Sharing Responsibility

Hi,

 

i find this question so interesting.  i was released after a mid term relationship because He was very into the lifestyle, ie: public play.....and some extreme play, in addition to other things.  One of Oour last discussions was about just this topic.  i view my submission as being "traditional".  i serve in all ways.  Everything i do during my day, is about my giving over to him, whether it is putting the toilet paper on the the spindle as He likes or doing the dishes.  When i said that He said that those things were not about submission but just everyday things.  So i had to wonder about why my serving Him his evening snack was not viewed as an act of submission, or asking if there was anything i could bring to him.  If Wwe ate watching tv......i would remove all plates...if at the dining table, i cleared.  i never asked for help, nor expected help, to me it was how i served my One...made his life more comfortable.  How i gave to him what was His.  All those small daily things that are looked at as nothing are to me acts of submission. 

 

alexandra

Yes, the acknowledgement that our service is noticed is always special.  i am a bit amazed by how few Dominants see that service as part and parcel of our submission.  i wonder if that is because it is not seen as having value or is it because it is something they see as vanilla?  i would love to hear from some Dominants on this subject.

 

alexandra

From: alexandrasmiles

Sent: 2/25/2006 6:47 PM

after a mid term relationship because He was very into the lifestyle,

 I saw this question  and decide to copy paste it to my submissive venus for her answer.

 

 

 Its called the Lifestyle for a reason. It encompasses all areas of life not just the sexual fetish. A good submissive takes care of her Dom's needs and that includes the home. If there are special considerations, such as a full time job and kids to care for as well,she will do her best and her Dom will recognize the effort.

         -vênúš-TXRénMän

 

 

Thanks

Ren

i totally see doing the dishes as being part of this lifestyle.  as venus stated...it is called "lifestyle".  to share for a minute...i recently had the opportunity to visit with my Master for a length of time.  All he requested of me during my stay with him was for me to relax and enjoy myself...be on vacation.

 

But for me having the opportunity to serve him...be there for him by cleaning the kitchen...washing his clothes...making the bed...doing housework...just making sure that he had that peace after coming home from work was total enjoyment.  it is those things that go unnoticed because as Alexandra says they are "everyday things" is what encompasses my submission.

 

Thanks.

 

TK's angel~

Interesting question.  i can't really say that doing the dishes or housework in general is part of O/our D/s lifestyle. It needs to be done and W/we do it.  i do usually end up doing most of the dishes because i'm home more but my husband/Dom does His share of it too.  Once again because it needs to be done.  Neither of U/us particularly like doing housework and that is probably why my husband/Dom helps out.  That and He doesn't want me to feel like he married me just to be His maid.  He always validates what i do for him, particularly when i go out of my way for Him, like cook His favorite meal or doing the yard work so He doesn't have to when He gets home, taking care of His son (my stepson) - which means the most to Him.  And the most important thing W/we do in O/our relationship is W/we both say thank Y/you for the things W/we do for each O/other.

 

i suppose doing dishes can be a part of the lifestyle if that is what the couple wish to do within their lifestyle, but it may not hold true to all couples.

 

trace