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Weekly Topic/Class/Discussion Notes - Sunday, October 30, 2011

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Finding that Special Dominant or submissive

 

Class log  10-30-2011

[CJsHere] 9:00 pm: dang, looks like a small group this evening,, ;) no problem, I think we can handle it,,,,
[CJsHere] 9:01 pm: looks like a couple of new faces,, welcome to Asj,,
[CJsHere] 9:02 pm: (stalls for a moment or two to see if there are any late stragglers)
[CJsHere] 9:04 pm: spins the wheel,, watches it go round and round,, picking a topic for this evening,,,, tic, tic, tic, tic,, tic,,,, tic,,,,, tic,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, tic,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, tic,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, tic,,,,,, hmm,, interesting, yep, I guess we can do that one.. haven't done that one in awhile.
[CJsHere] 9:06 pm: I guess pretty much everyone here has at least an interest in the D/s lifestyle.
[CJsHere] 9:06 pm: and I'm guessing for most, they're actually in, or looking to be in a D/s relationship of some sort.
[cricket_NF] 9:07 pm: possibly lol
[CJsHere] 9:07 pm: but for those that aren't in a D/s relationship (yet), I wonder,, can anyone tell Me what might be some good first steps to "entering a D/s relationship"? ...
[CJsHere] 9:08 pm: even before you find that special person to enter a relationship with....
[irislady] 9:08 pm: knowledge Sir CJ
[rowan-oak] 9:08 pm: learning as much as you can about D/s
[rowan-oak] 9:08 pm: and about yourself
[irislady] 9:08 pm: reading up on the lifestyle Sir CJ
[CJsHere] 9:08 pm: hmm, knowledge,, can you be a bit more specific?
[brandy] 9:09 pm: Sir, find someone who is in agreement with you over comunication, trust, honesty and respect..
[irislady] 9:09 pm: asking questions as well Sir CJ
[CJsHere] 9:09 pm: nods, learning a bit about the lifestyle, nods, yes that might be beneficial,, figure out what it is you're getting in to so to speak,
[irislady] 9:09 pm: going to munches Sir Cj
[irislady] 9:09 pm: going on sites such as this Sir CJ
[CJsHere] 9:10 pm: it appears none of the Doms have joined us yet this evening, so can refer to you all as girls til they get here,,
[CJsHere] 9:10 pm: so,,, since all the girls are looking (or a few have) a Dom,, can I assume that most of you are looking for that one special, tall, dark and handsome millionaire with a nice flogger?
[brandy] 9:11 pm: wow....
[irislady] 9:11 pm: yes Sir but i do not care about his income Sir CJ
[laynie] 9:11 pm: lol Sir sounds about right
[CJsHere] 9:11 pm: (guess that let's Me out,, )
[cricket_NF] 9:11 pm: hecka yeah Sir...
[brandy] 9:11 pm: flogger Sir, is that a Freudian slip?
[brandy] 9:12 pm: o.k., millionaire is not a requirement..
[CJsHere] 9:12 pm: okay, so we've got that basics down pat,, we all want that super good looking partner,, no flaws in their appearance and really able to strut their stuff,,
[brandy] 9:12 pm: agrees with iris..
[CJsHere] 9:12 pm: want, not need,, but want,
[irislady] 9:12 pm: it is a need too Sir
[CJsHere] 9:13 pm: but, let's go beyond that basic "qualification" that we'd all like,, let's try to figure some other things out,
[rowan-oak] 9:13 pm: well, super good looking and flawless isn't a need
[UnusedSlave] 9:13 pm: i dont mean to interrupt but can somebody please explain the concept of the dom/ sub relationship??
[irislady] 9:13 pm: that isn't what i meant row
[cricket_NF] 9:14 pm: the hell you say row lol
[CJsHere] 9:14 pm: Do you think if you're looking for a Dom, you'd probably want one that has a few more qualifications than being good looking and calls himself a Dom?
[laynie] 9:14 pm: yes Sir
[brandy] 9:14 pm: of course..
[irislady] 9:14 pm: most definetely Sir
[stargazer] 9:15 pm: absolutely Sir
[CJsHere] 9:15 pm: hmm,, I see about 9 girls here,, do you think of the 9 girls here, each will have the same expectations of what they want and/or need in a Dom?
[curious_HB] 9:15 pm: no Sir
[CJsHere] 9:15 pm: lol. make that 10..
[laynie] 9:15 pm: no Sir not at all
[stargazer] 9:15 pm: no Sir
[irislady] 9:15 pm: no Sir
[brandy] 9:15 pm: no Sir, of course not..
[CJsHere] 9:16 pm: ahh, so you're saying that different girls might have different expectations, different wants, and yes, perhaps even different needs?
[irislady] 9:16 pm: yes Sir
[curious_HB] 9:16 pm: yes, most definitely
[stargazer] 9:16 pm: yes Sir
[subgirlpaula] 9:16 pm: yes .. i thik so Sir
[brandy] 9:16 pm: as do Doms Sir..
[laynie] 9:16 pm: yes Sir
[CJsHere] 9:17 pm: nods,,, but if we say that,, then I guess what we're also saying is that not every girl, not every Dom is alike?
[stargazer] 9:17 pm: true
[irislady] 9:17 pm: yes Sir
[CJsHere] 9:17 pm: lol. and here I thought they were all the same,,
[irislady] 9:17 pm: lol Sir
[Rod] 9:17 pm: All have noses
[Rod] 9:18 pm: and ears
[irislady] 9:18 pm: and toeses lol Sir
[CJsHere] 9:18 pm: so,, then if they're different, (Doms and sub/slaves), and they have different wants, desires, needs, etc.. then I guess a good first step might be to figure out just what it is that you're looking for to fit your specific needs, wants and desires..
[irislady] 9:19 pm: good point Sir
[CJsHere] 9:19 pm: anyone disagree with that?
[curious_HB] 9:19 pm: no Sir
[laynie] 9:19 pm: no Sir
[brandy] 9:19 pm: no Sir..
[stargazer] 9:19 pm: no Sir
[CJsHere] 9:20 pm: okay, let's try a little experiment here,, per chance, does every one have a pencil and paper handy,,,,, or a text program they can use to take a note or two with?
[laynie] 9:20 pm: yes Sir
[cupcake] 9:20 pm: yes Sir
[irislady] 9:20 pm: i will get some paper Sir
[stargazer] 9:20 pm: yes Sir
[CJsHere] 9:20 pm: will pause a brief moment while everyone runs to get a paper,
[CJsHere] 9:20 pm: and pen/pencil. lol.
[skye_Rod] 9:21 pm: microsoft word...
[CJsHere] 9:21 pm: (that works) ;)
[irislady] 9:21 pm: i am equipped Sir
[CJsHere] 9:21 pm: Okay,, here's what I want everyone to do....
[cupcake] 9:21 pm: i have my paper and pen ready :)
[Rod] 9:21 pm: penalty for fibbing girls
[irislady] 9:22 pm: yes Sir
[CJsHere] 9:22 pm: I'm going to list about a dozen traits.... (traits, qualities, characteristics,,, whatever you want to call them)..
[CJsHere] 9:22 pm: to each of these traits,, I want you to assign a number,, (will list 13 of em.. )
[The Lounge]: collaire has entered at 9:22 pm
[Rod] 9:23 pm: 13 on the night before holloween...great
[CJsHere] 9:23 pm: oh yes, I know,, many will try to get away with saying,, "they're all important, and all number 1.. but while they may all be important, no, they are not all #1
[irislady] 9:23 pm: it is my lucky number Sir
[Rod] 9:23 pm: haha
[CJsHere] 9:23 pm: I'd like each of you to rank their importance to YOU... ie., traits in a partner,, how important are they to you......
[irislady] 9:23 pm: yes Sir
[cupcake] 9:24 pm: yes Sir
[CJsHere] 9:24 pm: yes, I know, some will say, oh, they gotta have that,, but put a priority on them,, no, you won't have to share what's on your list,, so don't worry about that,,
[CJsHere] 9:24 pm: and now I've stalled enough,,,,,,, here they come,
[CJsHere] 9:24 pm: Honesty
[CJsHere] 9:24 pm: Communication Skills
[CJsHere] 9:25 pm: (and yes,, try matching these up one or two at a time, may be easier than waiting for the whole list,, yes, you can change your ranking as we go along)
[CJsHere] 9:25 pm: Decision Making Skills
[The Lounge]: skye_Rod has left at 9:25 pm
[CJsHere] 9:25 pm: Positive Self Image
[CJsHere] 9:26 pm: (yes, most of these traits are taken off the Dom list.... some submissive traits may be slightly different, but wait,, sub/slaves can have these traits too)
[CJsHere] 9:26 pm: Trustworthiness
[CJsHere] 9:26 pm: Caring
[CJsHere] 9:26 pm: Consistency
[CJsHere] 9:26 pm: Physical Characteristics
[CJsHere] 9:27 pm: Attention to Safety
[CJsHere] 9:27 pm: Authority & Control
[CJsHere] 9:27 pm: Sense of Humor
[irislady] 9:27 pm: you did that one twice
[CJsHere] 9:28 pm: Sexual Skill
[curious_HB] 9:28 pm: thats 12
[irislady] 9:28 pm: You are missing one Sir
[CJsHere] 9:29 pm: okay, we'll go with a dozen, ;)
[CJsHere] 9:29 pm: I never could count,
[Rod] 9:29 pm: haha
[irislady] 9:29 pm: lol Sir
[Rod] 9:29 pm: I can count to 21
[CJsHere] 9:29 pm: now some of you will say,, but oh,, this is missing,,, or no,, don't need that on the list,, and that's fine,
[brandy] 9:29 pm: so these traits are what the sub wants in terms of her Dom? or is it about what she has to offer?
[CJsHere] 9:29 pm: but let's work with this dozen,,
[irislady] 9:30 pm: Sir/ are we ranking them in order to what they mean to us?
[CJsHere] 9:30 pm: rank them in order of IMPORTANCE to you..
[cupcake] 9:30 pm: so now we go back and number them of importance SIr?
[irislady] 9:30 pm: thank you Sir
[CJsHere] 9:30 pm: for example,, if you could only have one of these ,, which would it be, that would be number 1
[cupcake] 9:30 pm: sorry i should have waited to speak lol
[CJsHere] 9:30 pm: np cc
[CJsHere] 9:31 pm: hmm, ranking them is a bit harder than you thought,, but yes, take the effort, give it some thought,
[CJsHere] 9:31 pm: (and I know,, some of you will change your mind on rankings a dozen times by morning,, and that's fine,, )
[irislady] 9:31 pm: i am done Sir
[CJsHere] 9:31 pm: again,, this is for your use,, so be honest with yourself.
[CJsHere] 9:32 pm: oh, I know there are a few girls saying,, hmm, "sexual skill",, damn , that's got to be way up there on the list,, while others are saying, oh well, can take it or leave it,
[Rod] 9:32 pm: what????
[CJsHere] 9:32 pm: (bets no one ranks it #12,, lol)
[Rod] 9:32 pm: haha
[stargazer] 9:33 pm: i did
[Rod] 9:33 pm: thats just mean
[irislady] 9:33 pm: i was close at 10 lol Sir
[stargazer] 9:33 pm: He can always be trained
[Rod] 9:33 pm: unless she listed it 1 also
[Rod] 9:33 pm: to stay with 13
[collaire] 9:33 pm: pfff, what is sex? *giggles* Ranking those are hard, though... I changed my mind at least 10 times since yesterday
[curious_HB] 9:33 pm: 10 for me too
[Rod] 9:34 pm: jeeeze girls
[CJsHere] 9:34 pm: I think you all can begin to see how some of these things may have more importance to one girl,, over another,,
[curious_HB] 9:34 pm: and obviously more important to Sir Rod
[irislady] 9:34 pm: lol curious
[Rod] 9:34 pm: huh?
[collaire] 9:34 pm: of course, Sir... we all have different personalities, and are individuals with different needs :D
[Rod] 9:35 pm: collairegets a goldstar
[curious_HB] 9:35 pm: giggles at Sir Rod
[cupcake] 9:35 pm: im ranking mine now. it is kinda hard lol
[CJsHere] 9:35 pm: Now here's an interesting question for you... here you sit, you've got your list,,, you've numbered it (well, I'll assume you have)... now, if you were to sit down with your "potential Dom" and ask him to rate Himself on these characteristics,, I wonder how closely his numbers would match yours?
[cupcake] 9:35 pm: but i have my top 4 so far
[UnusedSlave] 9:35 pm: can i ask a question ?
[Rod] 9:35 pm: friggin space bar
[CJsHere] 9:35 pm: sure, ask away,, listens to slave.
[collaire] 9:36 pm: what about something else for reward, Sir Rod? a golden star aint that fun...
[CJsHere] 9:36 pm: (you learn, and so do we,, by asking)
[UnusedSlave] 9:36 pm: thanks, what exactly is the bond between a dom and a slave?(im new to this)
[CJsHere] 9:37 pm: I would hope it would be an extremely close one,, but again, that's also something determined by the specific relationship, if that makes any sense,
[UnusedSlave] 9:37 pm: kind of..
[CJsHere] 9:38 pm: remember, and I've said it a thousand times, there does not have to be love in a D/s relationship,, yes, there can be, and often is,, but no, doesn't have to be,,
[irislady] 9:38 pm: each relationship takes on a life of its own right Sir?
[CJsHere] 9:38 pm: okay,, here comes part two of this exercise,, are you ready for it?
[CJsHere] 9:38 pm: (oh wait til you see the nasty looks coming up)
[UnusedSlave] 9:39 pm: so it's like a father-daughter relationship, if you will
[collaire] 9:39 pm: throw it at us, Sir
[CJsHere] 9:39 pm: If you have a Dom sitting over your shoulder right now, you are exempt from doing this part of the exercise,,, totally optional to you..
[irislady] 9:39 pm: only if you want it be unused slave
[irislady] 9:40 pm: i looked Sir and it was all clear so i am not exempt
[CJsHere] 9:40 pm: but, here's what I'd like you to do,, and remember,, this list is only for your use and your benefit,, keep it or throw it away (delete) when you're done with it,, (burn it )
[CJsHere] 9:40 pm: I'd like you to think of three Domiannts you know ... doesn't matter how well you know them,, just pick three names,,
[Rod] 9:40 pm: or send them to Me for safekeeping
[CJsHere] 9:41 pm: (watches all the girls pick Rod.. lol.
[irislady] 9:41 pm: what if you have not met three Sir?
[CJsHere] 9:41 pm: now,, up at the top of that sheet, I'd like you to list across,, all three names,
[irislady] 9:41 pm: can we use the Doms here as an example?
[irislady] 9:41 pm: Sir?
[CJsHere] 9:41 pm: if you haven't met three, no problem,, use two, or even one,
[CJsHere] 9:41 pm: sure, can use Dom's here, there or anywhere else.
[collaire] 9:41 pm: it can be female Domina's as wel, right? *giggles*
[irislady] 9:41 pm: thank you Sir
[Rod] 9:41 pm: CJ Rod and Keith
[CJsHere] 9:42 pm: heck, I don't care if you use a Dom from a book, or your fantasy, ;)
[irislady] 9:42 pm: phantom of the opera Sir?
[CJsHere] 9:42 pm: but yes, it will help if you have a specif Dom you can bring to mind,
[cupcake] 9:42 pm: ok im all done ranking :)
[CJsHere] 9:43 pm: now,, what I'd like you to do is to rank those three Doms ,, the same list,, I'd like you to rank them AS YOU SEE THEM,,,, what do you think, feel, know, sense, is there ranking for each of these items..
[CJsHere] 9:43 pm: (I know, "oh wow"..)
[irislady] 9:43 pm: oh wow Sir
[CJsHere] 9:43 pm: no Rod,, can't tell all the girls to send you copies of their lists....
[CJsHere] 9:44 pm: same dozen qualities..
[Rod] 9:44 pm: just offered to help, dang
[CJsHere] 9:44 pm: numbered one to 12,, and no, don't worry if they match, or don't match your rankings,
[cupcake] 9:44 pm: im confused :(
[cupcake] 9:44 pm: do what now?
[CJsHere] 9:45 pm: no problem cup cake,, the list you made for yourself, of the traits or characteristics you'd like to see in a Dom,,
[cupcake] 9:45 pm: yes Sir
[CJsHere] 9:45 pm: I now want you to rank three people with that same list,,, of how you feel they view the
importance of each of those traits,
[irislady] 9:46 pm: good lord Sir this is difficult and painstaking.
[CJsHere] 9:46 pm: What you're actually doing is constructing a very simple problem solving, or decision matrix..
[irislady] 9:46 pm: gee Sir that makes me feel smart
[CJsHere] 9:46 pm: (yes, there is one more step)
[CJsHere] 9:46 pm: no one says a sub/slave can't have smarts.. ;)
[CJsHere] 9:47 pm: everyone with Me so far?
[irislady] 9:47 pm: yes Sir
[brandy] 9:48 pm: iris..you are smart...
[irislady] 9:48 pm: except that wrong turn in alburqurqe Sir
[irislady] 9:48 pm: thank you brandy
[CJsHere] 9:48 pm: okay, I know,, I'm probably getting ahead of you a bit,, but that's okay,, even if you fall behind,, you can finish this task up at your leisure later on..
[collaire] 9:48 pm: yes, Sir.. and not too surprised by the result... :D
[CJsHere] 9:49 pm: now,, as you look over your list (AGAIN,, DO NOT SHARE what is on your list). . ..
[CJsHere] 9:49 pm: you can start to size up a Dom as to how well, or what type of chance does He have of matching up to what it is you're looking for,,
[CJsHere] 9:50 pm: IF for example,, every one of his numbers match yours,, hmm,, sounds like you've found a pretty good potential MATCH.. but if none of your numbers match, and they seem to in fact be opposites,, maybe it's time to move along,, (run)
[CJsHere] 9:51 pm: but oh wait,, I said there was a third step,,,
[irislady] 9:51 pm: thank you Sir
[irislady] 9:51 pm: yes Sir
[CJsHere] 9:51 pm: what do you think the odds are, of finding a Dominant that is going to exactly match your numbers, especially if you add another dozen traits to the list?
[irislady] 9:52 pm: not real well but i need to find someone that is as close to what i want right Sir?
[CJsHere] 9:52 pm: probably pretty slim,,
[CJsHere] 9:52 pm: that is, IF you're being totally honest in your rankings,,
[CJsHere] 9:53 pm: we all tend to see things we want to see,, so be careful of that,,, don't change your rankings cause you're busy drooling,
[collaire] 9:53 pm: close to zero, Sir... or less
[CJsHere] 9:53 pm: but,, the third step,,,,, now you have some "give and take",,
[CJsHere] 9:54 pm: for example,, you may have listed on your list,, Physical Characteristics as a 9.. but you've rated Him on His list at a 10.. hmm, maybe as part of the give and take process,, you may want to tel yourself, you know what,,, everything else looks so good,, let's match that number,, and count it as a positive,,
[CJsHere] 9:55 pm: or conversely, maybe you match up really well, on all except that first item on your list,, and with that, you're complete opposites,, hmm, maybe that number one item is just too important to you to give in and accept less.. so no, don't change it, lock it in and pass on that Dom.
[Rod] 9:56 pm: like rating a resteraunt on diners dives and driveins
[CJsHere] 9:56 pm: nods, a good analogy Rod.
[irislady] 9:56 pm: may i just say that this was a very informative excerise Sir
[Rod] 9:56 pm: ifyou catch something move on
[CJsHere] 9:57 pm: nods, hope so iris, but it ain't over yet, ;)
[Rod] 9:57 pm: a point system
[CJsHere] 9:57 pm: remember, this list of a dozen items,, you can add to that list all you want,, doesn't
matter if it's a hundred items on the list,, it's a matrix that you can use for your own benefit,
[Rod] 9:58 pm: but a linear point system rather than accumulitive
[CJsHere] 9:58 pm: okay, now we've gotten the multiple choice questions so to speak,, now it's time for the essay questions,,
[irislady] 9:58 pm: i am not good at math Sir Rod
[CJsHere] 9:58 pm: and for this, I'll give you about 4,,,
[irislady] 9:58 pm: essay quesrtion Sir/
[CJsHere] 9:59 pm: no, don't have to answer these now,, but, again, what you might do is write your answers out, then for those same three Doms,, write out what you "think/feel" there answer is, based on what you observe with them,, okay, here they come,
[CJsHere] 9:59 pm: What do I want from this relationship for myself?
[CJsHere] 9:59 pm: What do I want from this relationship for my Master/slave?
[CJsHere] 9:59 pm: Where do I see this relationship in five years? Ten years?
[CJsHere] 10:00 pm: What am I ethically/morally incapable of doing (limits) to achieve these goals?
[CJsHere] 10:00 pm: wow, interesting questions,,
[cricket_NF] 10:00 pm: very awesome questions Sir
[Rod] 10:00 pm: last question?
[irislady] 10:01 pm: great questions Sir
[CJsHere] 10:01 pm: Okay, again, add any questions you'd like to the list,,
[Rod] 10:01 pm: clarify that last one please CJ
[CJsHere] 10:01 pm: limits,,,
[Rod] 10:02 pm: read it again please?
[CJsHere] 10:02 pm: for example. you hear that the Dom is poly,, would you be capable of handling poly?
[Rod] 10:02 pm: is it "if I am"?
[CJsHere] 10:02 pm: or maybe you feel this guy is really into heavy SM,, is that for you?
[CJsHere] 10:03 pm: can pretty much be anything you want it to be... are there things you flat out want to
say nope, don't care how great He/she is,, don't want any part of it if,,,,,,,
[CJsHere] 10:03 pm: any clearer?
[Rod] 10:03 pm: no...
[Rod] 10:03 pm: is it supposed to say "What if I am"?
[CJsHere] 10:04 pm: no, doesn't have to,, "what will I not do to land this fish".
[CJsHere] 10:04 pm: He/she's great,, but I want no part of.....
[Rod] 10:04 pm: nevermind...
[CJsHere] 10:05 pm: okay,, this evening, the topic we've hit on, I've lifted off of
http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/dom_entering.html so yes, feel free to peruse that page a bit,,, it may
also give you some additional information that I've overlooked,
[CJsHere] 10:06 pm: Now that you've found someone that pretty much looks good on paper, now you can
being to move forward and talk to that person with a bit more of an interest so to speak,, but don't forget,
somewhere along the line,, before you put that collar on,,
[CJsHere] 10:06 pm: both of you should be sitting down with a fresh list and talking about it,, seeing where
you both feel you fit into things,, "compatability"..
[CJsHere] 10:07 pm: As with any of these types of things, no, this isn't an absolute guarantee that you're
going to find that one perferct person that will last forever,, but, using these types of tools will greatly
increase the odds of that happening,
[CJsHere] 10:08 pm: these types of tools will sometimes help you to see things that you've been
overlooking or avoiding,
[CJsHere] 10:09 pm: don't make excuses,, don't come up with things like,, "well they're all important to
me",, give them a number, and if you can't figure it out, then you aren't ready for a collar yet, so take your time,, slow down, figure out what exactly it is that you want and need.
[irislady] 10:09 pm: great advice Sir
[CJsHere] 10:09 pm: Rod, anything you'd like to add or comment on?
[Rod] 10:10 pm: it lookslike You covered this topic very well CJ
[Rod] 10:10 pm: best advice yet...
[irislady] 10:10 pm: yes Sir Rod i agree
[curious_HB] 10:10 pm: thank You Sir CJ...this was a great exercise
[CJsHere] 10:10 pm: ty,, and fire is down in Tenn this weekend, so she's not here this evening, ,,
[irislady] 10:10 pm: i understand things alot better Sir
[Rod] 10:11 pm: and be serious about it girls...
[CJsHere] 10:11 pm: girls, any questions or comments?
[laynie] 10:11 pm: no Sir and thank You for Your time was a very good topic Sir
[CJsHere] 10:11 pm: (yes,, I do have some admin notes this evening,, so no, we're not done yet)
[stargazer] 10:11 pm: no Sir, thank you for your time, very helpful
[irislady] 10:11 pm: i would like to say that this was a wonderful class Sir CJ
[CJsHere] 10:12 pm: nods, I'm glad some found it helpful..
[cricket_NF] 10:12 pm: very good info Sir
[CJsHere] 10:12 pm: and please, don't hesitate to share this topic with others.
[subgirlpaula] 10:12 pm: thank you Sir
[Rod] 10:12 pm: L/lets not forgetMy plug now....
[CJsHere] 10:12 pm: I'll try to get logs of the class posted on the site with the other classes there.
[CJsHere] 10:12 pm: no, one of the admin notes coming up Rod.
[curious_HB] 10:12 pm: hides...Sir Rod has plug
[CJsHere] 10:13 pm: Okay,, a few quickies if I may,,
[CJsHere] 10:14 pm: first off,, Remember, it's coming,, the Christmas Contest,,,,, best gift to give your
Dom/sub/slave,, total cost, all inclusive must be under $10 yes, including delivery/shipping/postage, etc.
[CJsHere] 10:14 pm: that's an annual contest, and I think you can find some ideas to start you thinking on
some of the previous Christmas contest posts on the site,,
[CJsHere] 10:14 pm: more details coming on that as we get into November.
[CJsHere] 10:15 pm: next.. I've browsed some of the profiles, and I'm a bit disappointed to see how many
of them are perfectly blank,, come on now,, at least an eyecolor,
[CJsHere] 10:15 pm: no, I don't expect or require anyone to list personal information, but,
[CJsHere] 10:16 pm: something as simple as a hair or eye color,, come on,, at least let others know you've found the profile section by doing so, remember, if you're looking for a Dom,, He may be using that profile
as a first step in sizing up who your are.
[CJsHere] 10:16 pm: next.. Monday night, Rod is hosting his discussion, 9pm Rod?
[Rod] 10:17 pm: yes CJ, 9pm
[Rod] 10:17 pm: same as this class
[CJsHere] 10:17 pm: hope all can make it,, would love to see you there,
[Rod] 10:17 pm: open topic but always lively
[collaire] 10:17 pm: even on Halloween, Sir?
[CJsHere] 10:17 pm: I'll let Rod answer that,
[Rod] 10:17 pm: after all the goblins are in
[CJsHere] 10:17 pm: lol.
[Rod] 10:18 pm: yes, even on holloween
[CJsHere] 10:18 pm: remember, 9pm is 6 pm Pacific time,
[Rod] 10:18 pm: if you dont make it thats ok
[CJsHere] 10:18 pm: ;)
[Rod] 10:18 pm: always next week
[collaire] 10:18 pm: whispers "Halloween.. kids..."
[CJsHere] 10:18 pm: and last but not least, some new faces on the site this evening, please, if you haven't done so already, take the time to say hello to them,
[Rod] 10:18 pm: jeeze....
[CJsHere] 10:19 pm: I'm sure they'd be glad to know you've seen them here,
[CJsHere] 10:19 pm: for those that are new, don't hesitate to join in,,, it's a pretty friendly bunch, and none that I know of bites too hard,,
[CJsHere] 10:19 pm: okay, that's about all I have, unless someone else has something,,, listens,
[Rod] 10:20 pm: just chew for a long time, hehehe
[CJsHere] 10:20 pm: again, the link for tonights topic,,
http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/dom_entering.html
[collaire] 10:20 pm: thank You, Sir CJ
[CJsHere] 10:20 pm: and with that, for those that have to depart, have a safe evening, and I really appreciate your participation this evening,