Spanking for Stress Relief
An Overview of the History, Philosophy, and Science behind the Effectiveness of the Use of Spankings for Emotional Stress Relief in Women, as it Relates to Domestic Discipline.
by Master's vixen
by Master's vixen
The content, with the exclusion of my conclusion at the end, is all compiled from various websites and is not my original information.
Is Spanking The New Therapy?
While a spanking is in no way a substitute to actual real therapy with a licensed therapist, cathartic spankings can be empowering and offer a much needed release. When it happens, it's very cleansing and creates a powerful bond between spanker and spankee. Past feelings of guilt come to the forefront. Feelings of depression are lifted. Some people report a sense of eurphoria or even epiphany. They really feel like they received a jump-start in making change or resolving a pain of the past.
The spanking is a way to bring things into present moment so that they can be dealt with in the here and now. The release offers momentary relief but ongoing work is necessary to really make the process long lasting. There are no 'quick fixes' to undo a lifetime of past hurt and pain. The spanking catharsis offers a short cut to the buried feeling. Now that the emotion is identified real therapeutic work can begin. Deep wounds need to be cleaned out before scar tissue forms. This is not a substitute for the long-term benefits of traditional psychotherapy. Instead, spanking can offer an arena for getting in touch with suppressed emotions.
Spanking is not necessarily about receiving
pain for the sake of pain. There's actual relief when a spanking is
given for the purposes of resolving inner conflict or turmoil. We
are in pain when we feel, depressed trapped and hopeless. We can
talk about it but we don't really experience the deep emotional
feelings that lay buried within. The pain is pervasive and festers.
Sometimes we don't notice it. Other times, it stops us from
functioning like being stuck in a derailed train with doors that
So how is it that a spanking can have the power to heal?
Does one pain negate the other pain? Is it the physical pain that
can creates a path to the emotional pain? the answers is as complex
as each individual. What is true is that for some, spanking really
does provide a powerful emotional release. Spankings sometimes have
the ability to quickly get us to a place of true emotional
awareness. Spankings give us permission to finally experience and
let go of long forgotten hurts.
So how is it that a spanking can have the power to heal? Does one pain negate the other pain? Is it the physical pain that can creates a path to the emotional pain? the answers is as complex as each individual. What is true is that for some, spanking really does provide a powerful emotional release. Spankings sometimes have the ability to quickly get us to a place of true emotional awareness. Spankings give us permission to finally experience and let go of long forgotten hurts.
Many of us were taught to keep our feelings to ourselves. We might have had parents who told us to be quiet or "they'd give us something to cry about". Anger and pain were considered unacceptable. None of us were told to go to our room when we felt happy. Yet we were told to leave when we were feeling out of sorts. There was nobody present to acknowledge and accept our real state of mind. Thus, we learned to suppress and ignore our real emotions.
Sometimes a long, lengthy spanking can help us get to a
place where we finally feel like we can release deeply held pent up
emotions. Consider this from someone who recently had a spanking
Sometimes a long, lengthy spanking can help us get to a place where we finally feel like we can release deeply held pent up emotions. Consider this from someone who recently had a spanking catharsis:
"I have felt badly about some of my decisions and the way I have been living my life. I have not been living up to my potential and I've been feeling badly about myself in general. I am a spanking fetishist and though I mostly enjoy spanking as a sexual release I decided to see a professional disciplinarian to help set me straight. When we met, she simply asked me about my issues and we discussed the conflicts I was experiencing. She then matter of factly informed me that a spanking was in order to help straighten me out and set me on the correct path. I was instructed to lay over her lap and was told that the spanking would not stop until I (not you) feel confident that we've reached our goals.
The spanking was swift and fast. No warm up. No implements except for a short but intense volley with a small wooden hairbrush at the end. The spanking stung but it wasn't intolerable. What I really remember is that the spanking went on and on. Every time I thought it reached its crescendo and would be over, it began again. This went on several times. I kept thinking it was over but it kept going on.
I vividly recall the moment when my spanking catharsis occurred. I felt I could take no more but I was held firmly in place. I squirmed a lot and even tried to 'swim' off her knee. Nothing changed so I had to really sink down and realize that this was out of my control. I was in the hands of someone bigger and stronger than me. That feeling translated into power. Her words then finally had true impact on me. I knew what she was saying was right. I knew that I had been procrastinating and I really had to make a change.
I finally 'got it' and then I connected to some of the past pains of my life. At that moment I broke down and sobbed real tears. They didn't last long but the experience is powerful and something that I'll never forget. I'm not sure I want to have this experience again but at the time it was incredibly helpful and ground breaking. I believe that this kind of spanking is difficult to achieve. I was feeling incredibly needy at the time and I luckily was spanked by someone who could tune in to my feelings."
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