Never strike anyone with a hard instrument in the following areas:
in the back which could cause severe back problems, paralysis, and
possibly death. Never strike with a hard instrument on the sides or
stomach because you could damage the kidneys, or any of the digestive
organs, which could cause severe medical problems and possible death.
Never strike anyone over a bony protuberance such as the knees or ankles
etc, as this can cause broken bones or ligament damage. Never strike
anyone in the face with a hard instrument for obvious reasons: eye
damage, broken bones, broken teeth, etc. Never strike on the throat with
any sort of instrument, hard or soft as this could cause damage to the
trachea and possible death.
Never slap anyone in the face unless
you know their medical history. You never slap a person with a history
of epilepsy, seizures, with eye problems such as retinopathy, people
with diabetes, or anyone with a history of stroke, or anyone with recent
head trauma, or people that suffer severe migraines.
Never cut
the wrists, ankles, upper inner arms, upper inner thighs, or throat as
this could cause someone to bleed to death. Never cut into the vagina,
the penis, or the anus as this could cause bacterial infections, and
makes the person more prone to STD's, and could cause very disfiguring
keloids to form. Likewise never scratch inside the vagina or anus for
the same reason. Never cut anyone anywhere on their body that has had a
keloid or has a history of keloids in their family, or is a hemophiliac
period, being anemic could possibly be a concern when cutting, this
would have to be a personal research issue. Never cut the ankles or
knees because of the risk of ligament damage. If piercing the genitals
have it done by a professional, to cut the risk of infection. Likewise
never pierce someone that has had a keloid or has a family history of
them, especially in soft tissue such as the genitals, nipples, or mouth.
And of course when cutting or piercing, always disinfect the skin before
and afterwards, the instrument used, before and afterwards, and put an
antibiotic ointment and dressing on the cuts.
When performing
bondage, make sure all the bondage implements work correctly and have
quick safety releases incase a problem should arise. If binding with
rope or material, have a knife handy incase you need to suddenly cut
someone lose. Check constantly for loss of circulation, if the skin
feels cool to the touch, looks bluish, purple, or blotchy, immediately
unbind the person, stop the scene, or change bondage positions. Same
goes for suspension, check constantly for loss of circulation. And of
course, never have someone bound or suspended and walk off and leave
them, or not leave them a way out should something happen to you.
When fisting, some would suggest using a glove, to keep from
introducing bacteria and contaminants into the vagina. If you don't want
to use a glove, make very sure the hand and arm are thoroughly
disinfected, cut the nails, and make sure they are very clean underneath
and thoroughly disinfected. It is ill advised to fist the anus, although
some people engage in this. The problem being it tears easily, and if
you tear high enough into the anus, the person will bleed to death
within a matter of minutes and there will be nothing you can do to stop
the bleeding, and it is doubtful medical personnel could get there in
time to save them. If you must engage in this, go very slowly, introduce
the anus to gradually larger implements to stretch it, and make sure it
is very well lubricated. However, the best advise is not to engage in
anal fisting, as there is the very real possibility of death.
If
engaging in electrical play, once again know the persons medical
history, if epileptic, has a history of seizures, or heart problems,
don't engage in this. Never use electrical stimulants above the waist,
as you could cause arrythmia or heart attack.
If engaging in
fire play, most important, research and get some mentoring from an
expert, this is seriously dangerous play!!!!! Have a fire blanket on
hand, have a fire proof drop cloth under the person, have a fire
extinguisher ready, have wet towels ready, have a bucket of water on
hand. Never do flash firing of the face, or put alcohol on the skin of
the face when engaging in fire play. Never do fireplay on a hairy part
of the body, and it is advisable to shave beforehand. never do fireplay
on a bed or carpet. If doing streaking, flashing, or fire batons,
immediately put out any fire on the submissives body with your free
hand.
If engaging in wax play, never use beeswax or metallic,
scented, or decorated candles as these burn too hotly. The best rule of
thumb is to use plain white candles, as some colored candles can also
burn too hotly.
When gagging someone, make sure they aren't
nauseous or have a severe gag reflex, as this could cause them to vomit
and aspirate it into the lungs when the gag blocks it from leaving the
mouth, which quite often kills.
Breath play is a very serious
and dangerous form of edge play. The safety concerns are obvious, one
that may not be so obvious is asking whether someone is asthmatic.
When using a whip, be careful of it wrapping and damaging a place
You didn't intend to strike. Canes can also wrap, so take care when
using them.
And of course not using protection when exchanging
bodily fluids unless You know the person has been tested and you saw the
results, is just plain stupid.
And very, very important, if you
are scening in private, let someone you trust know that you are scening,
and have them check on you every hour or so, should something go very
very wrong.
History. Get one and give one. Hopefully you
wouldn't have sex with a person without a conversation, certainly don't
let them beat you or beat without a (or several) conversations. I am
amazed by the number of people who take things at face value. He or she
has cuffs and a whip and an ad at alt.com, so it must be so. If you are
inexperienced, just be up front about it. One may find an experienced
partner or someone to learn with.
Baby Steps: Don't start with
fisting. It takes a lot of training. Don't start with needle play. Don't
start with knife play. Try a good old fashioned spanking the first time.
Assumptions. Don't assume that what you see in a ct scene is like an rt
scene. My ct scenes are missing A LOT of information. They work the
psychological aspect of the viewer(s) not the physical aspect of the
involved. Don't expect that what you see is what you would necessarily
get. I've never slipped on spilled lube in a ct scene, but in rt I did
once. And I don't scene in 4-inch stilettos either-- 2 inch is more the
norm. So much is left out of ct scening for the sake of effect and
frankly time management, but ask questions if you want to the know the
efficacy of a scene. CT is fantasy and that's great. But start with THAT
assumption rather than the 'what you see is what you get' assumption.
Safety. Have HIV tests performed
before any fluid play--twice. Never have oral sex without a condom
and/or dental dam unless you are in a committed relationship with
testing completed-twice. Ggirl's miss taking their pills--use a condom.
Bboys lie about std's-- use a condom. Latex gloves are great, but some
people have really bad reactions to the latex (prolonged use), so check
that first ad be prepared. When scening in rt that requires bondage, or
anything over a spanking-- videotape--not just sign- the person agreeing
to accepting what areas they are willing to try and what their limits
are. If they change their mind during the scene, removing a limit, too
damn bad! Next time, change the agreement. Ds is having some
rough times in the courts-- don't be a tragic affair! Have a
safety mechanism-- sometimes I use words; sometimes I use a scarf; I had
one with a horn; and another who sang 'i'm a little tea pot'-- but have
one. If you are in a slave relationship-- have one! And follow it. We
all know that 'no' does not always mean 'no', but that safe term should
be upheld.
Plan. Make sure you and
your counterpart understand afterplay. Don't assume that the Dom/Top is
sticking around and don't assume that the sub/slave wants to or can
'release' after a beating. Talk about what your expectations are with
the scene. Afterwards discuss what went well and what sucked! Not every
scene is stellar and not discussing leads to further disappointments.
Have first aid kit and the number of a friend who can help. Go through
limits before the meeting not during.
These are just some basic safety rules, they are not
all encompassing, there are many others, some I am sure I forgot, and
forms of play I didn't touch as I have very little to no experience in,
such as branding, and water play, etc. Most are just common sense rules.
So happy scening, but be safe!
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