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Pregnancy and BDSM

I have been looking all over the net to find any pregnancy and BDSM information and there is really very little information to be had. So with that in mind i ask the question....Are there any health issues that we should be aware of ?

A few points to note:

As a general rule of thumb, there is very little you can do that will harm you or your baby. The baby is nicely tucked away in an environment that has been designed by nature with only one goal in mind: whatever happens keep the baby alive. Your uterus is extremely strong, flexible and the water inside will absorb almost any shock. As a result, the majority of sexual activities can be performed safely during pregnancy.

However, in a BDSM context there are a few things to consider

• You may have seen pregnancy bondage videos. A good advice: don't do it. The shots you see are almost all trick shots and tying the belly is simply dangerous.
• In general, avoid emotional and physical strain during pregnancy (your body has enough on its hands as it is) so adapting your play is advised. Keep it mild and simple and don't try and do anything that will drain you, put extra pressure on your already overburdened spine, shoulders and pelvis, hence no bondages (not even your hands behind your back) and no complicated stuff.
• Heath care professional have said that the effects of subspace are harmless to the fetus. What may be harmful however is how it effects you. Your body is going through so many hormonal changes so please do keep in mind that you will probably go through changes in your reactions to things as well.
• There are various forms of play that are obviously unsafe and playing "hard" is not recommended.
• A little mild whipping and spanking will do no harm, but keep it down
• Breast stimulation CAN cause contractions so you will have to see for yourself if it does or not.
• Nipple play won't harm, but as a result of your pregnancy your nipples may feel different and things that might have been possible before may not be now

The general advice is to follow your own instinct, gut feeling and common sense. PLUS - very important for both Dom and sub - to remember that your hormones and as a result your emotions will work VERY DIFFERENTLY during pregnancy and that as a result emotions, physical responses and such may be very, very different.