Online D/s Relationships: How to Start a Relationship with that Perfect Submissive

A New Dominant's Guide

You have finally found the perfect online home - an alternative site where women who like to submit are a dime a dozen and always chatting in rooms like humiliation chat etc. You have found nirvana according to you and just jump in. Nothing happens though, women cyber with you once and then ignore you the next time. You get called a troll and people are mean to you. How do you get past this? How do you get accepted as part of the group and how do you increase your harem on online slaves?

First off, it starts with your profile. Try to be descriptive and articulate. Make yourself seem interesting and worth the effort. Avoid photos of your genitals completely. Women do not fall for that, they fall for you and your dominance. Fill in your kink list and try to tell everyone as much about yourself without giving away too much. Now you can enter the chat rooms. When you do, greet everyone and watch the room for a while. Read profiles and get to know people that way, along with what turns them on in chat. Make sure that you are the consummate voyeur, but that you also open up slowly but surely. Bursting into the room screaming for a submissive to serve you immediately is going to get you banned or ignored.

Once you are established as a person, you can start sending emails out to those women you liked in the room, inviting them to get to know you. Make sure that you make some reference to something in their individual profiles that you liked and never start an email with a silly command that shows off your inexperience.

When you go into the room, be friendly and supportive to those same women and build trust. One day you can suddenly grab her by the hair and drag her over to your chair or your furs, whichever you prefer. By then you should know exactly what would get her all excited too. Be descriptive and give her a whole picture, feasting on all her senses. Erotic writing that can capture their imagination turns on women. Use that bit if knowledge to your advantage and play with all her senses using text. Do not use text speak.

When you are done and you have had some form of release, you need to hold the submissive close and care for her, thanking her for the time spent together and making sure that she is fine before you strut off into the darkness. Online aftercare is just as important as the real thing. You will have her in your pocket and you never know, this could be the beginning of a lovely relationship. I met my husband this way in 2005.

Send her an email thanking her after the fact too and make sure that she feels appreciated. Next time you enter the chat room and she is there, command her to serve you. If she runs to your side and commences to want to do whatever pleases you, you have succeeded.

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