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Lubricate, lubricate, lubricate! Anal insertion play must be accompanied by buckets o' lube. This is because the anal canal and rectum are not naturally lubricated, and are made up of very delicate tissue. Insufficient lube can lead both to bad pain and to increased risk of STI transmission due to tears in the mucous membrane.

Successful anal insertion strategies involve control of the the two sphincters that resist anal penetration. The outer sphincter (which we see as the anus, or asshole) can be relaxed with conscious effort. The inner sphincter is less under our command, although it tends to follow the lead of the outer sphincter. It's possible to "fool" the inner sphincter into relaxing by the following method: insert a finger or small butt plug until you feel resistance; stop right away and stay there -- the inner sphincter is resisting the inward pressure, but will very soon (30-60 seconds) get too tired to resist; when you feel the discomfort go away (and this should happen), then you can push the insertion further. Repeat the push/stop/wait/push cycle as necessary.

Note that anything to be inserted anally must be capable of being retrieved. It should have a wide flange/base, a long cord, or be attached to someone else's body. Should something be lost in the anus, do not panic; if it is a small item (a ball from a set of anal beads, say) it can likely be excreted without worry (remember -- expelling stuff is something the anus is good for other than sex). If you've lost something large or awkwardly shaped, suck up your ego and head for the emergency room. It will be embarrassing, but they really have seen it all before, and you'll have your butt back to take better care of next time.

One more note on anatomy: above the 1-2" anal canal between the sphincters, and the 4-6" rectum (so about 6-8" in), the rectum makes a sharp turn to the left. This is called the sigmoidal junction, and you should be aware of this when playing with long insertion toys. They should be flexible enough to negotiate the curve.

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