A submissives journey - Thoughts on submission

desire and feel they are different. Some feel there is something wrong with having these feelings. They watch others around them and wonder why they don't seem to share or understand the desires they feel. For some, this desire to please and release control is hidden because feeling different is uncomfortable. If they discover that there is a lifestyle that embraces their desires, they will find an understanding that can soothe them. Many do not find that understanding until they are encumbered with relationships or family. They find the understanding of their desires, but find themselves unable to live them. Finding that one isn't alone in feeling these desires is comforting. Being unable to live them becomes very confining. Some find an outlet, some do not.

For those fortunate enough to discover that they aren't alone and have the freedom to explore their desires, other challenges await them. They feel they have something special to offer in a relationship, but whom should they offer it to. Will they be safe? Who should they trust?

Meeting other submissives with similar needs and desires creates

another problem. They discover that others are living their desires and dreams and the discussions between them create a deep need to experience the same sensations that their newfound friend is enjoying. This stage can create a frenzy so intense, that core values and common sense are forgotten, just to feel what has been racing through their mind. It is the most dangerous time a submissive will ever face. It is a time for friends to step forward and offer advice and caution.

Once a submissive has safely passed through the frenzy of discovery and exploration, it becomes time to begin the search for a partner that can understand their needs and desires and meet them. This is not an easy task. There will be errors in judgment, bad decisions, and even the possibility of mental and/or physical harm. If a submissive will take responsibility for their own safety, the potential harm can be minimized or eliminated. Often, this is simply a function of refusing to rush into meetings and encounters until a level of rapport and trust has been established. Setting forth their core values, as well as their needs, desires, and fantasies, adds a balance to early meetings. If the values and desires are consistent between the potential partners there is a possibility that both will find happiness.

Once a submissive finds a Master, a new set of challenges appears. Both must be prepared to accept these new challenges and work together to conquer them. They will discover that a submissive's life is filled with questions and doubts followed by moments of crystal clarity of purpose. The times of questions and doubts will return often, with clarity returning as questions and doubts are resolved. A wise and responsible Master will quickly answer questions and move to resolve doubts. As trust builds, the times of questions and doubts will lessen as the times of crystal clarity lengthen. There will always be questions and doubts, but building trust through continuing openness and communication, combined with honesty and patience, can diminish the negative impact on the relationship. It just takes work… every day... but for those willing to make the effort, the rewards ARE your dreams come true.

Michael Montgomery

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