Safe words and dropping ribbons are wonderful, but what if your submissive can't do that? Are You looking for the non-verbal cues that they are reaching that place where you need to step back?

I had a sad conversation with a Dom this morning who did not. His relationship is over because He didnt recognize she had slipped into subbie space and couldn't use her safe word.

A nonverbal cue is a physical reaction one gives in response to a stimuli-- whether that be sensory or auditory.

So, Master says, "subbie lick My boots faster" And subbie replies with "rolling my eyes." she is giving a nonverbal cue. A subbie goes running around the room and a Top 'arches an eyebrow as I watch'-- The top is giving a nonverbal cue.

Well these cues can also be read rt or ct in a scene. I know when subservient's posts get choppy and (sometimes) 'blonde' *smiling at him*, she is really in that submissive place and is lost. she needs Me to recognize that without necessarily verbalizing it to Me. So I step back and let her process before moving forward. In rt I have a slave who goes totally silent when she is in that place-- if you knew her, silence is not her thing *L* So when she starts fading like that
I know where to go with her and where NOT to go.

Sometimes in hard edge play a safe word or sign isn't enough. And that is a hard thing to judge. You don't want to pull back prematurely but watching for those signs is important. I had one sub who never used a safe word because she wouldn't. It made Me crazy, but she said she didn't have to because I knew when it was too much-- it's only because I could read her nonverbal cues and took the time to find them.

I've missed them too, though. W/we all have missed those signals at one point or another. But knowing what Y/your tells are and Y/your partner knowing them too, can make the time together better.

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