Canes
author unknown
Canes have a deserved
reputation as The Victorian Terror Weapon. To most submissives,
they mean severe punishment; to sensation-seeking BDSM bottoms,
overload. If we have care and patience, however, canes can be used
in a loving and sensuous way. The very stiffness of a good cane,
that makes a hard stroke so intense, allows the lightest taps to be
given with perfect control. And a light cane stroke is easy to
aim, unlike a flexible whip that sags and flops at low power.
In the kind of sensuous play I'm describing
here, light strokes are far more prevalent and important than heavy
ones. This style is a matter of trust, patience, and finesse. If
you can't gain, maintain, and deserve the bottom's trust, the whole
thing is probably going to fail, or fall far short of what it could
be. As for patience, don't even start a scene like this unless you
have at least an hour available, and two is better. Finesse?
Well, on two occasions bottoms have gone to sleep while I was
caning them. They woke up black and blue, and giggling. That's
finesse. I'm not bragging, and I'm not saying I'm some kind of
Caning god. It's learnable. That's why I'm writing this.
Caning Technique
A single cane can deliver an entire symphony
of sensation. A snappy blow that is pulled back a bit just before
impact will emphasize surface sting. The same sort of blow carried
past the moment of impact, with follow-through, will have much more
thud and penetration. The greatest intensity is delivered by the
outer third or so of the cane's length. This is the portion that
leaves marks, in a hard blow. In a light blow, this part of the
cane will have a relatively stingy feel. Closer to the top's hand,
the cane moves much more slowly, and the sensation will be more thuddy or even massage-like. This allows a good way of maintaining
rhythm and atmosphere while giving some relief to a bottom who is
showing signs of overload. The very tip of a cane can be used on
many targets that a full-length blow might harm, or be unable to
even reach. Tip shots can work the inside of the sweet spot,
the bottoms of the feet, the muscles between the spine and the
shoulder blades. A traditional cane stroke in any of these areas
would cross bony areas, causing bone bruises and pain that is not at
all erotic; a hard one might chip bones or crush nerves, and cause
truly harmful damage. DON'T try for these with any force until you
are utterly sure of your aim! Lighter tip shots are much
safer, and feel much like percussion massage.
Setup
I prefer to have the bottom lying flat. When
a person goes as deeply into bottom space as I hope to send them,
the mere act of keeping their balance will be a distraction.
Having them lie on a table is easiest on the top's back in these
long scenes; massage tables are ideal, and cafeteria-type
tables are sturdy and about the right height. Arrange padding if
the table doesn't already have it; I usually bring a single-bed
sheet and a roll of foam to parties and demos. Second choice is
ground level; on a mattress or futon, or the foam pad. Here the
bottom will be laying prone and the top will sit or kneel beside
them. On table or floor, it's nice to have three or four feet
clear on either side of the bottom, so that you can switch sides.
Since the tip of the cane always hits the hardest, switching sides
will help to keep the caning symmetrical. Also, it allows the
top's other hand to rove over a different part of the bottom's body.
From one side, you can stroke, massage, caress, and collect
feedback from feet, legs, and buttocks, and play with their crotch
if it's that kind of scene. From the other, you caress their
face, massage their back, grab hair or the back of their neck, play
trust games with your finger between their teeth as you cane them.
A caning can be an awkward thing to deliver
when the bottom is standing, especially if the top is taller.
There is a strong tendency for strokes to land too high, on the
bony upper half of the butt, when the bottom is standing up. Also,
the sweet spot is hard to reach from this position. Going to one
knee may help. Occasionally a play space may have a stage or
platform of some kind, with bondage facilities near the edge of it.
If you have the gear and knowhow to do it safely, suspension may
also offer a way to get the bottom a foot or two higher. I try to
avoid the traditional bent positions for caning, where the recipient
crouches or bends over a chair. For one thing, this stretched
skin is much more sensitive. Victorian punishers wanted
overload; for a sensuous caning we want to avoid it. For another,
the tailbone comes up into harm's way when one bends over, and a
hard cane stroke is quite capable of chipping it and inflicting a
painful lifetime disability. Damaged tailbones don't heal! There
is a lot of perfectly good buttock area that is hard to work safely
from these positions; when the bottom's body is straight, much more
of the tailbone is protected. When in doubt, run your finger down
the spine, all the way into the crack of their ass; you can feel
how far the tailbone goes. Check this each time; the length
varies surprisingly among different people.
Warm-Up Technique
The best precondition for a trip to Endorphin
Heaven is for the bottom to be deeply relaxed, trusting, not
anticipating the next stroke but rather accepting. Going too hard
or too fast will drop them out of their bottom space (that warm,
accepting state of trust) at just the time when you should be
building it up. Their hindbrain will take charge, and its ancient
survival reflexes will start screaming "We're taking damage! Get us
the hell out of here!" A good bottom wants the scene to go well,
and will be working to control panic and nervousness. For this
particular style of scene, the top must build the intensity so
smoothly that the bottom is supported rather than challenged in
their efforts to stay centered and accepting. Of course, some
people warm up much faster than others. "Smooth" is one thing;
boring is quite another. In initial negotiations, I mention this,
and if we are using the "traffic light" safewords I point out that
"green" is also a color, and that they can always call for a speedup
if they want one. As we begin, I like to promise that I will
escalate the intensity very gradually - something like "no stroke
will be more than a third harder than I've already given you".
Info helps them relax. You need to keep this promise, too;
surprises will tense them up for a long while afterwards. Resist
the temptation to tease them or fake them out, for the same reason.
I often begin with an ordinary massage. I explore the muscles of
the back, buttocks, and legs, checking for tense spots and taking
whatever time is needed to relax them and establish an expectation
of pleasure from my touch. Massage is itself an endorphin
releaser, and very non-threatening.
When a bottom is new to this technique, their
delighted surprise can relax them, build a lot of trust early on,
and give them confidence that there are rewards to be had in
exploring with you. After achieving relaxation of any tense spots,
do a little fingertip percussion on the muscled areas of the
bottom's body. (Fingertip percussion is what a pianist does to
strike several close keys all at once.) The fingers of one or both
hands are crooked, and struck down in to the target area. Work the
upper back, to either side of the spine, this way for a while. Do
the same to the lower part of the buttocks, and down the backs of
the legs. This sort of sensation is a perfect bridge between
massage and flagellation; it's especially good for
introducing beginners. Now begin with the cane, tapping very
lightly over the areas that had the percussion warm-up. Don't tap
any bony areas; this is a good time to develop the habit of
avoiding them. Use the cane tip to reach areas that have bone
close alongside. The blows should have less force than your
fingertips did; the cane is hard and stingy, and the idea is to
introduce the cane without breaking the relaxed and trusting glow of
your warm-up. Along with ordinary light taps, mix in a few that
are feather-light; with practice you can deliver a flutter as light
as the landing of a flock of butterflies. This is a wonderful
contrast to harder strokes; as endorphins build up such a light
flutter will often bring on a fit of giggles. As you work, do
single taps, double taps, quick flutters of various intensities.
Your goal here is twofold. You are trying to teach the bottom
that they cannot predict your strokes, but that it doesn't matter
because they won't be harmed. It is a non-verbal trust-building
exercise... Done with care, you can give the
bottom that wonderful open acceptance of whatever happens, the key
to the very best bottom space.
Another key to good bottom space is breathing.
Deep, careful breathing controls panic, and this is vital as
intensity builds. Panic is really the unpleasant portion of pain;
take panic away and what's left is just strong sensations. All
kinds of wonderful things can be done with strong sensations... If
your bottom has ever done yoga, meditation, natural childbirth
training, or anything like that, remind them that deep, slow
breathing is important here, too. If they have never had such
training, coach them as you go. If their breathing becomes short
and choppy, ease up and remind them to relax and breathe deeply
(unless they're coming, of course; that's to be encouraged, not
interrupted with good advice!) If your other hand keeps up a
steady contact with caresses and massage, not only will it relax and
comfort the bottom but you will be able to detect twitches, tension,
or relaxation. Especially with bottoms who aren't very verbal or
vocal, this is the best feedback you can have. If they are
vocalizing, watch out for a sharp edge to their tone. It warns of
gradually building tension - if you continue to hear it, something
isn't working, the bottom space is eroding. The muscles under your
other hand should be more and more relaxed as the caning proceeds;
if not, it's also a sign that your buildup is not succeeding.
This sign is apparent even in a silent bottom. As you gradually
build the intensity, one useful trick is to follow a harder blow
with a quick light rain of flutter strokes, right into the same
area. These will distract the bottom from any overload (within
reason) and take them back to the bottom space that has just been
successfully processing light stuff. However, the harder blow will
have done its work of moving the whole scene to a slightly higher
level.
Further Cane Technique
If your warm-up has opened the way for more
powerful strokes, care must be taken. Canes may seem stiff, but a
hard stroke can bend them ninety degrees and more, and a wraparound
with a cane can be downright dangerous. Wraps are most common
when a top goes to full power, after a well-aimed series of warm-up
or measuring strokes. The problem is in the top's body dynamics:
the momentum of the arm goes up exponentially with increased speed,
so the whole body is pulled forward as a heavier stroke is
delivered. The full-power stroke automatically reaches several
inches further than the lighter stroke that was supposed to "gauge
the distance". It's physics; you can't keep it from happening,
any more than you can walk on the ceiling. What you can do is
allow for it, and train yourself to compensate. You can ease your
feet back a bit, or pull your elbow or shoulder back as part of the
swing. Or you can do as Mistress Nan Burrows recommends, and take
your aiming stroke so that the cane tip lands in the middle of the
far cheek, no further. This aiming point will land a full-power
stroke that safely spans the full width of the buttocks and no
further. If you do wish to play with harder strokes, practice!
Learn to pay close attention to where your cane is landing; this
is how you learn to correct your aim. Mistress Nan advises a lot
of practice on a cushion. There is a certain kind of upholstery
that shows the stroke, but each blow shakes the surface and erases
the trace of the preceding blow. Perfect feedback! The upholstery
looks to be a kind of heavy-duty velvet; check thrift stores.
When you are ready to try powerful strokes on a human partner, try
putting a cushion or blanket roll on the far side of them. This
will catch a wraparound harmlessly. Be sure to
confine hard strokes to the buttocks below the tailbone and the
upper half of the thighs.
Caning and Other Pleasures
Sexual connections: perhaps a quarter of
women, and a very few men, can actually get orgasms from the cane.
I think this is incredibly hot, and it makes me very jealous!
There will be others who may not actually climax, but get
extremely turned on, which can offer a pleasant answer to the
question of "what do we do next?" The shock waves made by a cane
are directional - they tend to continue through the target in the
general direction the cane was moving when it hit. In fact, if you
slide a hand under your partner's thigh or belly, you can feel the
shock of a medium cane stroke go right through them. The
"sweet spot" in the lower butt, to either side of the crack, is
sweet for this reason; blows here can send waves up into a whole
complex of muscles, nerves, and engorged tissue that is directly
involved with sexual excitement. Many bottoms will enjoy a steady
rhythm of light or medium blows on the sweet spot - especially if
they are angled to send their shock waves up and forward. At least
one lady I know has called the effect a "rattan vibrator". One
good sign of this sexual connection is a face-down bottom whose hips
begin to rise and fall in a steady rhythm. You might try matching
that rhythm, with light or medium strokes. Or use your other hand
to massage the nerve points around the pelvic dimples and to either
side of the last few inches of the spine.
Power and Roleplay
Often when I do this, the scene is "pure S/M",
sensation for sensation's sake. No roleplay, and no more power
exchange than a massage. The concern for smoothness, the bottom's
comfort and welfare, and cooperation is difficult to reconcile with
many of the traditional roles and scenarios, where the top and
bottom play as adversaries. However, there are a few roles
possible wherein the person who hits you is not an enemy! Mentor/Ritualist:
The top is a trainer, preparing and coaching the bottom for some
ritual ordeal. Or passing on the secrets of mind control, wherein
pain becomes ecstasy. Or trying to send the bottom on an
astral observation of whatever, or a spirit journey, etc. Comrade:
Who is preparing an agent, or coaching a fellow prisoner, to
resist/survive an interrogation. (Of course, the interrogation can
follow later, with the top moving into a new role, or new tops
coming in for that part.) Science Fiction: The aliens whose ship
crashed think they can recharge the damaged drive crystals, but only
by tapping the energy mobilized in what turns out to be this scene.
Some of these may sound hokey, but roleplay always sounds hokey to
anyone who is not motivated toward that particular scenario. Find
a script that works for you, and suspension of disbelief will come
much more easily. Also, endorphins can lead many bottoms into a
profound submissive space. If you enjoy serious D/S or role play,
you may find this endorphin-oriented warm-up offers a startlingly
good beginning to a more psychological sort of scene.
Making Your Own Cane Toys
Traditional canes are made of rattan, a woody
reed from the East Indies. It has a jointed stem that resembles
bamboo, but is not hollow. Rattan is very tough and strong, and
makes the most durable natural canes I know. Like bamboo, it comes
in all sorts of diameters; traditional canes are about 8mm, but
thicker and thinner ones are also useful. Rattan can sometimes be
found at craft stores or Oriental basketwork shops. It is used to
make wicker furniture, so a repairer of that might have a stock of
it as well. Unfortunately, most of the cane-sized rattan that
comes into this country has been bent into coils, which warps and
sometimes cracks it. If you must deal with the coiled stuff, it
should first be cut to length with a fine-toothed saw. Coping saws
and hacksaws work well. A dressmaker's tape is a handy way to
measure along the coils. Obviously, you should not include cracked
places in your layout. Less obviously, your canes will be much
more durable if the tip includes one of the joints of the stem.
The convoluted grain in each joint resists splitting, as opposed
to the very straight grain that runs for the foot or so between
joints. A lot of the coiled rattan has been peeled and sanded, but
the joints are still noticeable if you look and feel carefully.
Cut the stem about a stem diameter to one side of the joint; this
will become the tip of the cane. (The ends without joints included
are fine for handles - the tips are what take the shock and strain.)
You can make the canes any length you like; I prefer 20-30 inches
(50-80cm) as they are easier to aim and more convenient in close
quarters. Long ones have more power, but can be awkward. The
natural variations in your coil will probably give you several
choices. Each tip needs to be rounded off; any
kind of edge here will break skin far too easily. Coarse sandpaper
works well, especially in a power sander of some kind. Hand
sanding will also do, as will a fairly coarse metal file. Whatever
you use, try for a smoothly rounded end. Now hand-sand the whole
length of each cane with medium paper; try to remove the stray
fibers you find sticking up from the wood. They are a nuisance
during varnishing. The cut pieces will have to be soaked and
steamed to straighten them without breaking. I soak mind in the
bathtub for a day or two, but any water will do. Don't let them
dry out. After soaking comes steaming and straightening. You
will need some way of keeping the canes straight as they dry; I lay
them in a series of grooves I routed into a plank, and then clamp
another plank on top of them. You can also try shoving each one
down a length of pipe; plastic water pipe won't rust and stain the
canes.
When you have your straightening rig set up,
boil a big kettle of water. Wrap the canes in a towel or two, lay
them in the (drained) tub and pour some boiling water over them.
Dose them every minute or so for a few minutes, and then unwrap
them; the scalding will make them limp and easy to uncurl.
(Dishwashing gloves help keep your fingers from scalding, too.)
Quickly, before they can cool, bend them straight and put them in
the jig. Put the jig in a dry place with good ventilation for five
days. Remove the canes and hang them up for air drying; I use
clothespins on cords. After one day of air drying, brush them
thoroughly with a coat of spar varnish; Varathane works well.
Give each cane at least three coats; let each coat dry enough
that you can sand off any lumps. Some newspapers on the floor
under them will be a good ideas, since at least one of them will
drip no matter how careful you are. The handle end of each
cane can be left as is, or a grip can be added for comfort or appearance.
You can dip the handle ends in plastic tool dip - it will take
several coats, and you can hang them from the same setup you used in
the varnishing. The fumes of this stuff are truly nasty; be sure
you have good ventilation. Less toxically, you can wrap the grips
with cord or leather lacing, sew a scrap of leather or cloth around
them, or cover them with tape. Bicycle handlebar tape makes a fine
grip.
You can of course prepare other kinds of
wooden rods this way - and avoid all the straightening hassle by
picking ones that are straight to begin with. Bamboo is cheap and
widely available, and also stiffer than rattan, which makes aiming
easier. Bamboo, of course, is hollow and the tip must be made at a
joint, just as described for rattan. Bamboo works fine for light
to medium blows; heavy blows with it can be dangerous. Bamboo can
split without warning, and the splits have edges like razors!
Hardwood dowels from the hardware store can have the same
problems. Avoid either of these materials for heavy
canings.
Many other plants have cane-like shoots. Forsythia is a very
popular ornamental, and the older branches from the inside of the
bush can make quite a reasonable cane. Prepare as you would
rattan. They aren't as durable, but the price is right, especially
if rattan is hard to buy where you live. Apple trees develop
suckers each year, especially upward from the top branches. These
grow straight, to about the right length, and are pruned off in
great numbers every year. They are quite tough and durable. The
buds make rough little bumps along the shoot; they can be sanded
off if they seem too harsh. Some twigs, such as birch or willow,
are fine for scenes but far too flexible to be considered or used as
canes. Handling them is a whole different topic.
There are also synthetic canes, mostly
plastics. Plastics are much denser than wood, so they hit harder
and the stroke is more penetrating. They are very easy to clean,
which is a good thing because the thinner ones break skin quite
easily. There are shops in most large and medium cities that
sell plastic supplies. There can be a confusing variety of
materials there: Delrin, Lexan, and fiberglass are three kind of
rod that are ough enough to make good cane. Acrylic is not tough
enough; I have broken several. If the clear look appeals to you,
get Lexan. Sora, from San Francisco, makes some very nice Lexan
canes, if you want to buy ready-made. If you prepare your own,
you won't need to varnish them, but be sure to remember to round and
smooth the tip!