Submission: Can it be done for life?
By glassfairy
In living my life, I have had to answer
this question in my own heart because I consider myself a
submissive. The word submission means the act of submitting,
yielding, or surrendering. Most people think that someone has to be
standing over you all day to make sure you do what you are told to
do, which is not the case at all. When you submit, you yield to the
action, control, or power of another. This type of power exchange
can run the gamut of levels from the most normal of relationships to
the owning of a slave. Every relationship has a level of submission
that has to take place. The real question is, can it be done for
life?
Look at the world for a moment. In most
marriages, the two parties agree to vows on the wedding day, but how
the relationship is going to be carried out has already been
decided. The levels of submission have been practically set in
stone. The marriage is just the worldly show of commitment that the
relationship has permanence. With divorce rates, we know how well
that commitment is taken care of, nurtured and encouraged to
encompass the changes that the two people may experience in their
ideas and life. When the two parties are pressed to change we find
neither one willing to open their hearts or minds to something that
they had not expected from the beginning.
With a different level of submission, the
two parties start down a path that is paved with change and
learning. You open yourself up to having someone else decide what
could be, but that doesn't mean that you have no input in the
matter. In any relationship, the honesty and communication are two
of the major factors determining how strong the interaction will be
and what levels of trust can be reached. With or without the worldly
show of commitment, you have the bonds of the heart which can be
made strong or broken. Trust is the ultimate question you have to
face in submission.
In the Dominant submissive lifestyle, whether it is just for
play or in real life, there is an acceptance that takes place that
is more open than what the world gives to you for your dominant or
submissive tendencies. There is a freedom in being what you are and
not wearing a mask so the ones around you will think you are normal
and not in need of mental care. Since there is no hard statistical
facts on whether Dominant submissive relationships last longer than marriages, one
can only speculate that they have just as much a chance to last as
their vanilla counterparts.
In a commitment that is life-long both
people have to be willing to accept each other and learn to adjust
to the needs and changes that will occur with maturity. At each
stage of learning we give up something even if it is a way of life
that we have grown comfortable with. The level of acceptance and
trust grows deeper with level of submission in your heart to the
other or the power you hold over the person. This opens the heart up
for pain and pleasure to the n th degree.
I understand the hesitation and the fear
that comes with letting someone else have this power over you but I
have found complete freedom in my heart and life because I have
learned to not deny my submissive tendencies and trust to the point
of knowing my life was in someone else's hands. I have stood naked
and not felt ashamed, felt the power of someone take me places I
never thought I would go, willfully denied my Master and learned
what it is to wear a collar. Submission starts in the heart, grows in
the soul and never needs to end in one's lifetime.
Can it be done for life? Yes.