First of all, these are just My preferences and they do not apply to every Dominant out there. As in any attempt towards a relationship, or even friendship, common sense and manners goes a long ways. Each relationship whether it be Dominant submissive (D/s) or not, will be very unique and individualized for the participants in that relationship.

When approaching a Dominant online, you must understand that there are many more submissives seeking a Dominant, than there are Dominants to go around. Common sense should keep you in perspective of this. When I am available, I am inundated with messages. It is absolutely impossible for Me to answer all of them, and one should not get offended in this, its just a fact of life, there is not enough time in the day for Me to answer every message, let alone have a full length conversation, and still have a life away from the computer.

It will also take a unique message from a stranger to get my attention. I do like to be impressed, and appreciate honesty, intelligence, and a sense of humor, but more so, a sincere desire to submit. I am not here for your entertainment, or to cyber with you, and that approach of it being all about you, will only get you put on ignore.

A so called submissive making it all about their self, is not on my agenda. Being pushy, rude, and demanding of Me, will only solidify your chance of not even a conversation with Me. Expecting ANYTHING from Me, will only get you the opposite. Just because I am a Dominant, does not mean I am everyone's Dominant, nor am I there to entertain you.

I personally do not mind polite IMs, even if I can not answer right away. It is the unique ones that will catch my attention and I may respond.  If you are truly interested, then you would have done your homework on a particular Dominant, and found out all you could about them. To Me that shows a genuine interest, and not just trolling the chatroom for any Dominant.

I believe in being discreet for more reasons than I can list. Those that need external validation of a situation, are those that can stay away from Me, for I like things to remain private as do many others that I know.

Some overall basics in approaching a Dominant:

Be honest.

Respectful and well mannered

Be yourself, do not put on a face

Have self-respect and be confident in who you are

Pretty simple I think

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Throwing yourself at a Dominants feet will not attract the kind of attention you want. Show confidence in yourself as a submissive, your intelligence, an ability to hold a conversation, while allowing your sincerity to shine through, and yes, it is alright to have a sense of humor and smile/laugh, rather than cower in a corner sitting quietly with nothing productive to add to the conversation.

A so called submissive that messages Me, and says I am this old, and I like this, this and that, will you cam to cam or play with me, immediately gets ignored. They are game players and into self satisfying themselves.

For Me, if I find you appealing, I will take time to get to know you, first as a friend, then if the chemistry is right, it will naturally go into a direction that is right for both of us. This is where patience comes in. Some expect immediate play, and attention 24/7. That is not going to happen, until there is a strong foundation in the relationship.

Each person has the right to be choosy in selecting a submissive/s or Dominant. When one you are interested in does not respond, take it with dignity, for if you show rudeness and pushiness, it will only build on your reputation. As with any person, whether in the lifestyle or not, treat them with respect. It will get you a lot further along, than being rude and demanding.

I can not even count the times I have asked for letters of introduction to be sent to my email, and this simple task can not be done by the so called submissive. These people go automatically on ignore, for I do not have enough time in my day for it to be wasted on insincere wannabes.

If you are not submissive and just looking to play the part, find others that are into role playing. You will get a much better response. Everyone has fetishes and desires that we wish to live out in some way, but find someone that is willing to role play with you if you truly are not submissive.

If you have just become aware of your submissiveness, knowing its been there, yet the realization has just revealed itself to you, the best thing I can give for advice is to read and educate yourself on this subject. There is a wealth of knowledge on the internet.

I do not owe my dominance to anyone, as you should not owe your submission to just anyone. Have pride in your submission, and who you give it to.

My ranting on this subject is done….for now