A Good Spanking
A submissives journey
sensual spanking experience can start long, hours or even days, before the
actual spanking. For some people, the anticipation of the event is often more
exciting than the event itself. One thing you can do to heighten anticipation is
to go toy shopping together. Check out your local kink shop. If you don't have
one in the area, beauty supply stores, kitchen shops, hard wares, pharmacies,
pet stores, and tack shops offer a great selection. Another thing you can do is
to simply talk about what is going to happen. Tell your sub what you will use on
her. Tell her what position you are going to put her in. Let your imagination
run wild. Another fun trick is to tell your submissive *exactly* what time she will
be spanked later in the day. Then, call her with the countdown every once in
awhile. I guarantee there will be nothing else on her mind all day long.
you are going out to dinner that evening.
that she doesn't wear any panties, and when you get to the restaurant, have her
slide her skirt out from beneath her. Bare skin against a leather seat is
oh-so-delicious, and puts the focus exactly where it ought to be.
the time comes to start the actual festivities, heighten the anticipation a
little bit more. Stand her in the corner. Or, send her for the toys
lady, bring me the hairbrush" is likely to send shivers up her spine and
down to her, uhm, toes. Perhaps you would like to send her to the bedroom to
"prepare herself" and wait for you. Maybe you would enjoy putting her
in position over the arm of the sofa to wait while you finish the evening paper,
or make that phone call. Again, use your imagination to draw the fun out.
it is time for the actual spanking. I like to start over the clothes, with slow,
firm strokes of the hand. Take your time, there is no need to rush. When you get
tired at looking at her skirt, slowly raise it up to her waist. With each inch,
you will probably be able to feel her excitement grow. Go through the same
routine over her panties...slow, firm strokes ...making sure to spread them over
the entire bottom.
a lot of people, the "taking off of the panties" is a big part of the
excitement. Tell her you are going to "spank her on the bare". Tell
her when it is time for her panties to come down. Then, take them down slowly
... inch by inch ...until you have them in a position that is pleasing to you.
Or, maybe you want to bring them down in one jerk....allowing her to feel a
surprising rush of cool air on an already-warmed rear. Variety is the spice!
things to remember while you spank: Technique is very important.
A relaxed hand,
fingers closed, is usually a much more pleasant sensation than keeping the hand
stiff and rigid. Try it on yourself. See the difference?
Take care to vary the
placement of your strokes, and make sure you cover the whole bottom. For most
people the "sweet spot" is the lower part of the rear...right above
where the thighs and buttocks meet. Make sure to pay special attention to that
area, but don't forget any others! While three or four spanks in a row on the
same area is exciting, many more than that can often become unpleasant. Vary
your intensity. Give her a few soft ones and surprise her with some hard.
Chances are, you will love the reaction. Also vary the speed. Going from slow,
even strokes to quick, choppy strokes can keep things from getting boring.
watch on what you are doing and how her bottom changes color. Be careful to
avoid any areas that are bruising, or turning a white, bloodless color.
you decide your submissive has had enough, it is time for the aftercare. Ice is always nice,
as is cool, soothing lotion. And both are such fun to apply! Make sure you give
her plenty of hugs and cuddles. This is the time to let her know how much you
care about her, and how happy she makes you by taking what you dish out.