A submissives journey

Chapter 1
The Asj Community

Chapter 2
Resource Information

Chapter 3
Subbie's Couch

Chapter 4
The Dom's Lounge

Chapter 5

The Library

Chapter 6
BDSM

Chapter 7

Useful Links

Chapter 8
Members share their thoughts

Chapter 9

Members Only

Chapter 10
Asj's Site Library

Chapter 11
Asj's Online Store

Chapter 12
Recommended Reading List

"Some thoughts for those seeking to

know their submission"

With the many questions I have received over the last few days and thoughts I have seen in another forum, I would like to offer those of you wanting to know if you can truly submit some guidelines that may serve you well...

Anyone can dominate someone willing to be dominated and do that in scenes with many different people... but to Master... that is another story. My advise to anyone who wishes to discover if they are submissive and wish to have a Master:

Observe, and seek knowledge both written and oral... do not play with submission until you have gathered some knowledge..know thyself as best you can...learn about the lifestyle.

Get to know the Master... ask them if they have a creed that they live by... (you have seen mine earlier).

Define the limits of what is acceptable and not acceptable...if you are opposed to animals, scat, children, etc... then spell it out and have that Master spell out their limits... otherwise, be prepared... you WILL be shocked.

Ask a Master how many submissives they have... beware the Master who brags... a Master must not be looking to feed their ego... you only become a number and will never achieve true submission. The Master must be egoless when caring for your emotional, mental and physical needs and growth!!

Do not be ashamed to tell a Master you are learning... they will not expect things from you

that you are clueless about... and will approach your training in a different way. Remember, you offer a precious gift. It is given freely because you desire to give it to one who appreciates the gift. What Master would abuse the gift unless they did not understand its value and its beauty? If they do, then I would tell you that they are a player and not truly a Master.

Until your Master knows you completely, insist on a safeword... and if it is not honored, then get the hell out of dodge and never go back.

Look for a Master that understands the relationship is a true symbiotic relationship... without you there is no relationship...and the needs are met for both...not just one always taking and never giving back...if that is the case, it is a parasitic and not symbiotic relationship.

Realize submission is not a normal human trait... that your interaction with others in your life has caused you to build walls to protect that inner spark that is you....and that a true Master will invest time and energy and thought in discovering what those inner walls are and will slowly remove them...so avoid the rusher... you are not a part of the plan...and you will only make those walls in you stronger because you will once again feel used.

Know that the Master has great and grave responsibilities toward his submissive...he must care for, nurture and expand you emotionally, mentally and physically if you are to bloom... and truly find true submission...they are not mind readers... and for those truly seeking to be a Master it is important that you assist them.

Ask any Master after a session and they will often tell you that they are drained emotionally, mentally and physically because they are concerned with EVERYTHING that is going on with you...they look not to destroy you but to improve you....and the smallest thing could destroy all that has gone on before... know and appreciate what the Master has to do.

Ahhhh... but again I ramble but the submissives have stirred the juices of the orator... LOL... so I will stand down and shut up.

Kaska

(posted here with permission of the author)

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