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Recently, a friend stated
that understanding the "hard wiring of a slave, compared to a
submissive, was giving her some difficulty, and she asked the
interesting question of whether a slave, would EVER feel it is their
"right" (a very loaded worry for a slave) to leave their Owner...
perhaps if: circumstances became so "different" that the slave felt
their emotional or physical well being was at risk?
My reply was, and
still is -- as follows:
Firstly, i think you're correct, with your use of the term
used it myself, and by hardwiring, in this
case, i mean a genetic or predisposed disposition towards
a certain type of living condition that most others not
only don't need in order to be happy, but couldn't exist
happily within. And whereas a slave's thought process
allows them to understand and experience this type
of living condition as having a need met, others--not having
this need--cannot quite see it in this light. So while submissives
and slaves have a great deal in common, where
they diverge, they become rather foreign to one another.
Speaking, from this point on, in broad generalities... You are
correct in saying that slaves find the word "right" to be loaded,
because a slave exists with the understanding that
once owned, they no longer have rights within their Master
relationship, but only whatever privileges their
might allow them to have. This is a necessary
of slavery, and meets a need for both the
and the slave... one to have control, and the other
relinquish it. It is then the Owner's prerogative to return
the slave whatever privileges they desire the slave to
and the abilities the slave needs, in order to be of
and to be content within their enslavement. So,
without the Owner giving the slave the ability, by either
or a direct order; or the slave having a standing
to do so if certain predetermined criteria are met;
slave does not have the right to leave.
Also-- and something which is a bit different --many slaves do
not have the ability to leave, either. And this is precisely
why slavery, or the enslavement of another, is a dangerous
thing in which to become involved. Sometimes, one does not grasp all the
implications until it is
This can be a bit of a touchy subject, since most people, even submissives, don't understand the mindset, and sometimes
when slaves voice these things which are their
truths, they are looked upon as being mentally incompetent,
or as if they are aliens set down amongst you.
It is also part of why so many slaves will tell you that
they did not want to be a slave, and why so many, myself
included, have tried so hard to be something else.
I have been told multiple times that "everyone can
leave", and have refuted that statement as best i am able.
often aren't understood, however, because they
deal with a particular way of thinking that seems individual
to slaves. It is simply assumed that if someone is
physically able to do so, at a certain point they will remove
them self from a relationship that is "bad" or "dangerous",
and this just isn't true.
The "ability to leave" is a misleading statement, as it
often dependent upon the perceptions of the individual.
Having the physical ability does not mean that the
mental/emotional capability to follow through with the action
exists, nor does it consider any psychological conditioning
prohibiting this action that may be in place within
the slave's mind. Many, many slaves do not have the
mental/emotional capacity--after years of training and psychological
modification to accept a different life and reality--that
would allow them the ability to "just leave". It isn't
that simple. Regardless that this mindset is considered,
in general, to be mentally/emotionally unsound
and psychologically unhealthy, that doesn't negate
it's actual existence. (Most people accept the conventional
wisdom of "mind over matter" only when it suits
them to do so; but because someone does not believe
a thing, that doesn't make it any less the truth.) slaves
simply know, in their hearts, and in their heads, that
they are owned property and cannot do anything without
the permission of their Owner; and having lived, sometimes
for decades--as a slave, their lives, as well as their
Owners' actions, condition them until this mindset becomes
an irrefutable truth.
There is also the very real possibility that a slave, once released
or having left their Owner, will no longer be capable
of functioning properly on their own in society and
the greater world. Sudden withdrawal of the control and
structure they have become used to existing within can
very easily overwhelm a slave who has not been "prepared"
and de- and/or re-conditioned. Much as a wild animal
that has been tamed and become dependent on man,
a slave becomes dependent upon their Owner; and much
as that wild animal must be taught how to care for itself
again in the wild, so must a slave be re-taught what was
once "normal" behavior. This is a very scary realization.
Another of the arguments i often hear is that someone cannot
be held against their will, as it is illegal. Because something
is illegal, it doesn't necessarily follow that it doesn't
happen... just that it isn't enforceable by law.. Murder
isn't legal, either, and I'm afraid it happens on an all-too-regular
basis. Something can also be enforced by conditions
that have nothing to do with the law, as well; the
Mafia does it all the time.
My final point is the matter of a slave's honor, which should
never be written off too lightly. While realize that it
may not be true for the majority of people these days, many
people--including some people of the slave variety--believe
that their word and honor is a greater bond
than any chain made in this world, and they would, quite
literally, die before breaking their given vow, or sully the
honor of either their Owners, or themselves. This would,
once again, negate the physical ability to leave, and
such slaves are therefore bound for the duration of their
commitment... even if that to which they committed proves
to be undeserving.
So, without painting all slaves the same with a single broad
brush, i have now given you an answer, and some of
the reasoning for it, from one slave's POV.
that there will be different opinions from other slaves,
different answers and reasoning, and so i will add the
caveat that all such differing opinions are as valid and true
for those who make them, as these i have stated here
are for myself; furthermore, i hope others will post some
of those different opinions.
(c) copyright rory doulos, 2004
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