A submissives journey

Why am I a master? Why do I want to own someone? What is it that makes me want to control her entire life, dictating rules, overseeing and approving her every action?

Well, here's the secret: most men want to dominate, to master, because they are insecure. They want to control their environment. They want to control anything and everything that affects their lives. They want to be sure that what they have today they will also have tomorrow.

Wait a minute you say, isn't it about sex? Don't men want to have a willing woman available any time, day or night?

Sure, any man who denies it is lying, but there's more to it. Yes he does want to find you there whenever he rolls over in bed in the middle of the night, but he also wants to know you will be there tomorrow, and the next day, and the next.

He wants you to be the friend who's always there, the one he can share his secrets with, the one he can trust. Yes, trust; surprised? You hear so much about how a good submissive builds trust in her master, but you don't think about the rest of it. He has to trust you as well, trust that you will keep his secrets, trust that you will be there for him, trust that you won't walk out or turn on him.

It goes back to that basic insecurity. He wants a woman he can spend a lifetime with, but he has that craving for

control, to make sure everything is done his way. Who can best answer that need? Someone who loves him, is devoted to him, wants to serve him, take care of him, but also someone who will obey him, defer to his judgment, be it right or wrong, someone who can allow herself to become dependent on him. What type of woman would best be suited to a role like that?

The answer is obvious: a deeply submissive woman. You choose to submit to your master. Why you choose to submit is another topic, but you submit knowing that it means you accept his unrestricted authority over your lives. Is it what he really wants? Yes, and don't ever doubt it. Your submission is like a powerful narcotic drug to him.

The more he gets from you, the more he wants. It draws him to you, an attraction more powerful than you can imagine.

As a submissive it must seem that you take all the risks. You give him everything, yet he could abandon you on a whim. Reality is far different. The more you draw him in, the more power you give to him through your submission, the more he will desire you. Can you walk away from him on a whim? No? Well, he can't either. You are fulfilling dreams he has had since childhood. He would no more abandon you than he would cut off his arm. Remember this: just as his dominance holds you to him, so your submission holds him to you.

To me, domination is not about what I actually do, but the potentials, what I could do if I wished. If I were so inclined I could order my submissive to crawl on the floor barking like a dog. Am I going to do that? No, it would be silly. But I know I have the ability to make her do that if I wanted it.

See the distinction? That's why your master isn't some kind of abusive monster. He doesn't need to prove he's in charge by issuing a constant stream of orders and rules, to put you through some degrading or humiliating scene.

Rather he sees, from how you obey him, that his power over you is there anytime he wants it.

~Author Unknown~

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