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101: A Realistic Introduction
The internet can be a wonderful
instrument to meet people, develop friendships and relationships. But
along with all the good the internet brings, there are real risks. I would
like to believe that i live in a world where everyone is honest and they
have only honorable intentions. Unfortunately, I don't. Being aware of the
risks, using common sense and watching out for one another is the best way
for us all to be safe.
The Online Predator
The Online Predator is one who uses the mechanisms of
cyber space to hunt human beings with the intent to exploit, rob, plunder
and pillage their body, mind, heart and soul.
Characteristics of a
1. Liar: ( Self explanatory )
2. Deceiver: His self
situation is presented as other than what it is.
3. Betrayer: He is
likely to break trust.
4. Insecure: He is worried that others will be
5. Inconsistent: He will say one thing while doing another.
6. Lacking Honor: Usually while protesting that he has honor.
Lack of Respect: He will tend to denigrate others.
8. Transient: He is
unlikely to have many long term friends.
9. Manipulator: He calculates
and contrives for his own benefit to the detriment of his partner.
Secretive: He will tend to cloak himself and his activities.
Charming: If he could not steal your breath away, he would not be a
12. Selective: He will pick victims carefully,
looking for weaknesses and filling those voids completely. 13. Chameleon:
He will appear to fit any need perfectly and adapt to fill any desire.
14. Lacking in Self Control: Although at times, he may have extraordinary
self control and discipline.
A predator probably exhibits these
characteristics in all aspects of his life. It may be that the only place
the predator seems to have honor and value Truth is in the Relationship he
is developing with his victim. When developing a new relationship, a
submissive should make a conscious effort to observe her partner's
interaction with others, not just how he interacts with her. The predator
may well reveal his true self through his interactions. But, the
submissive may only see this revelation if she is committed to taking
every precaution for her own safety.
Predator Warning Signals:
While any of these phrases or actions may be acceptable in a given
context, pay close attention when seeing or hearing them.
Do not tell _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ .
( _ _ _ _ _ ) is crazy ! ( or
psycho, sick, a liar, or out to get me )
It would be best if you no
longer spoke to _ _ _ _ _ _ _.
I do not need to defend myself against
lies. They are just jealous ( of me, of us, of what we have, that you have
May seldom be in the D/s chat rooms. Operates from
other areas or private rooms.
Has personal information which is
incomplete or not verifiable.
Becomes defensive or angry when
Questions the sincerity of the submissive when questioned.
He will usually discourage or forbid the practice of reference checks.
He will usually discourage or forbid the use of Safe Calls.
The Submissives Personal
These are items that a submissive should pay
attention to if she is saying them to herself or hearing them from others.
I feel he is just too good to be true.
You are hearing
consistent warnings from more that one person.
Your instincts are
whispering something is not right about this person.
best defense any submissive has against an Online Predator is her own
common sense and judgment. The submissive should always remember that
desires, needs, and the heat of the moment can combine to drown that
judgment. Always take a moment to step back, take a deep breath and look
at a potential partner with common sense and not with passion.
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