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shewolf shares her thoughts... Respect
Respect is something that can be so simple, yet so
complex. In it's basic form, it's a common courtesy. As a
submissive meets and greets a Dominant, she respects their position and
will refer to him as Sir or her as Ma'am. We are taught as children
this simple respect of addressing someone of importance with the proper
title. Our teachers in school were Mr. and Mrs., our clergy are
Pastor, Father, Reverend, Rabbi, fill in the blank with whichever title fits
you, it is Dr. Thompson, never Bill. This is a common courtesy,
respect in its basic form to show them you understand their position, and
you appreciate their hard work for earning that title. So the
submissive greets a Dominant with this same respect.
Respect changes as a relationship changes. As the
two become friends, it changes from a courtesy to a deeper feeling.
She begins to understand the Dominant and his knowledge, and her respect to
him shows this.
Should it go any farther, get any deeper, and the two
decide to begin a D/s relationship together, it changes again. The
submissive uses this deep respect to form the trust she needs to submit
to him. The two go hand in hand, for we can not trust someone we don't
respect, and we can not submit to one we don't trust.
How does the Dominant earn this respect? After the
common courtesy at the initial meeting, it is judged by his actions, his
words, his stand on issues. We submissives are watching, we keep track
of who has similar views, this is how friendships develop everywhere, not
just in the BDSM lifestyle.
Should this friendship blossom into a Master/slave
relationship, then the respect changes again. The slave respects her
Master's decisions. She respects his judgment in how to handle
her, body and soul. It takes the deepest sense of respect to form
the trust, the bond, it takes to place your entire well being in his hands.
Respect goes so much beyond the kneeling, the Sir or
Ma'am, or placing the correct capitol letters o/l. It is a feeling,
knowing that this person is what they say they are, it can not be coerced or
forced. It can not be hurried along, it grows and blooms at it's own
pace. And just like the gentle blossom, it can be damaged and die too
easy.
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