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Above all else he cherishes his submissive, in the knowledge that the
gift she gives him is the greatest of all.
He is demanding and takes full
advantage of the power given to him, but knows how to share the pleasure
that comes from that precious gift.
He is in control of himself
first and foremost, so that he may control others. As a stern and
demanding Dominant, he can cause his sub to cry real tears. As the
consummate lover, he will then kiss the tears away, without ever
stepping out of character.
In times of trouble, a
Dominant will leave the roles behind, to be a supportive friend and
partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship
between two caring individuals. He is quick to understand the
differences between fantasy and reality. He would never ask a submissive
to put him before her career, or family, just to satisfy his own
To win his submissive's mind, body and soul, he
knows he must first win her trust. He will show his submissive humor,
kindness, and warmth. He must also show her that his guidance and
tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of her attention, that this is a
man she can learn from, and trust his direction.
He is romantic enough to be
protective and chivalrous. When called upon, he will fight for his
ladies' honor. He proves to her that he is someone she can lean on, and
He is old-fashioned enough to be a bit of a
chauvinist, yet modern enough to respect his woman. Quick to point out
the differences between them, he also knows there is no inferiority in
When it comes time to teach his submissive her
lessons of obedience, he is a strong and unyielding professor. He will
accept no flaw, nothing less than perfection from his student. Never
does he use discipline without good reason. When he does, it is always
with a knowledgeable and careful hand.
He is a careful guide, with
safety always his main concern. He knows how to use pain to extend the
bounds of pleasure. He is a mentor who can bring her to the edges of her
envelope, and gently show her the inner courage to reach new heights.
He is always open to
communication and discussion, always ready to hear her wants and needs.
He is patient, taking the time to learn her limits, and knowing that as
her trust of him grows, so will they.
He never has to demand ritual
behavior by her. She responds to him out the want of pleasing him.
Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment.
He understands the fragile nature of mind and body, and never violates
the trust given to him.
He is secure enough to laugh at himself and the
absurdities of life. Courageous enough to accept assistance. Open minded
enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow. His tools are mind,
body, spirit and soul with a little help from rope, paddle and
blindfold. He understands that each partner gains most from pleasuring
the other. And both of them know that love is the only binding that
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