Spanking for Stress Relief
An Overview of the
History, Philosophy, and Science behind the Effectiveness of the Use
of Spankings for Emotional Stress Relief in Women, as it Relates to
Domestic Discipline.
The content, with the
exclusion of my conclusion at the end, is all compiled from various
websites and is not my original information.
Is Spanking The New Therapy?
While a spanking is in no way a substitute to actual real therapy with a licensed therapist, cathartic spankings can be empowering and offer a much needed release. When it happens, it's very cleansing and creates a powerful bond between spanker and spankee. Past feelings of guilt come to the forefront. Feelings of depression are lifted. Some people report a sense of eurphoria or even epiphany. They really feel like they received a jump-start in making change or resolving a pain of the past.
The spanking is a way to bring things into present moment so that they can be dealt with in the here and now. The release offers momentary relief but ongoing work is necessary to really make the process long lasting. There are no 'quick fixes' to undo a lifetime of past hurt and pain. The spanking catharsis offers a short cut to the buried feeling. Now that the emotion is identified real therapeutic work can begin. Deep wounds need to be cleaned out before scar tissue forms. This is not a substitute for the long-term benefits of traditional psychotherapy. Instead, spanking can offer an arena for getting in touch with suppressed emotions.
Spanking is not necessarily about receiving
pain for the sake of pain. There's actual relief when a spanking is
given for the purposes of resolving inner conflict or turmoil. We
are in pain when we feel, depressed trapped and hopeless. We can
talk about it but we don't really experience the deep emotional
feelings that lay buried within. The pain is pervasive and festers.
Sometimes we don't notice it. Other times, it stops us from
functioning like being stuck in a derailed train with doors that
won't open.
Many of us were taught to keep our feelings
to ourselves. We might have had parents who told us to be quiet or
"they'd give us something to cry about". Anger and pain were
considered unacceptable. None of us were told to go to our room when
we felt happy. Yet we were told to leave when we were feeling out of
sorts. There was nobody present to acknowledge and accept our real
state of mind. Thus, we learned to suppress and ignore our real
emotions.
"I have felt badly
about some of my decisions and the way I have been living my life. I
have not been living up to my potential and I've been feeling badly
about myself in general. I am a spanking fetishist and though I
mostly enjoy spanking as a sexual release I decided to see a
professional disciplinarian to help set me straight. When we met,
she simply asked me about my issues and we discussed the conflicts I
was experiencing. She then matter of factly informed me that a
spanking was in order to help straighten me out and set me on the
correct path. I was instructed to lay over her lap and was told that
the spanking would not stop until I (not you) feel confident that
we've reached our goals.
The spanking was swift
and fast. No warm up. No implements except for a short but intense
volley with a small wooden hairbrush at the end. The spanking stung
but it wasn't intolerable. What I really remember is that the
spanking went on and on. Every time I thought it reached its
crescendo and would be over, it began again. This went on several
times. I kept thinking it was over but it kept going on.
I vividly recall the
moment when my spanking catharsis occurred. I felt I could take no
more but I was held firmly in place. I squirmed a lot and even tried
to 'swim' off her knee. Nothing changed so I had to really sink down
and realize that this was out of my control. I was in the hands of
someone bigger and stronger than me. That feeling translated into
power. Her words then finally had true impact on me. I knew what she
was saying was right. I knew that I had been procrastinating and I
really had to make a change.
I finally 'got it' and
then I connected to some of the past pains of my life. At that
moment I broke down and sobbed real tears. They didn't last long but
the experience is powerful and something that I'll never forget. I'm
not sure I want to have this experience again but at the time it was
incredibly helpful and ground breaking. I believe that this kind of
spanking is difficult to achieve. I was feeling incredibly needy at
the time and I luckily was spanked by someone who could tune in to
my feelings."
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