A submissives journey

I feel that a Christian dominant should think of himself as a steward of the submissive that God has given him. Speaking for myself, I think of myself as a caretaker and guardian of my submissive... one who has a charge to protect and nurture her.

What should a Christian submissive think about herself?

A Christian submissive should first think of herself as a child of God and therefore precious in His sight. She is submissive first and foremost to Christ. She should feel she has a precious gift to offer the special Dominant God has for her. As His helpmeet she adds balance to the relationship. A Christian submissive should know that in she is unique and God will give her the strength she needs to submit

What should a Christian dominant think about his submissive?

A Christian dominant should think of his submissive the same way that God thinks of her. Again using myself as an example, I believe that my submissive is my "treasured possession" just as God called Israel His "treasured possession" (Exodus 19:4-6)

What should a Christian submissive think about her dominant?

She should think of Him as her protector, mentor, provider, lover and friend. The Christian submissive should be able to trust her Dominant in all things. She should know He will be consistent in His treatment of her. She should feel safe. A submissive or slave should never have reason to fear her Dominant.

If a Christian dominant expects his submissive to let him lead her 100%, should he expect to replace God in the submissive's life?

He shouldn't. The dominant should be led 100% by God; so, by extension, hey should be leading his submissive 100% by God's direction. In other words, the dominant should assist his submissive in her relationship with God and not stand in the way of that relationship. In fact, the dominant should encourage his submissive's spiritual relationship, and correct any wavering from that path.

If a Christian submissive is 100% submissive to her dominant, does that mean that she no longer has a personal relationship with God and can only go through her dominant to talk to and obey God?

Absolutely not. The D/s relationship does not supplant her relationship with God. It is only a shadow of that relationship. The submissive is still responsible for her own spiritual relationship with God.

What kind of consequences does a Christian dominant receive when he sins?

That depends. If the dominant sins alone, he receives the sin consequence he should. If he causes his submissive to sin, IMHO he also takes on her sin as the one who led her to sin.

If a Christian dominant is supposed to present the submissive before God as a clean vessel, does this mean that when the submissive sins, the dominant has to bear the consequences since he was in charge and failed to keep the submissive on the straight and narrow?

No. The submissive does not give up her free will in the eyes of God (again, IMHO), so if she sins independently of her dominant's leading, she alone is responsible for that sin. For example, would you blame the dominant for the submissive having an adulterous relationship on her own?

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