BDSM CHECKLIST
Carefully review this list, look at each item on the list, if you don't understand what that item is, either try to find out by checking such resources as the terms and definitions page on our web site http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com or a similar page. Another option would be to discuss what each item means with your Dominant. Before answering each item, insure that you have a complete understanding of what it is. If you still don't understand it, or if you have doubts leave that item blank and discuss it with your Dominant.
Each item has two answers, the first answer relates to your preference or desire to experience or not experience the subject. The next answer relates to your past encounters or experience with the activity. Circle each of the answers as appropriate. If there is something about the topic that you think is important for your Dominant to know, annotate your comments on the back of the page.
It is important that you answer each item honestly, don't be afraid to admit that you've tried something or that it is something you don't want to try. The answers you provide will help your Dom to understand your needs and desires. It is equally important to know and understand that each BDSM or Dominant submissive relationship is different and may or may not include any or all of the things listed below.
my preferences
1 = would never ---------------------(Yuk!! No!!)
2 = would
only if told----------------(Do I have to?)
3 = would if asked-------------------(I guess I could)
4 = will,
but slowly--------------------(It might be fun, Be gentle please)
5 = will
occasionally-----------------(Sure, I'm ready)
6 = will anytime / all the time-------(Oh Yes! Love it!!)
my
experience level
A = Never
tried this
B = Tried
it once
C = Tried
it more than once
D = Do it all the time
(All topics are listed alphabetically)
Abrasion
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B
C
D
Age play 1 2 3 4 5 6 A B C D
Anal Fisting
1 2 3 4 5 6
A B C D
Anal plug
(
public, under clothing )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Anal plug
( large ) 1 2 3 4 5 6 A B C D
Anal plug
( small
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Anal sex
1 2 3
4 5
6
A B C
D
Anal torture
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Animal roles
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Arm and leg sleeves
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Asphyxiation
1 2 3
4 5
6
A B C
D
Bathroom use control
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Beating
( hard
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Beating
( soft
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Being bitten
1 2 3
4 5
6
A B C
D
Beastiality
1 2 3
4 5
6
A B C
D
Blindfolds
1 2 3
4 5
6
A B C
D
Bondage
( heavy ) 1 2 3 4 5 6 A B C D
Bondage
( light
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Bondage
(
multi-day )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Bondage
(
public, under clothing )
1 2 3
4 5
6
A B C
D
Branding 1 2 3 4 5 6 A B C D
Breast whipping
1 2 3
4 5
6
A B C
D
Breast bondage
1 2 3
4 5
6
A B C
D
Breath control
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Brown showers ( scat )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Caging / kenneling
1 2 3
4 5
6
A B C
D
Caning
1 2 3
4 5
6
A B C
D
Chains 1 2 3 4 5 6 A B C D
Charity Auctions 1 2 3 4 5 6 A B C D
Chastity belts
1 2 3
4 5
6
A B C
D
Choking
1 2 3
4 5
6
A B C
D
Chores
1 2 3
4 5
6
A B C
D
Collars
( worn
private )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Collars
( worn
public )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Collar and lead
(
private )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Collar and lead
( public ) 1 2 3 4 5 6 A B C D
Corsets
1 2 3
4 5
6
A B C
D
Cuffs
( leather
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Cuffs
( metal )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Cutting
1 2 3
4 5
6
A B C
D
Cyber Sex 1 2 3 4 5 6 A B C D
Diapers
( wearing )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Diapers
( soiling )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Diapers
( wetting )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Dildos
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Double penetration
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Eating at feet
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Eating off the floor
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Electricity play
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Enemas
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Erotic dance
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Examinations
( physical )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Exercise
( forced, required )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Exhibitionism
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Eye contact restrictions
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Face slapping
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Fantasy abandonment
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Fantasy rape
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Fear
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Fisting
( anal )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Fisting
( vaginal )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Flame play
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Foot worship
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Forced bedwetting
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Forced
Eating
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Forced
Homosexuality
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Forced
Masturbation
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Forced Nudity
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Forced
Servitude
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Gags
1 2
3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Given away
(perm ) 1 2 3 4 5 6 A B C D
Given away
( temp )
1 2
3 4 5
6
A B C
D
Golden showers
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Gun play
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Hair pulling
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Hand jobs
(giving)
1 2 3
4 5
6
A B C
D
Harems
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Harnessing
( leather )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Harnessing
( rope )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Having clothing chosen
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Having food chosen
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Head / eating out
(
receiving )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Head / eating out
( giving )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
High heels
1 2
3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Homage
( w/ tongue
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Hot oils
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Hot waxing
( dripping ) 1 2 3 4 5 6 A B C D
Human puppy dog 1 2 3 4 5 6 A B C D
Humiliation
(
public )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Humiliation
(
private )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Ice cubes
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Immobilization
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Infantilism
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Injections
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Interrogations
1 2
3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Japanese rope bondage
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Kidnapping
1 2
3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Kneeling
1 2
3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Knife play
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Leather clothing
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Leather restraints
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Lectures
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Licking 1 2 3 4 5 6 A B C D
Lingerie
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Manacles and Irons
1 2
3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Manicures
( giving ) 1 2 3 4 5 6 A B C D
Massages
( giving )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Massages
(
receiving
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Masturbation
1 2 3 4 5 6
A B C D
Medical scenes
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Modeling for erotic photos
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Mouth bits
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Mummification
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Name change
( for scene )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Name change
( perm )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Nipple clamps / clothespins
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Nipple torture
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Nipple piercing
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Nipple weights
1 2
3 4 5
6
A B C
D
Oral torture
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Orgasm control
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Orgasm denial
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Outdoor scenes
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Pain
(
mild )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Pain
( severe )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Personality modification
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Phone sex
( commercial
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Phone sex
( for Dom’s friends
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Phone sex
(
for Dom )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Piercing
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Pony slave
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Prison scenes
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Prostitution
( actual
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Prostitution
( in scene )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Public exposure
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Punishment scene
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Pussy whipping
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Religious scenes
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Restrictive rules
( behavior )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Riding crops
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Rope body harness
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Rubber / latex clothing
1 2
3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Saran wrapping
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Scratching
1 2
3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Sensory deprivation
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Serving as art
1 2 3
4 5
6
A B C
D
Serving as ashtray
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Serving as furniture
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Serving as maid
1 2
3
4 5 6
A B C
D
toilette
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Serving as waitress
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Serving other Dom/mes
(
supervised )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Serving other Dom/mes
( unsupervised
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Sexual deprivation
1 2
3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Shaving
( body hair )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Shaving
( head ) 1 2 3 4 5 6 A B C D
Sitting at feet
1 2
3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Skinny dipping
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Sleep deprivation
1 2
3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Sleep sacks
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Sleeping on floor
( beside bed
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Sleeping at feet
( on bed )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Spandex clothing
1 2
3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Spanking
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Speaking in third person
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Speculums
1 2
3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Speech restrictions
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Spitting
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Spreader bars
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Stocks
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Straight jackets
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Strap on Dildos
( penetrated by
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Strap on dildos
( sucking on
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Strap on dildos
(wearing )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Strapping
(full
body beating
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Suspension
( horizontal
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Suspension
( vertical )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Suspension
(inverted )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Swallowing feces
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Swallowing Urine
1 2
3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Swapping
( one other couple
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Swinging
( multiple couples
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Tattooing
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Teasing
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Thumb cuffs
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Tickling
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Triple penetration
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Uniforms
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Verbal humiliation
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Vibrators
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Videos
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Voyeurism
(
watching others )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Voyeurism
(watching
Dom with others )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Water torture
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Waxing
(hair removal )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B
C D
Wearing symbolic jewelry
1 2
3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Weight gain
(forced
)
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Weight loss
(
forced )
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Whipping
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Wooden paddles
1 2 3
4 5 6
A B C
D
Wrestling 1 2 3 4 5 6 A B C D
