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A submissives journey - Book Review - The Control Book
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The Control Book, by Peter Masters
The Control Book is about the fine art of taking control of your partner. It's about the processes involved, about taking control, using control, about ensuring that you have control, and-importantly-about giving control back once you are done with it. The book discusses how this works-the psychology of it-and looks at what can go right, and at what can go wrong and how to fix it. It considers the role of authority in the equation, and looks at how to manage the control you have over someone so that it is both effective and rewarding for you both. I believe that a very large part of the activities which we include under the umbrella of BDSM rely explicitly or implicitly on control being asserted over one person by another. My goal in this book is to talk about control, explain what it is, demonstrate it, show how to take it, how to give it, how to manage it, and more. I want you, the reader, to be aware of the ebb and flow of control around you and through you.
Control is one of those areas that can make a vanilla person bristle -- we are raised to not be controlled by others and yet we are raised to follow along in certain areas of our lives. In a Ds or Ms relationship the need or desire for control to be a factor is out in the open but that does not mean it is well-analyzed or well-understood. Peter Masters's book on the subject is the first I know of to focus on the issue. Using archetypes, the various states of consciousness and some plain old understanding of how relationships work, this is a good first attempt to address the concept of control. However, I also found many terms used without clear definitions and some concepts are discussed vaguely. Most importantly a book about how to think about and use control needs to have more specific models of how it works. A book geared toward dominants needs to offer us more guidelines or at least a reading list to help us find out more information on our own. This does not mean that the discussion about the importance of control in Ds isn't good; it does mean that I think it could be much better.
This book was a great read! Lots of useful information for someone still trying to grasp all the control-related levels of being a Dominant. Concepts are explained using simple language that gets the point across in a manner with which most (if not all) readers can connect. Lots of examples drive these concepts to the core. Perhaps the most beneficial aspect of the book is the Discussion topics provided both at the conclusion of each section and the end of the book; an entire chapter listing nothing but topics left to the reader for consideration. I recommend this title for those Dominants new to the lifestyle aspect of D/s. Especially those who have already read some of "staple" titles (Different Loving, Masters Manual, etc) but are still left with foggy ideas about the details of the *psychological* aspect of control, having control and maintaining control.
About the Book - The Control Book
- Paperback: 200 pages
- Publisher: CreateSpace (July 28, 2009)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1442173866
- ISBN-13: 978-1442173866
- Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.5 x 0.6 inches
- The Author: Peter Masters
About the Author - Peter Masters
Peter Masters lives in Sydney, Australia. Exploring domination and control of members of the fairer sex is a life-long passion. Since the mid/late 90's, Peter has written and published a number of articles on dominance and submission. He also participates in local conferences, and runs an occasional workshop. For a number of years he also chaired or co-chaired-sometimes-weekly and sometimes-monthly-D&S discussion meetings based in Sydney. He is the author of This Curious Human Phenomenon ("An exploration of some uncommonly explored aspects of BDSM") and Look Into My Eyes (a book about hypnosis and sex) .
