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A submissives journey - Protocol, Etiquette & Ritual
Protocol, Etiquette & Ritual
Within the Dominant
submissive lifestyle these three things are
linked, though often times people will just use the word
protocol to mean all of them. Each has it's place in our
lifestyle, guiding how we interact, and there are variances in
all of them depending on who you are dealing with.
There are a variety of "standard" protocols
within the lifestyle: leather, gorean, victorian, some may even
consider 1950's style a protocol. Within each of these there is
a variance, what exists in one leather family may not quite be
the same for another, what goes on as normal in one gorean house
may be not allowed in another. Protocol is the general guidelines that are
in place, the broad rules of operations within the household or
event. Protocol is a structure outlining appropriate behavior
and action. Protocol is not the same as etiquette, although it
may overlap in its teaching and intent. Etiquette is a refined and specialized form
of communication and self expression. It is done in a fashion
that is found pleasing and appropriate. Ritual is behavior, learned through
repetition, which is done based on situation or on demand. The
purpose of the ritual may be the ritual itself, the structure it
enforces or the feelings the submissive feels while performing
the ritual. There is generally very little variance, as the
submissive will learn to perform it by instinct. "Associate with well-mannered persons and
your manners will improve. Run around with decent folk and your
own decent instincts will be strengthened." - Stanley Walker
People often ask about "How do I learn
protocol?" Well, the easiest way is look to those who practice
it, those who follow a strict protocol, something well defined.
Unfortunately there are not many who actually do that now. Most
seem happy with following their own whims, even at the expense
of stability. This turned out to be a more definition and
informational piece than I like normally, so I will likely be
following it up shortly with definitions of the protocols and
rules I use to better define the issue. "Etiquette requires us to admire the human race" -
Mark Twain
