was written, there is a time and place for everything...we need to be sure that we learn the right time for giving and for receiving this very special gift...

I am thinking we would all be better off as well if we looked at this truly as a gift and remember gifts are not meant to be returned ...hey this is love and life, not Walmart...

Submissives go slow...choose wisely...choose only the Dominant that will truly cherish you and your gift and not return it to you Used and worn out and shattered...

Dominants remember the gift you hurt now will some day be a cherished gift for another to mend to spend much time repairing your damage before the Dominant can receive the true total gift...But the gift you find that you truly must have, someone else has used and shattered and now due to them you will have to work long and hard to repair...

The gift of submission is meant to be a gift for life...submissive Dominant sexual PLAY is not ... please learn the difference and stop the abuse of our submissives souls...

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